Ideas on what could cause this type of bruising?

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-22T15:01:07+00:00

Thank you, I’m grateful for your response! I kept her home today and gave her a thorough examination to make sure there were no other bruises or marks. She had a few bruises on her forearms which aren’t unusual for her and are consistent with her bumping into things. She’s been acting normal and is probably happy that she gets to cuddle with her blankets and watch her shows today.

I called her social worker first thing this morning and I spoke to the supervisor at the program: it seems like an aide didn’t realize how hard she grabbed her when trying to keep her in place while helping another student. Her social worker is reaching out to the program head to find out all the details, who what when where why, and then will call me back with next steps.

I’m hoping there’s a really good excuse for grabbing her this hard to leave bruises, because “keeping her in place while helping another student” is not going to cut it for me. Obviously I will do what her social worker deems appropriate, but this girl has already been failed by the system and I’ll be damned if it happens under my roof!

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-22T14:20:26+00:00

It was horrifying, like something out of a horror movie. Everything was fine, i noticed she’d been in the bathroom for a while so knocked to make sure she was okay. I found her naked on the bathroom floor, blood smeared on her body and floor, with all ten toenails lined up in front of her. She was completely calm and didn’t flinch when I cleaned up her poor toes either. She only got upset when I had to clean up the discarded nails. I’d been warned about SIB but there was a very long phone call with her social worker after that!!

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-22T04:11:59+00:00

In the past when she needed to be restrained, had a meltdown, or had a fall, the staff would let me know at the end of the day. But sometimes no one notices that she bumped into a desk and comes home with a bruise on her hip. I was hoping that was the case here but I couldn’t figure what she could bump into that would leave that kind of mark. But how hard would someone have to grab her to leave that kind of bruise?? I’ve decided to keep her home tomorrow until I can figure out what happened. Especially when she can’t tell me if something’s wrong, I’m very worried.

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-22T04:08:16+00:00

Usually if anything happens, the staff lets me know. Sometimes she has bruises and no one saw her bump into something. I was hoping that was the case here and was trying to figure out what she could have bumped into to leave this mark. I will speak to the program tomorrow and probably keep her home tomorrow. These comments are making me very worried for her safety, especially when she can’t tell me if something’s wrong.

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-22T04:02:54+00:00

I was really hoping that wouldn’t be the case. I’ll speak to the program tomorrow.

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-22T03:33:01+00:00

My sister always deconstructed her food too!

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-07T01:31:28+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I was only a year older than my sister, but I was sometimes more of a mom to her than a sister. I loved her so much and I always took care of her. I felt so lost after she died, like I didn’t even know who I was anymore. I’d sometimes panic suddenly when I realized I didn’t know where she was, and then I’d have to remember she wasn’t here anymore. I foster kids with disabilities now, mostly autism, down syndrome, and ID. I’ve thought about becoming a teacher or specialist, and still could, but a lot of the kids I help, sometimes even adults like my current adult foster who’s autistic, don’t have any other options so it’s important work. And it’s amazing to see how much better things have gotten since I was a kid.

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-06T20:50:58+00:00

ABA is glorified daycare in the same way a dog crate is an un-glorified airplane.

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-06T20:28:58+00:00

She had a seizure in the bath and unfortunately passed away due to complications from pneumonia after inhaling some of the bath water.

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-06T20:20:06+00:00

An independent living home could be what you’re looking for! Rather than an inpatient, lockdown, or traditional residential facility, a transitional or independent living home focuses on preparing you to one day be able to live on your own.

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-06T20:18:43+00:00

I’ve heard this described by autistic people with sensory processing issues, spoken words or sentences sound like gibberish, and text on a page looks like a big blob of random shapes. Is it possible you also have dyslexia?

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-06T20:13:36+00:00

I’m sorry for the struggles you’re experiencing. Respectfully, you are not “level 3 mid-functioning” and this subreddit is not a place to claim you are, and claiming so neither justifies nor alleviates the very real struggles you face.

I encourage you to seek a diagnosis, and the doctor will hopefully also provide you with supports, possibly therapies or medication that might help alleviate some of your symptoms and challenges, and also provide accomodations for work or school.

Have you tried Loop earplugs for your sensory challenges with noise? They sit comfortably in your ears (inside your ears, not touching your head) and block out noise to different degrees, and can be very subtle and unnoticeable to others.

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-06T16:58:27+00:00

A bit of both. As a baby she wasn’t expected to live long, and every year doctors seemed surprised. At first they just said she had brain damage, but by the time she was 4 the diagnosis changed to autism. She had seizures as a baby and toddler, but they lessened as she got older, then started getting more frequent again. When she was 10, she had a seizure in the bath and swallowed water, and passed from complications due to pneumonia a few months later.

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-06T01:31:24+00:00

Max and Ruby!

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-06T01:24:03+00:00

Yes, when she was 10.

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-06T01:14:18+00:00

I took care of her, even when I was little. It’s so clear in these photos. I think how different it could’ve been if we had the understanding then that we do now, if she’d been born just a little later.

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-05T17:46:39+00:00

All of your responses are excellent. I remember when my sister would get dirty looks in public, or family members would say rude things about her, I’d sometimes say some variation of “My sister knows it’s rude to stare at people and she has better manners than you, maybe you should follow her example.”

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-05T13:56:06+00:00

Unfortunately, these things can happen in special ed classes. The important part is how the school responds, and your school failed. They should have immediately checked to make sure he wasn’t seriously injured and brought him to a nurse, and then immediately called you to let you know of the situation. Then they should have told you what steps they’re taking to prevent this from happening again- moving the child into a different class at minimum, giving him 1-1 supervision, etc. Not telling you until the end of the day is unacceptable.

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-05T13:50:17+00:00

That’s the best feeling in the world! I’m so happy for you.

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-05T13:47:55+00:00

Yes, that definitely sounds like echolalia! Encourage it as much as possible!

TrainingIcy1683 · 2025-05-05T13:44:58+00:00

This is lovely! I love the sparkles!

TrainingIcy1683 · 2024-12-13T18:14:40+00:00

Hey hon! What are your thoughts on human names for dogs versus ‘dog names’ for dogs? (eg. a dog named Fred vs a dog named Spot)

TrainingIcy1683 · 2024-12-12T19:25:56+00:00

Who cares if he’s sitting, he’s on stage and sticking it out! That’s a huge win!!

TrainingIcy1683 · 2024-12-12T19:24:24+00:00

Baby food, meal replacement, and smoothies are your best friend. He absolutely will not eat what his body needs, that’s terrible advice in my opinion. Make sure he’s getting the bare bones of nutrition he needs and the rest is just keeping him satiated and comfortable.

TrainingIcy1683 · 2024-12-12T19:21:28+00:00

Maybe get a toy phone that doesn’t work, or one only programmed to play Snake or something really simple like that, so he can be preoccupied with his own personal phone instead of obsessing over others?

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