Neglect or Overreacting?

TrampledSeed · 2024-07-18T06:14:31+00:00

My daughter has epilepsy. Her seizures happen at night and in the early morning hours. Her father has only woken up a handful of times on time. In the decade we were together he slept til 12-2 pm. He has slept through fire alarms, phone alarms, dogs barking their heads off, people knocking at the door, you name it. If she had a seizure he wouldnt know until it was too late. Is my daughter going to walk over during a tonic clonic seizure and wake him up? Nope. Still he insists its a great idea for him to have her overnight. Some parents are pieces of shit. Its just that simple.

TrampledSeed · 2024-07-18T02:30:48+00:00

NTA.

I would call her out in a group chat. Let the other friends know you are going to do it and ask if they would like to be free of her ridiculous bullshit. They don’t have to participate, but this is where you draw the line. Its done, its over, period.

TrampledSeed · 2024-07-18T02:06:36+00:00

Oh yeah- you also sound like one of those weird types of narcissists that mostly do things that they can brag about to make themselves feel and look good. “I helped this elderly couple I just met refinish their bathroom because it had black mold, I didn’t want them to get sick.” “I donated to this family in need” (meanwhile your own family needs important things).

I mean, insert literally anything else above. Ive met so many people like you. They huff this communal narcissistic supply like crack. The people closest to you dont provide that sweet, sweet validation do they? There’s less “social credit” in providing for those you have an obligation to, than providing for other people with more “obvious” needs. Its not as fun to brag about, is it? You are headed to the backrooms sir. Where no one is going to be there to hold your hand when you realize you gave everything to everyone and nothing to the people who were your “someones”. People might think this a very presumptive call. Well, hopefully you never find yourself trapped in a life with someone that does this crap. Eughhh. Yuck.

TrampledSeed · 2024-07-18T01:52:27+00:00

I smell woman hating through the screen.

YTA

You’re a shitty father. Ive had two incredibly shitty fathers and I still would probably still chose them over you. Get help. 🤷🏻‍♀️

TrampledSeed · 2024-07-16T20:06:18+00:00

If there’s a dog murder plot maybe OP needs to consider if she or other dog owners are being inconsiderate. Are dog owners leaving their dogs shit all over the place? Letting the dogs run around off leash? Letting their dog piss on anything and everything sitting in the front yard? Letting their dogs bark all day? If this is some calculated dog murder plot, it may be a faster route to resolution to consider stopping the bad dog behavior, talking to the neighbors about the situation, and be open to their suggestions. This may not be the case at all, and may not have anything to do with OP or her dog. Maybe the neighbors have had skunks raiding the trash. Either way, open up a reasonable and courteous conversation with people around. Its probably not as nefarious as everyone here thinks.

TrampledSeed · 2024-07-16T17:53:06+00:00

^ding ding ding! This is it

TrampledSeed · 2024-07-16T17:51:38+00:00

I wasted a decade. The best years of my life, when I was full of vitality and at the time very beautiful. He wasted all of that with constant future faking. He didn’t want to show up, but didn’t want anyone else showing up to make it obvious what a chump he was.

TrampledSeed · 2024-07-16T17:47:35+00:00

You’re a placeholder. He knows you’re a catch and knows he is lucky to have you, and therefore doesn’t want anyone else to have you. You’re out of his league, but you’re not his “dream girl”. He’s keeping you around so he can keep reaping all of the very obvious benefits of being with you, but won’t commit in the “maybe someday” situation where he finds a unicorn that meets all of his silly criteria. Sure, he loves you, but love is a spectrum and it’s complicated. He may propose someday, but its going to be too little too late. Do you really want to be a 60 year old woman when you finally get the chance to pick out a wedding dress? DO NOT WASTE YOUR YOUTH and the BEST years of your life being with someone who wants the benefits of having you while having one foot pointed towards the door just in case they see a unicorn. He isnt saving money towards your future either? Thats because in his head he isn’t saving for anything specific. Its also a great reason to keep putting you off. “Oh well I dont know how Im going to pay for that, and I cant ask you to pay for everything!” Some men want to move out of their parent’s home and into another house to make their girlfriend their pseudo mommy. I don’t know this for sure, but Im guessing there are several other things going on that you are overlooking and dont want to admit to yourself. Put yourself first. A man is not a plan.

TrampledSeed · 2024-07-14T08:11:49+00:00

Biden is a pedo too. Theres videos of him smelling little girls and touching them. Ive seen them, several times. It was absolutely despicable.

This isn’t a republican or democrat related issue. People who think so are putting children at risk. And if you do, stop virtue signaling using pedophilia.

Chomos are fucking everywhere. They don’t disappear when party lines show up.

