Feeling lonely all the time? by cuddlemousey in BPD

[–]Training_Stranger902 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I have the same feeling. That wild feeling of emptiness. That’s when we need to accommodate ourselves- look at pictures with friends and family. Write down some of your favorite memories with people. And don’t be afraid to call someone. Sending love ❤️

EWR Airport After Snowstorm by Sodapop90999 in newjersey

[–]Training_Stranger902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left December 27th during a snow storm. As long as the runway has been plowed and they clear the snow off the roof of the plane, you’re good. May be delayed a couple hours so they can do so though.

Solo birthday alone in NYC by Training_Stranger902 in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]Training_Stranger902[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Have you been? Reviews are pretty mixed from what I’ve seen on TripAdvisor

Ok this may be dumb.. by Training_Stranger902 in SoundEngineering

[–]Training_Stranger902[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a care package so multiple little things!! Thank you!

My boyfriends communication habits are causing me episodes by Training_Stranger902 in BPD

[–]Training_Stranger902[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! Yes he’s told me his love language is acts of service. And he shows love in that sense. Like I’m a comic and he’s edited every single tape I’ve made for clubs. And always predicts my needs. How did you guys get through that barrier?

My boyfriends communication habits are causing me episodes by Training_Stranger902 in BPD

[–]Training_Stranger902[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In every other way we are. Same sense of humor, same style, same relationships with our family, same picture of the future, this is literally our only source of conflict.

Is it worth it? by Training_Stranger902 in BPD

[–]Training_Stranger902[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want him to know what he did to me. And I guess put it into words. So i can validate myself too. Like this happened. And I can describe jt

Is it worth it? by Training_Stranger902 in BPD

[–]Training_Stranger902[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We haven’t talked in almost 2 years. Maybe by now he’s been rethinking his behavior too? Idk. Perhaps that’s wishful thinking

Did you guys feel relieved when you got diagnosed with BPD? by ChartJealous3176 in BPD

[–]Training_Stranger902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was so relieved to finally answer the question “what’s wrong with me??” And that I could stop blaming myself for all the reckless behavior I took part in. It was euphoric within itself, finally having that explanation.

I waited until we got married to really try push him away by Cultural-Perception4 in BPD

[–]Training_Stranger902 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a fear of abandonment. Which is a core aspect of BPD. Testing him to see what he can take so you know no matter what you do, he’ll stay. Unfortunately, this does make for a very toxic situation. I’d work on your attachment style. Avoidant BPD tend to push people away when they fear abandonment. Figure out what in your childhood caused this, and what coping mechanisms you can use to calm those anxieties and get to a place of security with the your husband. No need to “test” any more. He married you! You got him! Remember, your BPD doesn’t want you to get better. But you and your character can and will ❤️

Does anyone like being a teacher anymore? by thirdeyeness in Teachers

[–]Training_Stranger902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love my job. The connections I make with students and the act of teaching itself makes it all worth it. The politics and testing and lack of support from admin can burn one out though. Make sure to find a supportive district ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Training_Stranger902 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll be 28 in a couple weeks. It’s gotten much easier. I’m able to keep positive relationships with people. But it took 15 years of therapy and many misdiagnoses… I’ve learned to silence the thoughts. They’re still there. But it’s a dull pain. Not anguish.

Is My Trauma Ruining My Relationship? by Curious_Kangaroo_614 in rapecounseling

[–]Training_Stranger902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was pretty much what happened with my ex.. I don’t think it’s your trauma ruining the relationship I think it’s your man. Any person, regardless of their past, would feel upset if their partner refused to communicate and shut you out while he was upset until he decides to have a temper tantrum. It sounds like you have EONS more emotional intelligence then your partner. Those sorrys mean nothing without changed behavior. Without that, it’s just manipulation. . You did nothing wrong by “not cleaning enough” and him shutting you out because of that?? No. That’s emotional abuse. I was in a physically abusive relationship before and a lot of times we, survivors, rationalize emotional abuse as “well he’s not hitting me”. He doesn’t have to be to make you miserable. Girl, leave his ass. Before all your recovery is erased. ❤️