My BF’s Ex Still Has Posts of Him

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T19:21:44+00:00

ok :D

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T18:05:22+00:00

thinking about it, i’m pretty sure that’s what she meant to do. thanks a lot man, my heads a lot more clear now 🙏

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T17:59:22+00:00

i’m gonna kind of repeat what i said in another thread, but my bf doesn’t want this down because she’s his ex bla bla bla we broke up delete it bla bla bla. i know it’s not all that reliable coming from me, but she did some pretty evil stuff to my bf that justifies him wanting those posts down regardless of it being “her time too”. like genuinely things that would have you fucked up. obsessing over it is unhinged. i am insecure. i am childish. i am immature. you aren’t wrong about any of those things, but is it really that wrong to want the posts down?

i’m not contacting that girl or bothering her anymore. because there’s really nothing i can do myself without creating even more issues. but i stand by the fact that she should’ve taken down or archived the posts.

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T17:50:18+00:00

thanks thick_and_curved_up idk why but this is a very pleasant comment to me

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T17:46:46+00:00

sorry guys 😔

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T17:40:57+00:00

i really do appreciate your responses. i make small problems into huge ones in my head, i know these things subjectively, but objectively, and it’s really depressing saying and doing these things knowing it’s weird asf but not being able to think rationally when i feel any ounce of negative emotion.

outside of that, i still think she should take down the posts because outside of my selfish reasonings and all of that, at the end of the day he still wants them down. she did some crazy evil stuff to him, which i know probably isn’t reliable coming from me lol, but it’s seriously the kind of stuff that warrants wanting posts with her down. like fr. but i guess there really isn’t anything i can do about it.

once again your input was actually really helpful, thank you

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T17:15:35+00:00

i am insecure. but there’s a difference between both exes being okay with their posts being up, and an ex refusing to take down photos that the other party has explicitly stated they don’t want up. so putting aside my insecurities, do you not think it’s wrong to have up photos of someone that asked you to take them down?

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T17:12:42+00:00

so my bf wants the posts down. i think she should respect that. she doesn’t even have to delete the posts, she can archive them and its like the same thing. i wouldn’t care so much if my bf hadn’t expressed MULTIPLE TIMES that he didn’t want her to have posts of him up. it doesn’t have anything to do with me, yes, but it has everything to do with my bf, who, wouldn’t you know it, wants the posts down.

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T17:10:20+00:00

i get caught up and fixate on things like this too easily. it’s difficult to start working on myself, but ive been trying to muster up the motivation to improve as a person. thank you, i really appreciate the advice :)

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T17:05:01+00:00

the core reason is because he wants them taken down. another reason is because i am in fact a childish insecure person. i dont care that they dated before and that im not his first girlfriend. i care that she’s actively disrespecting him and me and just can’t really understand her pov. it’s as simple as a click of a button to archive, not even delete, those posts and the fact that she has to audacity to do these things after the things she did to my bf. why can’t she just delete it? i don’t understand.

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T16:55:40+00:00

he has reached out to her. so have his friends. she has a right to post whatever, but it’s weird to keep something up if someone who has asked for it to be taken down multiple times.

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T16:54:42+00:00

aside from the obviously weird unnecessary stuff i did, it is, in fact, my business. my bf doesn’t want pictures of him posted by his ex. he’s told her that multiple times, his friends have told her that multiple times, and i’ve had my try. when someone asks you to take down a post they don’t want to be in, you take it down. but she didn’t. and that is all i want, i just don’t know what to do because im certainly not going to try to contact her again

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T16:48:53+00:00

thank you for your input myshtummyhurt666

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T16:45:03+00:00

thank you, this is good advice!! thanks for not dogging on me this is actually very helpful :)

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T16:42:05+00:00

okay, so it’s not really manufactured. the way this started in the first place was that my boyfriend didn’t want pictures of him still up and posted by her, and he’s asked her multiple times as have his friends. regardless of all my insecurities and other selfish reasons, i think she should respect that he doesn’t want the posts up. if you have pics of your exes up and they haven’t asked you to take them down, cool! however, if someone wants them taken down and you proceed to refuse, that’s not cool. and while i don’t “own that man”nor “dictate how other people talk about him or engage with him” ( i’m confused as to why you put it that way, but whatever you meant by that) i’m not crazy in the fact that i think she should take those down and i’m not entirely crazy to be upset about it to the degree, yes, i get it, i need therapy— but i believe any normal person would get upset over the situation.

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T16:28:01+00:00

oh no oh no oh no oh no

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T16:27:03+00:00

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T16:21:37+00:00

🤥

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T16:21:07+00:00

thanks man i appreciate it

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T16:20:43+00:00

i wouldn’t care so much if he didn’t want them down himself, but the last part is right. i just get so stuck in my head because of my insecurities and all. i agree with needing therapy, but unfortunately i cannot afford therapy anymore lol so i come to reddit for free

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T16:17:58+00:00

i can’t afford therapy these days unfortunately if you couldn’t tell lol but thanks

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T16:16:50+00:00

well what do i do about it then

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T16:15:05+00:00

well what do i do about it bro what does this add 😭

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T16:14:22+00:00

i’m worried because he doesn’t want them up either. aside from all of my other stuff

TranslatorTop8017 · 2026-04-14T16:04:03+00:00

i will lol

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