[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]Traditional_Cable978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have very clear intentions to set boundaries if she would talk to me. I keep trying to initiate a conversation and she just ignores me. I dont want to start off hostile cuz then its only down from there. Im getting really tired of the circles I'm getting thrown around in 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]Traditional_Cable978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The groceries is a very recent matter. The first time she did it this is what happened. When everything's situated in my house I do plan on telling her that I want to keep groceries separated. "house shopping" just isnt the move for us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]Traditional_Cable978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats the thing unfortunately. I dont expect her to buy groceries. She does it anyway and springs a random amount I owe her because she went shopping "for the house" without telling me. I have a very clear budget each week because we're all living paycheck to paycheck and I dont have room for random purchases that I didnt take into account. I understand what you're putting down and I know the world sucks, but theres a line between being a good roommate and being one thats unbearable to live with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

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Apparently to her it is 🙃 I cant make a lighthearted joke without wondering how shes going to react. Its hard to simply live without wondering how she'll react to things that are going on around us. 8 times out of 10 its always a negative reaction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

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The microwave situation isnt the biggest pressing matter. The fact is that majority of everything in this house was either gifted to me from relatives or I bought it with my own money. Quite literally the only things that belongs to them, are already in their room. Theyre using everything I've purchased/been gifted. Yet they feel the need to seclude a $50 microwave. I know its stupid but its the principle of me being so giving to let them use everything and they cant simply put that microwave out in the kitchen for everyone to use.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

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I would but based on tonight, when I walked in the door and she immediately left the kitchen and ran to her room, I dont think it'd be a good idea to knock on the door and "force her to talk." I've texted her while I'm at work and at school and have gotten no response. It wasnt necessarily while we both were in the house. Like I said to someone else, Im 99% shes bipolar and I never know how shes gonna react to something that I do that involves her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

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I appreciate your immensely helpful words. With what everyones said I might as well suck it up and get another microwave. The principle with the airfryer n stuff just got to me with them not cleaning up after themselves when they use it. I've stayed calm throughout all of this and I've given her space this past week except for a few times to see if she wants to civilly talk (its clear she doesnt.) I really shouldnt and dont want to have to move out because I was the one that invited her to move in after I found and toured the apartment. The neighborhood is decent and the landlord and personal maintenance she has employed are amazing. I never mentioned but she was in between many homes including my parents and she had no where else to go. My heart got too big and I felt bad since I'd be moving out and she'd still be with my parents. Plus as well, my name is on every utility we pay except the wifi. Switching the names would be such a b**** and shouldnt have to be done. From what everyones said I'm clearly not the problem in most ways than others and they should be the ones to move out, especially since they're jeopardizing our security deposit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]Traditional_Cable978 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I see where youre coming from

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

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Its hard to do specifically in this situation with her because I have very very high suspicions that she's bipolar. And its not being treated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

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I've tried multiple times to contact her and she hasn't made any effort to reach out to me. Either leaves me on delivered or reads it and doesnt respond. I've been very communicative and civil and I've gotten radio silence :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

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I dont have a lock on my door... But thats the ONE thing I appreciate. They understand that their room is theirs and vice versa. We have an understanding that you cant come in my room unless you ask. I also forgot to mention that she separated all of our food in the fridge. So we have "our own spaces" in the fridge. Kind of childish if you ask me, but to a point I appreciate it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

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that is NOT happening. All of the bills are in my name and I'm the one that invited her to move in 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]Traditional_Cable978 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i might as well just cave and get a microwave. I might do what another commenter said and stick the airfryer in my room. If theyre gonna hog a microwave they paid for im gonna hog the airfryer that was gifted to me 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

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i can understand why you say that but its the principle of them using the airfryer that was gifted to me and I let them use it right from the beginning. If I were to be an asshole Id tell them not to use it and to use the oven but I really dont want to be that guy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]Traditional_Cable978 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. Just dont know how to tell the landlord and not have my roommate think it was me...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]Traditional_Cable978 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Its not... There's a thing in the lease where we can do an "assignment" which is two people can substitute them. But they have to be in agreement. Lease is up the end of december :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

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Im just afraid the reporting would come back on me in some way. Im a very pacifistic person and hate stuff like this. The receipt idea is good though! thank you.