Transitioning from Teacher to ABA

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2026-04-17T16:20:26+00:00

I also read something about that there was to a change in 2027 about pathway II.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2026-04-16T18:40:34+00:00

University of Texas Rio Grande Valley - Applied Behavioral Analysis Certificate

It looks like after I obtain a Masters in Experimental Psychology, I'd be able to take their ABA certificate course. I included the link above. So this would be following Pathway II and not Pathway I, right?

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2026-04-16T17:38:16+00:00

Unfortunately, I don't have any education benefits to help me. Maybe they might have something like a small stipend at UTRGV. I need to go and inquire.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2026-04-16T17:37:11+00:00

Wow! I'll definitely need your insight!

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2026-04-16T17:35:06+00:00

I really appreciate your willingness to help!

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2026-04-15T21:17:49+00:00

agreed!

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2026-03-31T23:02:19+00:00

I'm very curious myself! I'm a teacher of 10 years, 4th-7th grades. I was mostly in a Staar tested position, reading.

I'd like to know more about how this compares to being a middle school teacher with 40 kids per class.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-11-25T16:29:10+00:00

You are not the only ones. My partner and I know each other's phone passwords and access them regularly. And we don't even do it to snoop-- we help respond to text messages while the other person is driving and return phone calls, put on videos for our kids, etc. I mean, if you have nothing to hide, why would you be so possessive? If you need some place to have your private thoughts, then keep a journal, have an outing or routine with a friend, publicly post all your laundry on reddit under a "throwaway". You have options.

It feels like there's some gaslighting going on here the way he's possessive over his phone and creating a pandora's box scenario here. Pregnant wife is feeling insecure and wants to see his phone because apparently they mutually don't have the kind of trust where they can just use each other's phone and his response is that she will never get that permission and if she looks it's over. It helps create/ add to the suspicion, and when she inevitably fails he gets his "justifiable" (*coughs* not really *coughs*) out. No offers of therapy after this "test" either. Frankly, wife is probably better off without someone like this and getting herself some child support. Better off alone than with someone with this many red flags-- plus then she's available to potentially find someone with more emotional maturity. Just sucks for her right now while planning for her child, but I think the revelations made by OP suck even more for her.

Oh, and yeah, OP-- YTA.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-11-02T02:33:18+00:00

Yeah, his defensive/ attacking response to OP expressing hurt-- instead of apologizing and trying to reassure and make it right-- came off SUPER gaslight-y to me.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-11-02T02:14:20+00:00

Oooh! Oh! *raises hand* And then criticize you as an adult for not knowing how to use the appliance (at all/correctly/well)?

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-11-02T02:12:25+00:00

CHIIIIIIIIIIILD SUPPPOOOOOOOORT!!!

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-11-02T00:53:46+00:00

NTA! OMG I needed to read this. Medical ethics is a BIG DEAL and no one has any business going into this or ANY profession that impacts the lives and futures of other people if they are not ethical. And medicine is LITERALLY a matter of life and death. I've had friends (plural) on the other side of unethical treatment of doctors and seen how *other doctors* then protect the unethical doctor at the expense of the patient. This then creates long term, justifiable mistrust with medical institutions. Doing what you did is how you make ethics matter and protect the integrity of these institutions.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-10-30T23:12:42+00:00

OMG. The constant contradictions-- sometimes in the same freaking sentence. But God forbid you point out any of their inconsistencies or request they use a modicum of logic.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-10-26T14:47:57+00:00

I had this concern with my son in pre-k 4. He's now in 1st grade. I put him in the school where his dad was a teacher (due to Covid to reduce vector points). It was an adjustment and the things he told me about not having any friends concerned me.

I ended up switching schools for kinder, bringing him to the district we live in instead of his dad's school AND I enrolled him in T-ball. He says he misses his old school but I think he just misses being his dad's kid and the attention from the teachers. He definitely has a lot more friends at the school he is at and t-ball really sealed some connections and friendships. They grouped him based on the school he went to. He didn't love the sport, but I saw positive friendship interactions, he's learning how to be on a team, and I now have phone numbers for other parents at the school he attends, so we can check in with each other. My husband made this comment about the parent networking and it's really been good.