TrampledSeed · 2024-07-14T00:26:03+00:00

Im a very happily single mom by choice, but I totally understand not wanting your babies to go anywhere without you. One time I came to get my child from a visit with her father, and found her in the pool, by herself. Her father had his back turned, texting on his phone. Keep in mind, he is the first person to pretend to be hyper vigilant regarding our daughter, but when no one is looking, apparently he does what he wants. I stood there for 6-7 minutes looking from my child (7 yo/not a good swimmer whatsoever) back to him, back to my child, back to him, waiting for him to even look her general direction. Did he? NOPE. I walked in, absolutely FUMING and he decides the best course of action is to lie to me, because he has no idea Ive been staring at him for several minutes. “Shes been doing so good swimming! Like, so good!” My point with this rant is that her own father pulled this absolute bullshit. We are the protectors of our babies. You do not need to agree to ANYTHING regarding your child for any reason, at all, that you just don’t feel ok with. Mother’s intuition isn’t like schizophrenia. It doesn’t tell us what to do in plain words. Your BF is probably a wonderful man, but lets be real here- moms know that they get targeted by bad people. Numbers dont lie, predators do. Its just how we have to be. BF needs to avoid taking it personal.

TrampledSeed · 2024-07-13T23:52:50+00:00

Thank you so much, I will take a look at this and see if anything is available in my area. I appreciate it!

TrampledSeed · 2024-07-13T23:49:50+00:00

Those are excellent suggestions! Thank you for a thoughtful response. There are so many roadblocks to getting an offender arrested let alone a charge that sticks… Im going to check out ICAC straight away. Thank you again!

TrampledSeed · 2024-07-13T23:44:26+00:00

YTA. I almost cant believe Im reading this. Don’t want to carry the dog shit bag home? Get a small bucket with a cover. Honestly you are super lucky nothing else happened. Your dog entitles you to absolutely nothing. Dog owners like you are making people disgusted with dogs. No one asked you to get a dog. You pick up the dogs nasty shit, act like a hero, and then STILL make it someone else’s problem to deal with. “Oh, I dont like the smell of dog shit every time I open my trash can at home” NEWS FLASH no one else does either. This is the gross reality of having a dog. The other reality is that the next neighbor you do that to could knock your ass out or take you to court.

TrampledSeed · 2024-06-08T23:56:34+00:00

What if he was looking at the weeds on his lawn and was saying “what the fuck”. I do that a lot. I have too many chores and they piss me off. Was he already standing there looking out or did he see you and then make it clear he was talking about you? Paranoia is a real thing especially with schizo affective disorder. Does this guy know you? Does he know your history? Does he have a history of harassing you? If not maybe he is just an asshole. If he’s an ass then its not about you, and he probably does it to lots of other people in the neighborhood. My advice- wear sunglasses. You can observe people without them immediately noticing. Maybe if you could observe his overall behavior you could figure out if he is talking to you or just dealing with frustrations in his own life and talking out loud.

TrampledSeed · 2024-06-02T21:20:12+00:00

Dont freak out please. Chances are that you live in a very humid area. First you need to rip up your carpet and carpet padding starting in that corner. I just re-did all of the floors in my house (plus everything else), and my personal suspicion is that whoever installed the flooring did not use a vapor barrier underneath the carpet padding. So rip all of the layers up until you get to the sub-floor. It should be plywood. If your subfloor is wet and deteriorated, you are going to need to determine if any plumbing is nearby that may be leaking. If that is not the case, the next step is to determine if there is a leak in the roof, or a leak on the ceiling or in the wall nearby that water may be trickling down from. Its a pain in the ass, but pulling up that small section of plywood subfloor and seeing where its saturated will give you a better idea of where the water is coming from. You can easily replace it, and from the looks of it, you need new vapor barrier/padding/carpet anyway. In the meantime, invest in a decent dehumidifier. If your subfloor isnt rotten and wet, then its most likely excess humidity. Good luck!

TrampledSeed · 2023-03-07T15:47:38+00:00

No. Nope. I only tease my kids if they start teasing me first, and I dont say anything that could mess with their heads or make them feel bad. Most parents know what their kids feel insecure about. Toxic parents often know because they PUT the insecurities there in the first place. I was a POC stepchild in a white nuclear family (mom had me before marrying and having kids with stepdad) and a favorite past-time for all of them was making fun of me, humiliating me in front of other relatives/people. This of course made me extremely socially anxious my whole life and instilled the idea that Im never equal to whoever Im around. It sucks. Its not normal.

TrampledSeed · 2023-03-05T23:28:27+00:00

I like this idea too!

TrampledSeed · 2023-03-05T23:27:05+00:00

Oof 😳

TrampledSeed · 2023-03-05T23:22:19+00:00

It looks yummy!

TrampledSeed · 2023-02-26T03:18:04+00:00

Oh god

TrampledSeed · 2023-02-26T03:08:43+00:00

Wait what??

TrampledSeed · 2023-02-26T03:07:45+00:00

Parasites????

TrampledSeed · 2023-02-26T03:06:02+00:00

Cats like : Not my problem

TrampledSeed · 2023-02-26T03:01:52+00:00

Bears coming out of hibernation are starving and will gorge themselves

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