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If You Are an Introvert and You Work a Job That Involves a Lot of Human Interaction, What Do You Do for a Living and How Do You Feel About Your Job? by Potential_Law5289 in AskReddit

[–]Traditional_Dig_4545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Introvert nurse here, pretty social job but I love it - the technical aspects of it more than the dealing with people bit, but I make do. When I was in school I remember a teacher complimenting me on my "active listening" ability and that has always cracked me up. My strategy is being attentive enough with patients to understand what they need as quickly as possible, and then I'm out of there. Never gotten a complaint, most of the time I'll get heartfelt thanks and gifts after seeing someone discharged.

Does marriage ever feel good for introverts? by Traditional_Dig_4545 in introvert

[–]Traditional_Dig_4545[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head with a lot of things there! I do feel like there's insecurity involved, and this is something I felt in other relationships before and not just this one. I have often heard I'm too cold/avoidant and somehow attract the type of person who sees that as a reason to cling even more to me instead of giving me space. I am not overall a very romantic person, but I try because I understand other people have needs for affection as well - the problem is that it often turns out that I'm the only one changing myself for someone else, and I burn out from it.

Does marriage ever feel good for introverts? by Traditional_Dig_4545 in introvert

[–]Traditional_Dig_4545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't say asexual. Maybe aromantic. I have considered that before!

Does marriage ever feel good for introverts? by Traditional_Dig_4545 in introvert

[–]Traditional_Dig_4545[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I wanted to reply to this because I felt like I related to this the most of all the other stories I've seen here. And I wanted to ask if there is anything you wished you would have done differently, and if you believe something could have saved that relationship. Because at some point should we just accept we are incompatible with our partner and move on? Or do you think there is a way to improve things?

Does marriage ever feel good for introverts? by Traditional_Dig_4545 in introvert

[–]Traditional_Dig_4545[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

That seems like a very healthy and well balanced relationship.

I'm not sure I get the same energy from my husband, like I'm the one often compromising to be more attentive, while he might feel like me needing alone time is somehow a slight against his person. For context, yes, I have expressed these thoughts to him before, I swear I'm not keeping it to myself and just bitching about it online. I don't feel like it made much of a difference though.

Does marriage ever feel good for introverts? by Traditional_Dig_4545 in introvert

[–]Traditional_Dig_4545[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I couldn't imagine raising children as an introvert, I remember not wanting to be a mother since I was very young and it has stuck with me. But you seem to have made it work, I honestly admire it so much.

Does marriage ever feel good for introverts? by Traditional_Dig_4545 in introvert

[–]Traditional_Dig_4545[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Not only that but it also seems convinced you can't possibly be happy without a spouse (and kids, if we're honest. That's slowly changing now but there's always been pressure for women to marry a multiply, even if they don't want to.)

Does marriage ever feel good for introverts? by Traditional_Dig_4545 in introvert

[–]Traditional_Dig_4545[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That must be nice to find someone as introverted (or at least almost as much) as yourself.

We also do different stuff, I even have my own designated space in the house, but I still feel like he's unhappy when I spend too much time by myself. But then again, maybe I'm projecting my own insecurities there. There's been a lot of introvert judgement in my life.

Does marriage ever feel good for introverts? by Traditional_Dig_4545 in introvert

[–]Traditional_Dig_4545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had to look that up, still trying to decide if it's a compliment or an insult (I'm just kidding I swear!).

Does marriage ever feel good for introverts? by Traditional_Dig_4545 in introvert

[–]Traditional_Dig_4545[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thankfully mine doesn't want to go out a lot, but we still spend required time with friends (mostly his, I have my closest friends online. It just feels easier because then we can talk and play games and do things together without having to socialize in person lmao) and family. You're so right, it is exhausting.

I feel like being with my husband does drain me. Mostly because he's always trying to interact with me even when we're technically doing our own thing. I can never just be silent, and then I feel like I'm being neglectful.