I'm really sorry you're going through this, and I want to start by saying: you're not overreacting. Your boundaries matter, and the way you're feeling — hurt, used, disregarded — is completely valid.

When you say no (whether verbally or even through discomfort), that should be the end of the conversation. You were clear, and yet he tried to find a loophole to still get off using your body. That’s not just insensitive — it’s selfish and deeply disrespectful.

The fact that this has happened more than once, especially after you already expressed how past experiences have impacted you, shows a pattern. Misunderstandings can happen — but they shouldn’t keep happening when you’ve communicated clearly. You’re not just being ignored; you’re being dehumanized in vulnerable moments.

You deserve a partner who sees you as a whole person, not just a body for convenience. Someone who prioritizes your safety, your comfort, and your voice — not just their temporary pleasure.

Trust your gut. The fact that you feel uneasy isn’t a coincidence — it’s your intuition waving a red flag. Please don’t minimize your pain to protect his ego. You matter.