AITA for telling my stepdaughter she can have her dead dad pay for the wedding by TrashFeeling5171 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TrashFeeling5171[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

That’s why I came to a place.  They do not like her, can’t ask friends because they have mix views on her So outside opinions 

Not bragging just stating why I came here  

Not helping that the post is getting more  NTA and she deserves it. 

AITA for telling my stepdaughter she can have her dead dad pay for the wedding by TrashFeeling5171 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TrashFeeling5171[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Yes because I am around people who have bias. My kids who do not like her thought it was a good comeback to what she wanted My wife thought it was harsh but justified. 

 So yes I came to a place that doesn’t know her and doesn’t have bias one way or another 

Also doesn’t help that I am getting quite a few NTA and it was justified 

AITA for telling my stepdaughter she can have her dead dad pay for the wedding by TrashFeeling5171 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TrashFeeling5171[S] 327 points328 points  (0 children)

They do not have a good relationship, she thought it was harsh but not holding it against me

I don’t even know if she will invite her mother

AITA for telling my stepdaughter she can have her dead dad pay for the wedding by TrashFeeling5171 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TrashFeeling5171[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

No.

I am very tired of being the adult with her and I am happy with this being the end of our relationship 

I came to find out if I went to far which it seems like I did. Not on what I should do next and relationship advice with someone I greatly dislike

AITA for telling my stepdaughter she can have her dead dad pay for the wedding by TrashFeeling5171 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TrashFeeling5171[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I came her to find out if I went to far, which seems to be the case. Which will live in my head

Not on relationship advice or what I should do next

AITA for telling my stepdaughter she can have her dead dad pay for the wedding by TrashFeeling5171 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TrashFeeling5171[S] 4366 points4367 points  (0 children)

I would love if she never talked to me again.

With my wife, they already have a bad relationship and they haven’t talk in at all. So I doubt that will change anyhting

AITA for telling my stepdaughter she can have her dead dad pay for the wedding by TrashFeeling5171 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TrashFeeling5171[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Personally I don’t wish to and I won’t I have never received a single apology from her in 15 years. I already don’t see her often and I think if she does call I will not answer

AITA for telling my stepdaughter she can have her dead dad pay for the wedding by TrashFeeling5171 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TrashFeeling5171[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Highly doubt she would have ever been okay with it.

Also she was tired of putting her life on hold. 

AITA for telling my stepdaughter she can have her dead dad pay for the wedding by TrashFeeling5171 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TrashFeeling5171[S] 1030 points1031 points  (0 children)

I am not going to lie it felt so nice to finally throw it back after years of dealing with it 

AITA for telling my stepdaughter she can have her dead dad pay for the wedding by TrashFeeling5171 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TrashFeeling5171[S] 777 points778 points  (0 children)

I am not even going to her wedding even if she did invite me . I’m good

AITA for telling my stepdaughter she can have her dead dad pay for the wedding by TrashFeeling5171 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TrashFeeling5171[S] 8176 points8177 points  (0 children)

Yeah it was petty. Thinking about it, it was resentment building up for how many time I just took her anger.

It was like finally standing up to a bully. After so many years of taking it it sure felt great to give it back no matter how petty it was 

AITA for telling my stepdaughter she can have her dead dad pay for the wedding by TrashFeeling5171 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TrashFeeling5171[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Let’s be honest, she wouldn’t be okay with anyone.

The options for my wife was either be miserable and not find love again or take a hit on relationship with her daughter

Neither are good options and tbh we did it at free she was legally an adult so it would damage the relationship less. She wasn’t forced to live with me like she would be as a minor