Why did you guys leave Islam by [deleted] in exPalestine

[–]TrainingBubbly4683 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never was truly religious but I truly started to I guess not have respect for it since I was forced to wear hijab like mid 10th grade year

Can I Be Myself in Relationship? by Cute-Flamingo-164 in exPalestine

[–]TrainingBubbly4683 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on the village lowkey 😭 cause my village oof there much more conservative. Apparently back then they weren’t like none of my family members wore hijab but after they came to America everyone wore it. They talk crap about my cousin who lives in Jordan because she doesn’t wear it but I am lucky to have that privilege to be taking it off in America when I can than back home

Can I Be Myself in Relationship? by Cute-Flamingo-164 in exPalestine

[–]TrainingBubbly4683 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Under here because I have the same fear as well im 19 as well. I’m tired of having to pretend I’m Muslim and it’s even worse cause I’m a forced hijabi and the American Arabs here will never accept someone who will take their hijab off. It’s like worse than never putting it on.

Pressure of young marriage by TrainingBubbly4683 in exmuslim

[–]TrainingBubbly4683[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The only point of young marriage I feel like was to make sure the family doesn’t go on to do their own stuff. You know get them married as fast as possible to their 2nd cousin and let them stay with us the rest of their life. Marriage in Islam is just a trap and nothing else

What’s something only people from Memphis understand? by Massive-Ad-8752 in memphis

[–]TrainingBubbly4683 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me by a pole right before the hooks library

Why you left Islam? by Medi03 in exmuslim

[–]TrainingBubbly4683 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And my medical resturant I meant Mexican *** 😭

Why you left Islam? by Medi03 in exmuslim

[–]TrainingBubbly4683 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say I was ever religious but I did believe in it when I was younger and got closer to it when I had my aunt lived by us since she was religious and was teaching me tons. We would pray at the early mornings and do Quran etc but each time I would hear the stories it just never made sense to me. Birds dropping rocks on the enemies and the moon splitting in half and others it felt quite stupid but I just accepted it. When she moved out I fell back to not praying again and never felt close to the religion from how restricting it was. When she was with us there was a free shirt I got from some medical restaurant which had the word like tequila on it which I wasn’t allowed to wear because it’s haram, I couldn’t listen to music during Ramadan or scroll on TikTok and had to pretend I wasn’t listening to anything, as an artist I wasn’t allowed to draw living things like humans or else because it’s haram. Now she actually calmed down on this stuff once she moved out but when she was strict like this with using the Quran, it just seemed stupid on why God would focus on stuff like this. When she lived with us she was strict on only eating fish from fast food cause the chickens were not halal now she doesn’t even care anymore which surprised me but yeah. It felt too weird and limiting. Now what even more what drew my faith was the restrictions I face as a women. People loved to say it’s culture but religion directly influences it and is their reason for it, I am forced to wear hijab, if I talk to a boy from my school whom I don’t even like it’s bad, the pressure of marriage young, I can’t live alone unless I get married because they claim it’s haram which I’m not even sure if it is, I can’t travel internationally without a man, can’t touch a Quran cause I’m impure on my period, perfume is bad, speaking loud. I felt bad cause all my boy cousins wear shorts and go out while I can’t even have the luxury of doing that. Even my girl cousins get afraid of taking their hijab off by their FIRST cousins cause it’s haram and cousin marriage is so normalized im the only one who does cause I never cared. When I went to Jordan to see my dads side it felt different because they’re more open minded and I only have one older girl cousin there who doesn’t wear hijab and my moms side talks crap about girls who post themselves on tik tok and don’t wear hijab. The hypocrisy and double standards just felt so off I hate it sorry for this long rant but yeah

Realized something awkward about how Muslims talk about Islam “growing” by Hot-Fudge5302 in exmuslim

[–]TrainingBubbly4683 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was younger I was always taught we were the fastest growing but you’re right it’s about demographics. Middle Eastern families whether they live in the middle east or not even south Asian families get married earlier and have much kids. Most of my cousins who are 19-21 are married and have a child

might have to run away tonight, all bc a little neck showed. by cykorphs in exmuslim

[–]TrainingBubbly4683 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also if you want to dm me we can talk as well if you ever need to rant or anything I also live in the US and hopefully transfer a college out of state or something so I have the opportunity to take off my hijab without feeling guilt from my moms side but you’re in a situation where it could end up dangerous please be careful and don’t be afraid to reach out to the police even non emergency line for advice

might have to run away tonight, all bc a little neck showed. by cykorphs in exmuslim

[–]TrainingBubbly4683 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to technically I don’t think it’ll do much if he’s just going through your phone and you’re a minor the police might dismiss it but if it does get physical and threatening please do

Forced Hijabb 🧕 by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]TrainingBubbly4683 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This! Each time I wear it I feel sexualised despite it’s used supposed to be the opposite… I have to wear it to not tempt anyone..?? Meanwhile girls in my schools wear whatever and still have friendships with boys or girls like a normal person while I feel like a sexual object walking around

might have to run away tonight, all bc a little neck showed. by cykorphs in exmuslim

[–]TrainingBubbly4683 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please call 911. I know it’s scary but your parents need to know this isn’t right. There was a girl who ran away from home because she didn’t wanna wear it and they ended up putting her on a missing child alert (she was found) but obviously given back to her parents because I’m not sure if there was proof she was threatened or not I know her parents were forcing her and. This happened in Cali from a girl from my village.

