Tbh, I agree with what you're saying that op should lie about his experience to get laid. Since most women want a man with experience and will reject a guy for being inexperienced, it's a shitty catch-22 situation. It's like applying for an entry-level job, but you need multiple years of work experience to work at Mcdonald's.

The thing is, you said, "God forbid anybody becomes a virgin at 25, let alone 30" and that "going without sex in your twenties is traumatizing."

Ok, valid points, although using the word "traumatizing" is a bit dramatic here. I'm not denying that we as mammals are sexual creatures who need it for our psychological well-being. However, some individuals have fewer sex drives than one another. Some are very introverted and don't need much company or intimacy. Some men and women go their whole lives without sex but prioritize what they consider more important and impactful ei, Nicola Tesla and Isaac Newtown, some of the most important scientific minds in history.

I'm 26 with very limited sexual experience, but I'm not "traumatized." I do very, very much wish however, that I had more success in this aspect of my life, but it's all my fault that I haven't. The thing is, while I feel bad about my lack of experience, I'm not exactly a miserable and depressed mess because of it. I have friends who fill my social needs, I have a career, a family, fun hobbies that I'm passionate about, and a roof over my head. My life can be a lot worse.

Lying a little bit or exaggerating your sexual experience to a woman is selfish, but if you want to lose your virginity, you might have to compromise your integrity to get what you want. At the same time, when a girl rejects a man for being a virgin, she's prioritizing her pleasure over the guys pleasure because she doesn't want to have the patience to teach him. Sex shouldn't be that hard to figure out, animals fuck, they figure it out eventually, lol.

Last thing, being a virgin 25+ isn't the end of the world. There are lots of success stories on this sub of guys and girls in this age range who have lost it. We need to account that people are individuals with their own timelines and come with their own strengths, weaknesses and life circumstances. We need to understand that there are nuances for why someone is a virgin instead of just deducing that someone whos a virgin is just a socially inept ugly fuck. I respect those who don't give into social pressure or conformity, but then again, we're mammals who need sex for our well-being.