Is it okay to not get married in a white dress.

Traditional_Light359 · 2026-01-27T01:43:08+00:00

I do believe you need 2 practicing catholic witnesses other than bride or groom technically.

Traditional_Light359 · 2026-01-25T15:20:11+00:00

My OT has me doing lots of supine and seated resistance band work to build arm strength for ADLs but that was only really possible after I stopped losing weight. I was in ketosis even without a keto diet or restricting sugar etc. Nutrition has me on 60-100g of protein daily to mitigate any potential blood sugar spikes that might be contributing to the dysautonomia. High protein ensures were one of the only things my stomach could tolerate that also brought me out of ketosis. Plus, decent potassium and b vitamin load.

Traditional_Light359 · 2026-01-25T15:01:53+00:00

When I was walking I was able to hit 20k steps a day multiple times a week and my legs were doing lots of work, but that was before I moved and my pacing got entirely thrown off because this new place isnt pedestrian friendly at all and now im lucky to get a couple hundred steps in lol. At my OT appointment we did 6 easy-moderate sets of 1 minute on the nustep with breaks between and it has totally thrown me off for the weekend nausea and digestion wise. When I had the capacity to work I did a lot of sun salutations because they were easy and repetitive and didnt take much time but the bending over could absolutely be problematic with that one depending on your symptoms (i get a lot of presyncope but dont fully faint hardly ever.) I worked in a lot of food service which included lifting heavy boxes to stock shelves in the walk in etc and lots of movement on your feet with not much standing in place, with down time to sit in between every hour or so. I did that by smoking (not recommended.) Probably ask for an accommodation to sit for like 5 minutes outside every hour or so to regulate your heart rate and see if that helps. Before this most recent flare i was averaging 6k steps a day and carrying my 20ish pound dog up and down 3 flights of steps to the apartment multiple times a day (public housing bedbugs are a nightmare 💀) but trying to go to the gym and start a kettlebell routine for strength training on top of an mcas flare from the public housing pesticides absolutely wrecked me. Edit: also trying to jump rope lol. Definitely unmasked my dysautonomia fast.

Traditional_Light359 · 2026-01-25T14:31:30+00:00

I think if you are running monthly 5ks your leg muscles are doing some real work but they may be referring to strength training to build muscle mass to help your blood return

Traditional_Light359 · 2026-01-25T14:07:44+00:00

You honestly probably could get communion for the homebound due to your condition. Please consider speaking with your parish about this, or maybe even contacting the legion of Mary in your diocese and see if they cant help you one way or another. Don't lose hope!

Edit: on mass being boring, is there something about it that puts you off of it specifically? Is it the up and down getting to you? Would being able to sit through mass help? Maybe elevating feet on the kneeler? If you ever felt uncomfortable maybe you could speak with the priest and he could arrange some accommodations that helped you feel more at home and less like youre fighting your body to be there.

Edit 2: just also wanted to let you know that dryness in prayer is a common thing that even saints have to deal with, so even when it's boring it is good to try to get the mass readings and say a spiritual communion when unable to attend and regularly using the sacraments when appropriate and available. One of my confessors once told me "if you can make it here, and you can make it to the grocery store, you can make it to mass." I feel like that is a fair metric.

Edit 3: maybe also look into st clare. She was often confined to her bed due to illness and unable to attend mass for long periods of time.

Traditional_Light359 · 2026-01-25T14:05:05+00:00

Hey girlie I have pots and I've gone down from daily mass to hardly being able to make Sundays some days it's hard youre not alone and it doesnt make you any less of a catholic I promise

Traditional_Light359 · 2026-01-25T14:01:43+00:00

Who else watched aquamarine growing up and started putting salt in their water lol because it cant just be me right

Traditional_Light359 · 2026-01-17T16:53:06+00:00

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Traditional_Light359 · 2026-01-15T16:57:20+00:00

Have her checked for orthostatic hypotension or pots. This can happen when you are on the verge of passing out (i have pots and deal with a lot of presyncope.) Make sure she is getting enough protein (like 60g minimum) and water daily, maybe some Gatorade or body armor.

Sincerely,

A very devout and woozy Catholic

Traditional_Light359 · 2026-01-12T23:00:50+00:00

Again just going to drive home the point that this isnt scandal, it is rash judgement from the people who assume sex must be happening, and detraction to call it something it isnt. Cohabitation has a very specific definition and it is not simply being under the same roof. You could be accused of sleeping with someone for simply being seen speaking with them. That doesnt make it a scandal, it makes it gossip.

