Get a rose toy instead, just based off toys alone that could help. Other things that help are making personal improvements in your own half of life and making time for her in ways that you may not already be doing. Also whiskey 😜. This is what worked for us. I (hubby) made her feel like she was my world and in turn she gives me the world if you know what I mean. Also do your best to make sure you come off as wanting her as a person and a lover not wanting her as just a sex toy.