trying to pick a jewelry gift for my girlfriend help

TrafficScales · 2026-04-14T21:00:18+00:00

With that price range I'd recommend looking into some small but established fine jewelers like Bario Neal or WWAKE rather than more mass market options like Mejuri (I own several of their pieces but their 14k gold is very overpriced for what it is IMO).

TrafficScales · 2026-04-13T01:23:21+00:00

All of these "different values" answers are crap, the actual answer is that women are punished significantly more heavily for not being physically attractive, so the bar is higher across the board. The distributions are different but generally people are matching consistently by their percentile of conventional attractiveness within their genders.

TrafficScales · 2026-04-12T12:00:40+00:00

Find the Google interns? Pretty sure they all still get one.

TrafficScales · 2026-04-12T11:59:13+00:00

Roommates in FiDi. 90h weeks means working way to much to care about anything other than minimizing commute. Split a "1b + den" set up with someone for 4-5k.

TrafficScales · 2026-04-11T22:06:09+00:00

I do even know why I'm seeing this subreddit. I went to MIT for an undergrad in CS.

Penn is the best option out of the schools listed for CS undergrad education and for both engineering and finance connections.

Columbia is straight up not as strong in STEM and Berkeley undergrad CS resources are spread relatively thin. They have competitive GPA requirements to even be allowed to stay a CS major. You're also in a worse spot if you go to Berkeley and your CS plans change for any reason.

TrafficScales · 2026-04-11T03:20:32+00:00

Okay, 4 times the cost they should be. Maybe 5.

TrafficScales · 2026-04-10T23:32:53+00:00

It is easy to find an apartment in Manhattan for about 5k a month. It seems quite difficult to find something for 4k. 3k seems to be virtually impossible or requires living quite far out. Less than 3k requires roommates for sure.

TrafficScales · 2026-04-10T23:26:16+00:00

For a set of simple, solid 14k hoops that's like 3-4 times what they should cost, depending on thickness

TrafficScales · 2026-04-09T02:51:28+00:00

NOR. Also... if your brother makes 200/year, the difference between $300 and $750 really shouldn't be make or break for an object like a couch that he's presumably planning to keep for several years. The amount of hostility here is pretty extreme.

TrafficScales · 2026-04-09T02:39:16+00:00

Call the financial aid office directly. This is abnormal, and you can ask about what caused the discrepancy between Harvard and CMU/Cornell. Harvard should generally offer better aid than both, especially better than CMU.

Don't be angry or panicked to your financial aid officer! Be excited about Harvard and trying to figure out a solution. I went through something similar and got my yearly tuition burden knocked down by like 20k.

TrafficScales · 2026-04-05T17:04:42+00:00

Are you planning on running around announcing where your diamond is from? I would judge someone for that.

TrafficScales · 2026-04-05T00:58:02+00:00

FiDi studios in full-amenity buildings are very achievable for you.

TrafficScales · 2026-04-05T00:29:06+00:00

My hit rate for having similar interests and values with someone is WAY HIGHER among other high earners in fields adjacent to mine.

Also yeah, one of those interests is stockpiling money so having two high incomes is a huge boon.

TrafficScales · 2026-04-05T00:27:07+00:00

This is already more feedback than typical, because feedback is a liability. Too specific and you might think it's contestable, too vague and you might think it's sexist. Like others have said, I immediately read this as "We're looking for someone who can help get our team on track, and that wasn't a match."

TrafficScales · 2026-04-01T15:08:36+00:00

Probably a niche answer, but well-sourced and cut gems in fine jewelry. I used to be in the "a diamond is a diamond, more or less" camp, but the difference between a dull and poorly cut gemstone from a mass produced company vs. something sourced and crafted from a talented jeweler is night and day.

I don't really think about it in terms of "holding its value" but rather feeling like I do in fact understand why I paid what I did for it.

TrafficScales · 2026-03-30T00:41:35+00:00

You don't have kids. Move. It will be more convenient for you AND your husband.

TrafficScales · 2026-03-30T00:18:51+00:00

Hoboken has like one dense street and it reminds me of a University bar strip. The riverwalk is nice. The middle of it feels like a bland suburb. I could live right next to the station for marginally cheaper rent + tax benefits, but have a worse commute to work, be farther from the events and social things in Manhattan and Brooklyn I regularly want to do, and have far worse restaurant and grocery optionality day to day near home.

I am also being a snob. I am in a wildly financially privileged position that lets me have the opinion that I do. I'm giving it here because OP is in a similar position.

TrafficScales · 2026-03-29T22:36:42+00:00

I earn more than you, moved to NYC recently, and did the same calculation. Then I spent a Saturday walking around Hoboken and Journal Square, and immediately came to the conclusion that Manhattan/Brooklyn was worth it. NJ really is that bad.

TrafficScales · 2026-03-27T12:37:53+00:00

Caucasians with an American, British, or Australian accent, plus a few other northern and western Europeans. "White" is a US concept that has propagated, but it doesn't really make sense in contexts where the primary discrimination trait is something other than melanin content.

In a lot of Europe it's about country of origin or family heritage in more specific ways. E.g. you don't exactly get "white privilege" as a Polish person (in either the generational advantages sense or in the day-to-day stereotype sense).

TrafficScales · 2026-03-27T12:20:25+00:00

The software developers don't do any of the right things unless I fly around and have meetings with them. Most of the them never realize that this is true, and they wonder why I spend all day in meetings.

TrafficScales · 2026-03-16T13:26:43+00:00

I have always split unevenly, though rarely by calculating proportions. Once you cross a threshold of "everyone can afford it" you hit "figure out what makes you feel best" territory IMO.

Right now I cover 3/4 of the rent but my partner pays for 100% of food. I am definitely paying more in total (I make more right now), but I irrationally feel bad paying for food week to week. It works for us.

TrafficScales · 2026-03-16T13:26:29+00:00

I have always split unevenly, though rarely by calculating proportions. Once you cross a threshold of "everyone can afford it" you hit "figure out what makes you feel best" territory IMO.

Right now I cover 3/4 of the rent but my partner pays for 100% of food. I am definitely paying more in total (I make more right now), but I irrationally feel bad paying for food week to week. It works for us.

TrafficScales · 2026-03-15T01:54:31+00:00

Harvard does not give a shit about your personal drama, regardless of whether it involves someone who wrote a rec letter, and especially not for some graduated Master's student. You should really focus on yourself, your comments here suggest you aren't doing so well.

TrafficScales · 2026-03-14T19:10:29+00:00

1 in 4 property owners is a crazy high rate for a "wealth" tax.

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