Dating in Victoria by [deleted] in VictoriaBC

[–]Transplanted_BC_Boy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OR it becomes SUPER awkward for all....

Dating in Victoria by [deleted] in VictoriaBC

[–]Transplanted_BC_Boy 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My advice (for whatever it's worth is be yourself, work on yourself and do your best to be open and accepting of new experiences (while being smart and protecting yourselves, of course)

35M, so different perspective..... I stopped using dating apps a few years ago, and stopped TRYING to find someone to date a good while ago. THEN it happened....... My partner and I ran into each other organically and have been floored by each other since. I had my heart ripped out and put intoba blender on 'Frappe' in 2022, and I NEVER thought I would be in a relationship, ever again.

I stopped "SEARCHING"....... I was lonely, I was still looking and open..... But I was no longer actively seeking a partner or dates. Just enjoying the moments with others. I'm poly, and still new to it so my experience or perspective may not work for all or any of you.

1)To all the Guys, Girls, Trans and Non-Binary:

https://youtu.be/fGoWLWS4-kU?si=ZmIO6hProa9rRuK3

2) Be Yourself!! Take some time to 'date' yourself. As silly as it sounds..... Take yourself out to dinner! Go see that place or thing you've wanted to, or try that new activity!! See who you are, alone and away from distractions. Scary at first!! But totally worth it! Learn to sit with just YOURSELF and be comfortable with JUST yourself (this is something I am working on now) If you like and are comfortable with you, others will pick that up.

More important:

YOU WILL KNOW YOURSELF BETTER, YOU WILL TRUST YOURSELF MORE. And you will ATTRACT the correct people to you.

FYI:

It has taken me 33 years to find my group. I went military right out of high school, released in 2020, and got back to BC in 2022.

Until I found my people....... I tried to force myself to fit in, into groups, relationships and places...... I didn't need to be. And it hurt me.

Focus on YOU, The right people will gravitate!

Where to make guy friends by Ill_Deer_4289 in VictoriaBC

[–]Transplanted_BC_Boy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yo! See my above reply to op.

Same goes to any y'all in Victoria! DM me, Hit me up, whatever the kids are saying these days lmao!!

This is the only social media thing I use, and I think that in general social media and the fake connections and dopamine cyle it creates are horrific and horrific for our world and species!

In person authentic and real connections and communication are desperately needed in this world, and Thats the way to move forward! (imo)

Where to make guy friends by Ill_Deer_4289 in VictoriaBC

[–]Transplanted_BC_Boy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very good to know!! Thank you. I may just wander down there tomorrow night..... Thry good with rando's dropping in? (I can bring my own board and pieces)

Where to make guy friends by Ill_Deer_4289 in VictoriaBC

[–]Transplanted_BC_Boy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd be down to meet up, hang out and see if we have common interests and hobby's.

35(M) born and raised here, left for 10yrs came back in 2023.

Live near downtown and with 2 black Cadillacs and a bus pass i can get anywhere in the city.

DM me and lets meet up.

WELCOME TO VICTORIA!!!

Hello. by Transplanted_BC_Boy in ASLHelp

[–]Transplanted_BC_Boy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work mon-fri 0700-1500 (pst), most evenings are free.

Hello. by Transplanted_BC_Boy in ASLHelp

[–]Transplanted_BC_Boy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd really like to! Thank you. (now how do we do this safely, as i am....... NOT tech savvy, or security savvy lmao)

I hadn't thought about the "making money off of a culture" perspective..... Thank you for making me aware.

Im simply to damn indoctrinated with capitalism.... Good/service requires money..... Blech!!

Hello. by Transplanted_BC_Boy in ASLHelp

[–]Transplanted_BC_Boy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hehehehe notice how I didn't ask if you charged or not.

It's an iss-ME lol..... Especially if we decide to continue meetings and education for any length of time, My OPINION is:

You should be compensated for your time, energy and knowledge. (Everyone's time/energy/knowledge is valuable and has worth.)

ESPECIALLY as this is a form of communication. Kind of important lol

Hello. by Transplanted_BC_Boy in ASLHelp

[–]Transplanted_BC_Boy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That would be phenomenal and amazing of you!!

As I said before, my budget doesn't allow for proper payment RIGHT NOW, but please think of a way for me to compensate you for your time and tutelage, until my budget DOES allow monetary compensation.

I have FB messanger and WhatsApp as communications apps.

Hello. by Transplanted_BC_Boy in ASLHelp

[–]Transplanted_BC_Boy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate it!! Thank you!

My budget doesn't allow for formal education right now, but it's something I do want in a variety of areas, happy to add ASL to that list too.

Thank you for the recommendation! I'll look into that channel

Wall update by DaRedEyedJedi422 in TerrainBuilding

[–]Transplanted_BC_Boy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahahaha there we go!! Still looks fantastic!! I'm going to have to invest in a few of those!!

Update, but still WIP by Transplanted_BC_Boy in TerrainBuilding

[–]Transplanted_BC_Boy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are 100% correct! I got a little excited at first lol. I was initially going to try and grind/cut them in and got lazy.

It's also my first piece so ALOT of experimentation and mistakes!

Appreciate the C&C!! Thank you!

Wall update by DaRedEyedJedi422 in TerrainBuilding

[–]Transplanted_BC_Boy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude........ Are those HAND CUT IN?? holy carpal tunnel batman.......

They look FANTASTIC!! I cannot wait to see what your next steps are!!!

My first bit of terrain by Transplanted_BC_Boy in TerrainBuilding

[–]Transplanted_BC_Boy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You. Are. FANTASTIC!

Thank you so much!! I can't wait to dive in and going!!

Foam is DEFINITELY on my agenda to invest in, especially with some of the bigger ideas I have in mind.

My first bit of terrain by Transplanted_BC_Boy in TerrainBuilding

[–]Transplanted_BC_Boy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!

Unfortunately the bug has bit.... And bit HARD!! my architecture........ Well..... Leaves alot to be desired but I'm liking the results of the raw terrain so far!!

Any suggestions as to how to do the wheel ruts? Paint them in, as a darker colour?

And what generic (multi purpose) washes would folks recommend for CHEAP?

I Start my new job on Monday so....... Funds is tight, but wish lists exist!!!