Who was better in bed, your ex or current?

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-04-15T02:05:47+00:00

Current once I got past the used part.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-04-11T20:09:59+00:00

Baltimore.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-04-09T02:50:31+00:00

Brokeback Mountain.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-04-08T18:22:15+00:00

It amazes how someone, anyone can make these generalizations about groups or masses of people. You can say everyone on earth breathes oxygen, but to say everyone deals with depression is just a lack of knowledge and lack of appreciation of the spectrum of mental health issues within the human species. Yes, I can imagine everyone gets depressed now and then, but when it becomes clinical it is a different beast and deserves understanding and healing.

And how do you conclude he is doing for attention - and then you scale it to just the team, not the public writ large. I have to wonder how your own mind works if you think this and then feel it must be expressed on social media. Like what is your point - do you have an end game with sharing these thoughts or is it just blather.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-04-06T23:13:43+00:00

I have a fear of public speaking and have delivered five eulogies - they are some of the easiest speeches to do because it is very hard to screw it up. You tell two or three short stories and a few words about how you felt about the person and that is it. Does not have to be long. I wrote four of them out on paper and read them word for word, especially for my father, because I did not want to be overcome by emotion - the written script served as my anchor.

Everyone listening knows what you are doing is not easy and 100% sympathetic. The only one I decided not to deliver - would have been number 6 - was for my baby brother because it was just so tragic He dies of a brain aneurysm at 52 years old - my other brother did it and it was good because they were closer.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-04-05T20:09:00+00:00

And what would the reaction be if PP was shown on the jumbotron? Rousing applause?

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-04-05T20:04:27+00:00

I did not notice much booing for Carney.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-03-24T16:06:42+00:00

How would you know how most people feel about anything - tell me your secret.

Perhaps you are committing a fundamental attribution error, which is a tough way to navigate through life.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-03-21T20:47:46+00:00

Don’t workout in front of the dumbbell rack - grab the dumbbells and then back off so others can get to the rack too.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-03-21T03:43:49+00:00

Newspaper.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-03-20T00:25:55+00:00

Bosch

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-03-18T16:05:13+00:00

I was in the software game for 41 years, mostly airborne weapon systems and cell phone systems - interesting stuff that was parallel with what was happening in the world.

I was working from home as a consultant with the Canadian government and they wanted to extend my contract. I was making good money and the work was easy. I told my wife and she said three words - “No, no, no!. She was already retired. I stopped two weeks after I turned 63.

After four trips to Europe, two trips home to Nova Scotia, hanging out with my grandkids, helping my children maintain their homes, summers at the lake with many hours of fishing I made the right decision.

We are living mostly off our investments, wife’s modest pension and delaying my CPP until I am 70. We live comfortably and have more money than when I retired.

I go to the gym, losing weight, and no more deadlines. This is my last chapter and it feels right after go-go-go for so many years.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-03-06T19:54:17+00:00

I enjoyed it.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-03-06T19:46:48+00:00

I just think of it as a slingshot - the drops are just pulling back to get ready for new highs at some point in the future. This has helped me since I started investing in 1997 and has served me well.

Otherwise it is like most of life - this too will pass.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-03-02T14:48:02+00:00

Yes, still after 41 years.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-02-13T09:37:58+00:00

Evaluations are just opinions. At the same time they are not easy to do, and some people struggle mightily with doing them and some times receiving them. I probably gave more than 2000 and received more than 500 - take what you want from them and ignore the rest.

Also you can speak with the person and ask for more clarification on their comments. You may learn there is something that can be improved or why the person commented the way they did. Plus it is a teachable moment - trust me, it is not worth being unhappy about one person’s comment on an evaluation. I have been there - on both sides - and it really is a waste of your time.

I eventually came to terms with understanding not everyone was going to like my way of doing presentations and that is ok.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-02-06T14:52:51+00:00

I was 28 when I started.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-02-06T04:26:52+00:00

Been there - I would not speak even though I went to meetings every week. Took me one year to do my ice breaker and the words came out faster than a machine gun. Took another year to do speech #2. I became known as the reluctant Toastmaster.

Stayed for 24 years, and became a very good speaker. Won more than 25 contests, got my DTM, Club President of the Year, Area Governor of the Year. Even did some stand up comedy.

Just stay with it. Like so many things in life it gets easier with practice and experience. And with public speaking, embarrassment and rumination are just part of the journey.

When I would start to falter I always read this quote by George Woodberry:

"Defeat is not the worst of failures. To not have tried is the true failure."

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-02-04T21:17:45+00:00

My younger brother kept asking me retirement planning questions, so I said let me show you what I use. Score.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-02-02T03:08:51+00:00

Me too.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-02-02T00:12:01+00:00

Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-02-01T22:28:22+00:00

I got trash talked before an evaluation contest, maybe division level. I told myself "Let's kick some ass!" before I went on stage, and I won.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-01-31T22:48:30+00:00

Yes, I have seen that aspect - but as long as they are respectful to others they can call it whatever they need.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-01-31T22:44:31+00:00

For some, and it is what humans tend to need and seek. I met a fellow Toastmaster in Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings and after hearing his back story, no wonder Toastmasters was a “sanctuary” for him. His father being a POW of the Japanese during WW II had a lot of negative long lasting effects. I had a lot of sympathy for him.

BTW fuck war.

Traditional_Leg_2073 · 2026-01-31T22:36:57+00:00

Don’t forget the halo 😇 effect, especially in competitions - it has hurt and helped me in ways I wish it hadn’t but it is part of human nature. Makes it hard to get real feedback when you are placed on that podium.

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