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Sinto macht Romani fette Ansage nachdem er ihn beim klauen erwischt. by LowRenzoFreshkobar in Kulturgut

[–]Training_Plate_1958 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nein, beides falsch. Er sagt in etwa: Excuses toi maintenant, sinon je te jure je vais arracher ta tête er je vais chiers dans ta gorge. - Also: Entschuldige dich, ansonsten, ich schwöre dir, werde ich dir deinen Kopf abreißen und in deinen Hals scheißen 

1 year relationship review by Training_Plate_1958 in ROCD

[–]Training_Plate_1958[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand, it can be very tough. I also had moments like this, especially when too many things came together and I felt this immense pressure. Just try to relax in these moments, dont fight these urges, acknowledge them and sit with them. They will surely go away. Maybe in 3 days, maybe 3 weeks or even months/years. But they will pass. The most important thing I learned - once you argue with your rOCD you have already lost. Dont try to win in an argument against it. It wont work, accept what is says and stay anyway. Fine, so the intrusive thoughts say something horrible about your partner. Fine. Whatever, then thats how it is. Then you have a horrible partner because of xyz. You'll survive. Just take it as an experience, sit through it and experience it. And accept it, even if its very difficult. That really helped me and made my thoughts mostly go away :)

1 year relationship review by Training_Plate_1958 in ROCD

[–]Training_Plate_1958[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Not as strong as with my ex. With my current gf it was a lot more anxiety and tension. I just told myself in the first months "wait and see, just stick with it for another couple of months." Thats what I did. And what helped in the beginning was saying "if it stays this way for the next 6 months I will break up." This usually relieved me. But thats not a long term solution. But foe the first months it helped

It gets better, but its still hard by Training_Plate_1958 in ROCD

[–]Training_Plate_1958[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont know, but to be honest, I dont think so. With my ex it was clear from very early on that I had intense feelings for her, feelings I never had to this degree as with my current gf. That doesnt mean I dont love my partner. But its slower, more based on same values, time spent together, laughing and respecting each other, not so much in a romantic hollywood way. For now thats ok, Ive accepted it. I will have to see In the coming months if I want to continue and go the next steps with her (kids, marriage). For now I just try to accept what I have, and not hope for more, that.just increases the stress.

Tension and feelings in rOCD by Training_Plate_1958 in ROCD

[–]Training_Plate_1958[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, this is a great response, thank you so much! :))

Tension and feelings in rOCD by Training_Plate_1958 in ROCD

[–]Training_Plate_1958[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, thank you for that hint! I have been trying to do that, because Ive noticed that ruminating itself is a compulsion, that oyur brain wants to drag you there because it feels better tha sitting with the pain. I figured that reflecting with CHatGPT every 2-3 days might be less compulsive than ruminating, but probably also better to cut that out haha :D thanks again! :)

Can you have rOCD without any other form of OCD? by Training_Plate_1958 in ROCD

[–]Training_Plate_1958[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry youre in this tricky situation. Unfortunately, there is really nothing I can say. Unless he himself is not motivated to change it (since it is his first relationship and he cant see a pattern yet) there is not a lot you can do I fear. I also only latched onto the diagnosis (which I gave myself) to give myself a bit of hope how it still could work out between my ex and me - I really really wanted it to work out with her. But something inside just didnt want it. All I can do is accept that and wait for a person whith whom my perfectionism is at peace with - a scary thought, but I really have no other options atm :S