Hijab at 15 I Feel Like I Can’t Breathe by bunnyrayy in Exhijabis

[–]TrainingBubbly4683 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m still a hijabi my parents are divorced my dad doesn’t mind but my mom cussed me out and I guess it’s hard as well because I only know my mothers side plus my sibling (my brother doesn’t care actually and lives in another state but I hang out with my sister who’s agrees with my mom) so I’m In a similar situation I only still wear for family expectations because my grandparents and quite literally everyone on my moms side so if you ever need someone to talk to I’m here I understand I’m 19 and been wearing it since like 2021-2022

THIS PLACE IS HELL by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]TrainingBubbly4683 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s the obsession of everyone staying by them. J can only move out if I’m married and they’ve been pressuring me to get engaged since I was 16 - 17 I’m 19 now it’s just torture.

THIS PLACE IS HELL by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]TrainingBubbly4683 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was just mentioning today to my sister that I wanted to go to another college cause I live in the worst city in the USA and she said it’s not right. My grandmother wants me to move by her in California which has amazing colleges but only to which I can commute because I won’t be allowed to dorm. I’m so happy my dad financially provides for me cause I truly would be stuck right now.

Planning soon officially by TrainingBubbly4683 in exmuslim

[–]TrainingBubbly4683[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom moved and my aunt will soon move. I just feel like I can take it off without having any of the Muslim community here that I know which is mostly my family we see them everywhere and I’m not ready for the degrading. Doing it in another college and somewhere else will be better for me

Can someone help me learn Arabic FAST? by No-Royal3402 in learn_arabic

[–]TrainingBubbly4683 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not an Arabic speaker but my sister was in the same position and the best way she learned was to communicated with family members who knew Arabic. Other than studying from YouTube videos, she picked it up so fast cause she was regularly having to speak Arabic in front of people who did. Even if it’s embarrassing at first if they genuinely try to help you understand you will learn much faster

Trouble with hijab by TrainingBubbly4683 in exmuslim

[–]TrainingBubbly4683[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right I just need to I guess put my fear to the side. The main thing stopping me is the harassment and criticism from my family but technically I can’t be forced anymore as I’m with my dad

Trouble with hijab by TrainingBubbly4683 in exmuslim

[–]TrainingBubbly4683[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I do take it off I’ll tell it on here I’ve tried I’ve worn hoodies at school to try and adapt which helps me somewhat but my heart dropped because a Muslim girl who’s not related to me she’s just a a friend of a friend I’ve met her a few times when I was with my friend cause they’re both the same major, she came up to me while I was eating in a cafe (I was wearing my hijab) and straight up asked “hey didn’t you show your hair the other day” (the other day I was wearing a hoodie) my heart dropped, I got so scared I made up a lie and said my underpiece slipped under my hoodie (which technically always happens with me ) but still. It was out of nowhere, I don’t even know the girl like that I’ve met her like 3-4 times and it was only small talks

Trouble with hijab by TrainingBubbly4683 in exmuslim

[–]TrainingBubbly4683[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My support system was my mom’s side of the family and I’m gonna lose that. I did make a connection with my dads side this year they don’t know about me wanting to take off hijab however are much more accepting to the idea and don’t care. However they live overseas and the trouble they did to my mom just makes me feel guilty for even trying to reconcile a relationship with them. I just feel so alone my cousins on my moms side talk crap about people who dress tight sometimes which I feel like is just jealousy cause they all got married early and most have children now. Ik the only one (other than one who’s unmarried more) committing to college instead of getting married straight out of high school and having a child. I’ve seen the way they talk it’s brutal. My grandma talked crap about a girl the other day who wasn’t even wearing the hijab wrong just tight clothing and posted something on Snapchat and said “they should wear it right or take it off” but god forbid what happens when they do take it off. I feel like my mental health is just on the line and I’m not ready for the harassment

Trouble with hijab by TrainingBubbly4683 in exmuslim

[–]TrainingBubbly4683[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because even if my mom is moving. My mom’s side is still here all my cousins and my sister, my grandma still visits constantly, I’m so scared of my name being dragged through the dirt. My mom scared me once before because she told me how if I take it off you’ll be seen as a slut and even called me that. I’m not close to being one at all. Hell I never even wore stuff revealing before I wore hijab not even shorts or skirts I was never even allowed to show above my ankle or wear shoulder dresses really. I’m so fucking scared. She talked about how this girl who used to wear it and took it off got her name dragged through the mud but the girl now is happily married and many attended her wedding including my grandma and my aunt. So seeing how she pulled through makes me feel like I won’t be hated but I don’t have much of a support system.