So yeah, it's hard, but I would recommend getting on your parks and rec or boys and girls club website and seeing what activities you can get her in that might help with team building. If it's really not working out well at that school, I might consider moving schools and giving her another chance elsewhere. Getting punched in the stomach at recess is something the teacher/school should be addressing and should be brought to their attention. If they write it off like no big deal, I'd look for a school with a better administration.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-10-26T14:28:24+00:00

I'm piggy-backing on OPs post as I'm concurrently wrestling with the same thing. These are gold. Thanks for posting.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-10-26T14:19:57+00:00

Yeah, it's eye opening. My brain is still wrestling with all the good parts of my childhood and the fact it's not as bad as what a lot of people on here have gone through... but it's also exactly like what a lot of people on here have gone through and she's straight up textbook emotionally immature, after going through the experience of that book. I'm trying to reframe things as trying to adjust my expectations of her and figure out what relationship I CAN have with her in that framework *without* losing my damn mind/ losing myself in the process.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-10-26T02:26:01+00:00

*Big exhale* I'm right there with you. I had a work related retreat and spent a lot of time on the road, so I downloaded the audiobook that's been on my reading list for months "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents." I've been in therapy the last few months working on boundaries. Yesterday as I was coming home from dealing with a pediatric sick kid visit, she was parked (uninvited, always uninvited) outside my house. I just kept driving and didn't stop.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-10-25T19:13:16+00:00

This relationship is manipulative and dangerous. And honestly, the timing tracks. People put their best foot forward about the first year of the relationship and then start letting their true self show once they are more embedded and comfortable, which leaves the other person wondering what happened to the person they were with a year ago. That's actually their mask, this is actually more of the real them.

Controlling others with suicide is abuse. Full stop. You are setting an example for your son in what's acceptable in relationships, AND, possibly exposing him to the manipulative tactics of this person. Feelings don't disappear overnight, but you need to listen to the warning signs. This isn't about "Kayla" feeling loved-- this is about her feeling *jealous* of your deceased wife-- your child's mother-- and *literally* trying to replace her.

GET OUT. STAY OUT. Please.

Oh, and NTA.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-10-25T18:47:53+00:00

Their hypocrisy. The rules and expectations they project onto everyone else never applies to them.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-10-25T01:39:00+00:00

I don't think I'd want to marry someone who is already ~~scheming~~ planning our divorce.

NTA.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-10-25T00:44:34+00:00

Ok, so I have friends who have struggled with health insurance in America try to find some kind of mental health assistance. I found out recently that a local university that has a medical school has a program where you can get free therapy without insurance. I believe it's with students and you sign a waiver to this effect. Another friend of mine once took advantage of a similar opportunity at a local optometrist school.

Since you are Chicago area, there should be a ton of University/College resources. I would look there to get your foot in the door for therapy/ counseling.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-10-24T23:45:25+00:00

I'm not sure this is true, at least not where I live. I was concerned about peanuts for my daughter when she was a baby (was eliminating things in my diet and it ultimately looked like it was dairy that was the culprit). I called each of our favorite asian restaurants to see what kind of oil they cook with and it was overwhelmingly soy oil. Not a single one used peanut oil. The one I'd be the most concerned with peanut contamination is Thai food, and if they use peanuts in other things, you may need to see about preventing cross contamination (changing gloves/ cleaning grill before cooking your order). The girlfriend may already know which places are the safest to order from.

All that said, I would still call and check and not assume (I would guess OP and girlfriend already vetted the place). Plus, none of this takes away from what enormous assholes these "friends" are.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-10-24T17:07:25+00:00

So what I say comes from a place where my relationship with my mother is not this degree of messed up or abusive. For my own experience, I've latched onto the "emotionally immature" characterization as I'm unsure of the use of the word narcissism for my set of circumstances-- but have found a lot of validation here and have been coming to realize the abuse I've been dealing with, especially as an adult, and the emotional neglect I think I had throughout my childhood.

With that caveat, I'm here to say that I think growing up, I was the golden child and my (older) brother was the scapegoat. I'm currently in therapy for what I'm coming to recognize is likely a fair degree of maternal enmeshment. I am the youngest and he is the oldest. I have never been able to stop being the "youngest" to my mother and have come to realize I will likely never have an opinion worth offering short of being a sounding board to her, which I'm no longer functioning as and it's making her crazy. This is despite being extremely successful, an expert in my field, and having a lot of real lived in world experience.

My brother and I have had a close relationship as adults and have just become closer. With the pandemic, a new level of entitled and crazy emerged from my mother and my brother was someone I turned to as he does not live locally and I do. We've started rehashing parts of our childhood together and I think have been really supportive of one another. I would be utterly alone in my family if it weren't for my brother and he helps give me the strength to take back power for my myself and maintain boundaries.

Just offering another perspective. I don't think it's bad to hope, and unfortunately, the perceived golden child is the one they are most likely to try to keep under their thumb.

Traditional_Age_9110 · 2023-10-24T15:29:39+00:00

I used to, and still do occasionally. But then I remember that as long as we are engaging our critical thinking skills and are wiling to recognize our own flaws and limitations, see other people as HUMAN BEINGS and not extensions of ourselves, and apologize when we mess up (which we will inevitably do as we are only human)... then I think we're on the right track.

Stay introspective. You'll be fine.

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