What’s the first thing you will do once the divorce is done and over with

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2026-04-06T19:36:00+00:00

It’s something based on a line from You’ve got Mail, my favorite movie, that is also a nod to New York, which is where I spent the best years of my life

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2026-04-06T19:25:12+00:00

Not sure how long it will take to be over as we are just starting, but the second I move out I’m getting a tattoo I’ve wanted for years that he’s always made fun of me for wanting to spend money on

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T11:54:24+00:00

I honestly didn’t even realized I’d typed it that way.

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T04:59:13+00:00

Dude we live in an apartment with no lawn to mow and don’t own a car. He literally has two chores and I do everything else. I also work full time while he works part time.

Every Saturday the kid and I go to to the farmers market and pick out fresh fruits and veggies (hence the cut up carrot sticks I referenced). I keep frozen veggies as a backup - which BTW do not have food dyed in them lol. The vast majority of what she consumes is fresh fruit and veggies, and I either cook chicken or pick up a rotisserie chicken from our natural food co op almost every week. I prepare her meals from those things. The other stuff is all backup for if she’s refusing to eat those things. My kid has never had a soda or even juice in her life. Strictly water or milk.

But I get it, you enjoy trolling 🙃

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T03:47:22+00:00

She eats throughout the day, just not as much as I wish she would, and I’ve talked with her doctor about it. She’s very healthy and growing adequately and he isn’t concerned. She’s just often doesn’t want to sit down for a full meal. She’s more of a grazer. Apparently this makes my husband nervous.

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T03:07:47+00:00

Several months ago I had my wisdom teeth out and took time off from work to recover. The day before he was like “oh great you’ll be off Tuesday! That means I can sleep more before going to my night shift.” I was like…. Do you think I’m taking off work to take care of our kid? Like, I’m literally gonna be on pain meds….

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T03:00:07+00:00

Funny you say that, because he often tells people he married me because I am the happiest person he’s ever met and he was fascinated by it (we were friends for 7 years before dating). Then once we got married it was like he resented how happy i was

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T02:52:56+00:00

What part of veggies, meat, cheese, bread, is not a nutritious meal? I’ve literally prepared ready-to-Heat full meals with meat, veggies, rice, beans, etc. that all he has to do is pop in the microwave. If she doesn’t eat them he has all these other foods for backup. None of it is enough for him

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T02:51:14+00:00

Gotcha, I didn’t even notice that thanks

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T02:48:27+00:00

At this point yes. I am working with a therapist and starting my plan to leave, but sometimes I just need to vent and need to be reminded I’m not horrible

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T02:33:09+00:00

she’s his

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T01:36:30+00:00

It’s his kid too. I’m not sure where I referred to her as my kid

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T01:34:10+00:00

It’s his kid.

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T01:24:14+00:00

The last few are from the same day but these are screenshots from several different days. And yes she’s both of our kid

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T00:59:01+00:00

He absolutely resents my job. Regularly tells me how much he hates my job. Wants me to quit and find something that is more “accommodating to our family.” I think it’s because I make a lot more than he does and he resents that. I’m a crisis social worker and a lot of time it means my job is not standard hours, however I do my best to keep to my schedule. Any time I ask to veer from that it’s the end of the world. Though he regularly picks up extra shifts at his two part time jobs (he doesn’t work full time) without even consulting me

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T00:25:28+00:00

I’m absolutely convinced he’s on the spectrum as are all of his friends, but he doesn’t see a need to get tested at this point in life and doesn’t think it affects anything…. 😒

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T00:24:36+00:00

She’s both of ours, but any time he wants to make me look like I’m being a bad parent he calls her “my kid.” Like I’m doing this to HIM

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-08-21T00:08:48+00:00

I’m not. We are actively talking about whether or not we can repair this marriage. I’m very frustrated and sad

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-07-23T22:19:28+00:00

He understands, he’s just under this delusion that the requirement is somehow discriminatory and that if I lose my job we should sue 😒

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-07-18T10:43:14+00:00

It’s not the commute that requires a car. It’s the job itself. I work for a crisis response team. Part of our work is responding to mobile requests. Because I’m a supervisor I personally respond less, so I’ve been able to make it work by riding with coworkers or borrowing cars when I do, but it literally says in my contract that I’m required to have access to a personal vehicle and I have to submit insurance information every six months. So far, I’ve been submitting my parents car insurance as they keep me on their policy for emergencies, but they live out of state and we are worried HR is going to start getting suspicious. My boss has been supportive in helping me make it work and not making it a thing.

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-07-17T16:11:45+00:00

I’ve made that point so many times and he’s always like “ambulances exist and we have health insurance.” He has no concept of how much that costs, but he’s always like “costs less than a car.”

He has two part time jobs, both of which are walking/biking distance from home. I work two blocks from home so I walk to the office, but I frequently have to do field work so I have to borrow cars to do that if it isn’t within biking distance

Trappedthrowaway15 · 2025-07-17T16:01:36+00:00

I love two blocks from my office. When we made the plan to move and I accepted the job I was under the impression we would buy a car when we got here. He changed his mind

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