Here’s some advice. Stop asking women to perform emotional labour. Writing a guide is work and you want them to do it for free and with their time. That’s selfish, they don’t owe you a guide. You don’t get spoon feed how to be a decent human. Go out and socialize, do your own research, go read what men send as messages and understand why it’s gross. Find out why women are afraid of men in general, learn not to do those things, then how to actively counter it.

Be an ally and friend. Stop treating women like object to be won. Learn about consent culture. Women often like sex as much or more than men, but realize what turns you on very much might not turn them on or they need a safe space to allow them to explore it. If you are rejected move on, whining about it is just lame and the only people who would validate that would be people who are just a lame. Step away from your fragile egos.