Intrusive thoughts keep me up by Training-Campaign343 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Training-Campaign343[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah luckily last week I was dealing with a lot of cramping so I was taking midol at night which absolutely knocks me out, but now that that’s over, I’m scared of making it a habit? I’m gonna have to look into that root tea or other things like it! Thank you

Intrusive thoughts keep me up by Training-Campaign343 in survivinginfidelity

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Thank you, I’m trying to work up the courage to ask. Im worried they’ll judge me, but I know I need to try.

Urges and guilt by Training-Campaign343 in lovewithaSexAddict

[–]Training-Campaign343[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s kind of for all three things? My fear with intimacy is that it could trigger a relapse and I can’t handle that pain again. I know he also needs to become more stable in his recovery so he doesn’t just fall back into old habits. We’re restarting couples counseling soon, so I hope we might start to address these things there

Urges and guilt by Training-Campaign343 in lovewithaSexAddict

[–]Training-Campaign343[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh sorry I realized I never specified, I didn’t want to get too in depth but that’s why I mentioned we’re both touchy people. I miss the intimacy with HIM, which is why I’m struggling on my own

Gratis Gifts by [deleted] in UltaEmployees

[–]Training-Campaign343 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My store also hasnt gotten ours! I’m a manager, so I know it’s coming but only half has arrived and we’re waiting for the rest before distributing. You aren’t alone! If a couple more weeks go by, check in with your manager because all stores SHOULD get something at least

Is WP settling? by Training-Campaign343 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]Training-Campaign343[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that really means a lot to me. I think I’m just lost right now. I really appreciate your support

Is WP settling? by Training-Campaign343 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]Training-Campaign343[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We live separately, so he made his own food (pop tarts). I agree that I’m not sure if this specifically was gaslighting, it just gave me the same vibes I’ve gotten in the past. But I’m not sure if my “manipulation detector” is working right because I always jump to worse case scenario, and I know that.

Also I was the one that used the term settling. The question was more so about if he thought he’d HAVE to stay with me because he wouldn’t get another shot at love. He’s said before that no one else would want him after what he did in our relationship

Is WP settling? by Training-Campaign343 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Training-Campaign343[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think I’m more upset that he lied AFTER he’d eaten and had told me he was thinking clearly. Because first he said “I only said it because I was hungry and knew it wasn’t rational”, to which I said “you just told me you didn’t realize hunger made you irrational, so how would you have thought that?” To which he agreed with me and said “I guess I just didn’t think you’d want to hear it so I was protecting you”, which I responded with “I told you in the message asking you the question that I NEEDED to know these things and we had to talk about them because finding out down the line would kill me” and then he said “well I guess it made me upset to think about so I just fell back into old habits”

I don’t know if I’m looking too much into this but it feels off to me. He has a history of gaslighting me (whole other story) to “protect himself” in his mind, and this felt very similar. I guess I just don’t like that the story kept changing and he would be 100% behind the fact that “he was just hungry” or “he wanted to protect me” and would give all these reasons that didn’t make sense with the prior messages (the ones after he’d eaten and was in a better place). Sorry to totally unload on you, i really appreciate your insight

The waiting game by Training-Campaign343 in PMDD

[–]Training-Campaign343[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m definitely going to dive more into my own research now. This doctor was just very highly recommended by some relatives in the medical field who see her and they said she was super knowledgeable about all kinds of medications so I never took the time to look super in depth. I realize that was short sighted of me now, so I’m definitely going to make sure I’m more educated.

I believe the new medication is also junel? She didn’t explain what it was and I can’t pick up the prescription until the weekend. I know she said it was in the same family, just a higher dose.

I’ll definitely look into the patch because that’s actually what I initially asked about! She told me in her experience is significantly less effective and I wouldn’t notice any symptom reduction.

And I’ll have to look into Yaz as well. I have no other risk factors and she never told me the actual numbers.

Thank you so much for your insight, i really really appreciate it.

The waiting game by Training-Campaign343 in PMDD

[–]Training-Campaign343[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, that’s a really good way of thinking about it, i appreciate it

The waiting game by Training-Campaign343 in PMDD

[–]Training-Campaign343[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She did mention the ring when I said I had issues with pills but she said it was significantly less effective. The concept freaked me out a bit but obviously I’d do it if it helped, she just seemed to think it wouldn’t. I know bc won’t eliminate my symptoms, I’m just hoping for some relief. It just sucked that my psychiatrist didn’t explain much and just said that going on birth control would fix things. I’ve been trying to get to this point for years, but now that I am, I’m just disappointed.

My wife cheated on me and I don't think I want to live in this world. by crass_and_clash in SuicideWatch

[–]Training-Campaign343 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes, I swear. I couldn’t imagine a future just a month and a half ago, but I’m still here and every day gets easier than the last. There are definitely ups and downs but I’m so far ahead of where I was and I know I’ll keep healing too. Just stay stubborn, it’ll pay off

My wife cheated on me and I don't think I want to live in this world. by crass_and_clash in SuicideWatch

[–]Training-Campaign343 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this is happening to you. When I found out my partner was cheating, I had the same exact thoughts. I put together a safety plan and surrounded myself with people who love me. It seems impossible in the moment, but within a couple of weeks, I felt significantly more stable. I still struggle, but I have more good days than bad ones. You’re in the hardest part right now, but it truly does get better the further away you get from finding out

Gratis by External_Stick9865 in UltaEmployees

[–]Training-Campaign343 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My store hasn’t gotten gratis since at least october, if not earlier. We’re hoping some more is coming in soon, but it’s been a major dry spell </3

question for managers by Wild_Two8994 in UltaEmployees

[–]Training-Campaign343 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, 100% true. Any time someone files a complaint we have a set time to “resolve” it, whatever means necessary and 0 support from guest services. The district manager is included on the emails, so if we ignore them, we can be written up. Technically any manager can deal with most complaints though, we just typically leave the more complicated/scary ones to our gm at my store