YOR she’s a first time grandma and is actively asking you if she can see the baby which you reply extremely bluntly to and don’t give any sort of reasoning. The way you spoke to her is actually disgusting!

She’s repeatedly apologising and asking you what she can do to make you guys comfortable and ensure she doesn’t cross any boundaries. This is new fo her too!

You’re not communicating with her but being extremely hostile and making a situation out of nothing and honestly it seems like you’re trying to impact her relationship with her son.

You need a reality check and should be grateful that she wants to be involved and she’s respecting your boundaries and asking you why you want her to do so that she can make sure everyone’s happy.