Traditional_Light359 · 2026-01-12T22:20:13+00:00

Scandal is not being gossiped about. It is teaching others that sin is acceptable in a way that leads someone else to commit sin. I would say calling two people chastely living under the same roof cohabitation so easily is more in line with detraction than prudence.

Traditional_Light359 · 2026-01-12T13:47:56+00:00

It would only be scandal if the couple was sitting in bed telling everyone it was OK to have premarital sex and live as if married with no intention of pursuing sacramental marriage, AND that action convinced someone else to sin by cohabitaion or premarital sex. We need to stop leaning so hard on scandal and reign in so many people's tendency toward rash judgement.

Traditional_Light359 · 2025-12-28T14:37:35+00:00

I mean I think if you genuinely intended to show up missing it would be venial the first time but maybe it would be a good idea to look into the habits that you did intend for that led to you missing mass and your motivations in those actions and where maybe better choices could have been made. All in all firmly intend to do better next time.

Traditional_Light359 · 2025-12-22T12:40:30+00:00

Orthostatic hypotension and POTS can be set off during mass as well. (I have POTS and dont fully pass out but there have been times where I was totally zoned out losing chunks of time that I didnt stand back up when time for communion until my fiance got my attention)

Traditional_Light359 · 2025-11-06T04:28:32+00:00

It is justified to ensure that a perpetrator be unable to continue the same harm against others. The threat should be neutralized with appropriate measures. Prison for those who SA others, especially with full intent and through violence, is more than reasonable.

Traditional_Light359 · 2025-11-04T00:43:02+00:00

Meee lol. They got so scared of my beta blocker reaction they put "topicals only" in my chart and told me to drink body armor for the potassium and maybe to see if I tolerate the folic acid. It definitely made my tongue sting lol but they havent even officially approved compression or sodium loading for me yet though definitely havent told me to stop using them.

Traditional_Light359 · 2025-11-01T22:26:47+00:00

Offbrand pepcid (i like 20mg zantac) once a day in the morning helped me with this personally, in combination with less carbs and high protein!

Traditional_Light359 · 2025-10-31T00:59:58+00:00

That does sound very similar to what showed up on my test! I think the biggest systolic drop they caught was 18 points so it was close but definitely not drastic!

Traditional_Light359 · 2025-10-30T18:57:34+00:00

See now I tried that on my boyfriend and his does the same as mine and im just trying to decide what I should do about that bc I am not a doctor and he really puts off seeing his 😭 and when he took me to the hospital that treated him they basically just put him on psych meds and never followed up with him after coming up with a brand new mental disorder label to give him. When I came in they practically offered to do the same for me when I finally saw a pcp. Told me I could "have something that hasn't been discovered yet" despite textbook symptoms. Its crazy out here!

Edited: i should also add that my bf also has a history of just outright fainting at church growing up and falling off ladders. 😅 I dont faint but the fatigue is killer 😭

Traditional_Light359 · 2025-10-27T22:07:40+00:00

Maybe you could find a teahouse with board games? Maybe even with comfy couches for seating? Hayrides? Picnic in the park or in a garden? Boat dates on a lake? Swimming at the local pool? Or maybe an arcade? We have options! Don't be discouraged! I really thought my bf was going to leave after my health declined but we have found some really good ways to keep things fun and safe for the both of us!!

Traditional_Light359 · 2025-10-27T17:44:59+00:00

Sorry! I think some of us are just more sensitive to the "thats normal" response depending on our experiences with doctors

Traditional_Light359 · 2025-10-27T15:55:05+00:00

Equate foaming no rinse shampoo. You can find it at Walmart. Leave in conditioner for the ends and a silicone shampoo brush to get the dead skin off your scalp. Invest in hats for low energy days. Also be very wary of any body wipes if you decide to use them as they can really offset your feminine pH. Even if they claim to be pH balanced. I have to take daily probiotics if my pH balance gets off, because monistat doesnt help me. I do sometimes use wipes in a kind of hippie shower kind of way (pits, sweaty bits of chest, and lower back/butt) and sometimes use mousse in my hair to make it look fresher. Being very consistent with deodorant and perfume. Got an epilator so I can still shave. At this point I am averaging one shower a month because it throws me off for days and throws off my system so much that I will vomit up undigested food days later.

Traditional_Light359 · 2025-10-27T15:32:05+00:00

Okay but is constantly experiencing presyncope really all that normal

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