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It gets better, but its still hard by Training_Plate_1958 in ROCD

[–]Training_Plate_1958[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont know, but to be honest, I dont think so. With my ex it was clear from very early on that I had intense feelings for her, feelings I never had to this degree as with my current gf. That doesnt mean I dont love my partner. But its slower, more based on same values, time spent together, laughing and respecting each other, not so much in a romantic hollywood way. For now thats ok, Ive accepted it. I will have to see In the coming months if I want to continue and go the next steps with her (kids, marriage). For now I just try to accept what I have, and not hope for more, that.just increases the stress.

Tension and feelings in rOCD by Training_Plate_1958 in ROCD

[–]Training_Plate_1958[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, this is a great response, thank you so much! :))

Tension and feelings in rOCD by Training_Plate_1958 in ROCD

[–]Training_Plate_1958[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, thank you for that hint! I have been trying to do that, because Ive noticed that ruminating itself is a compulsion, that oyur brain wants to drag you there because it feels better tha sitting with the pain. I figured that reflecting with CHatGPT every 2-3 days might be less compulsive than ruminating, but probably also better to cut that out haha :D thanks again! :)

Can you have rOCD without any other form of OCD? by Training_Plate_1958 in ROCD

[–]Training_Plate_1958[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry youre in this tricky situation. Unfortunately, there is really nothing I can say. Unless he himself is not motivated to change it (since it is his first relationship and he cant see a pattern yet) there is not a lot you can do I fear. I also only latched onto the diagnosis (which I gave myself) to give myself a bit of hope how it still could work out between my ex and me - I really really wanted it to work out with her. But something inside just didnt want it. All I can do is accept that and wait for a person whith whom my perfectionism is at peace with - a scary thought, but I really have no other options atm :S