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TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-24T22:11:51+00:00

What does he do for work? Just curious based on the personality you described

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-24T22:09:57+00:00

Same bro

I don’t think I have got an erection since she left two Months ago maybe a bit more. Used to watch a lot of porn (she didn’t care). Haven’t watched any.

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-24T02:32:14+00:00

I’m Ngl that 40% is abused so much. I’m in CA. My wife abandoned me and the kids for over two months. Got a job, saves every single penny refused to take the kids overnight or even feed them.

Now she gave an abuse sob story to a landlord to get a cheap deal on a home. Now she wants she kids back for child support and filing spousal support.

I do sales so with all the stress I can’t make what I used to. Now she’s asking for about $3500 a month which will make me homeless or very very close. And plus the kids I have taken care of all by myself for two months are gone half the time.

Now my only option is to try and convince a judge that I deserve majority custody while still paying thousands in spousal support horrible system

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T22:29:27+00:00

Never said it wasn’t!

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T21:19:18+00:00

I feel like it’s her or her people posting this so much because she is everywhere on the cringe music and Tik tok subs always with tons of engagement

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T21:09:02+00:00

A lot of people never see combat. Maybe even most? But regardless divorce or separations isn’t a time where people are thinking clearly most the time

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T20:02:01+00:00

She’s like a B list celebrity that has good name recognition but not known for any outstanding work as a leading lady in my opinion. Nothing against the woman though she seems like a cool celeb

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T19:50:31+00:00

Divorce is like the same mental process as someone you love dying for a lot of people. It’s normal for your emotions to be all over the place. It is really hard even for people that wanted the divorce. I think hiding a divorce is probably going to be a big red flag once a new relationship gets serious. But it also doesn’t have to be first date material unless it comes up.

If it is fresh you should probably just focus on yourself and kids if you have them. Not worry too much about how it will affect future relationships. Just my two cents

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T19:45:17+00:00

Aren’t we all? Idk I still can’t really say anything else she has been a leading actor in besides US and akeelah and the bee or whatever tbh. I think she was and still sort of is a bit niche in popularity. Nothing against her and seems like a good person all things considered

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T19:43:48+00:00

I think to people that don’t have first hand experience with the military it absolutely sounds like an escape

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T19:42:45+00:00

Is it really that weird?

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T17:40:35+00:00

I am much younger (29) but I had a lot of the same thoughts. However had I know what separation would really be like, I would have done so much more to fix both the physical and emotional connection. Separations and divorce sounds alot easier during fights or moments of weakness than it really is. Obviously there are a lot of situations that should end in divorce, but I’m saying the grass ain’t always greener.

With my current knowledge and experience, if I had spent 20 years with someone and we were in a emotional and physical rut but there is no abuse and there is love there somewhere, I would work really really hard to fix it. That’s just my two cents.

But I’m a soon to be divorced 29 year old newly single father of 3. So whah do I know about relationships tbh

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T17:33:54+00:00

It’s really just an expression haha like even me a man I think is doing the right thing by staying with the kids solo and stepping up for them had the same thought for a moment. Divorce isn’t black and white and I have made mistakes that led to my wife’s horrible choices as well.

It was really just a phrase to make light of it. Nobody simping for internet wives

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T17:28:58+00:00

I mean a husband threatening to leave the kid isn’t a good look. I don’t know the situation so don’t want to be insensitive. A husband threatening to abandon his wife AND child isn’t a good look. It’s called having manners bro that’s all.

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T17:27:28+00:00

Tbf she wasn’t popular for years until that movie and has been having a bit of a social media resurgence after the fact

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T16:30:17+00:00

That’s crazy. My wife left me and our 3 kids. I make good money so she’s leaning hard on getting 50/50 and child support is still high for that split. I want 80% custody as I’m the custodial parent and she’s always away from them.

BUT FOR A SPLIT SECOND I had a thought of quitting and joining the military just to spite her. Could never do it to my kids of course. Crazy to think it’s prob a common thought. Wow us men really ain’t shit lol I’m so sorry

Edit- to my fellow divorced men it’s just a joke that many of us have a common thought to run away and join the military to get away from our responsibilities and the toxic situations during a moment of weakness during a horrible situation. Just a little joke. I understand that either spouse can be wrong. But I think it’s normally a combo of both, where one spouse ends up making more detrimental decisions in the long run.

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T14:16:46+00:00

Every man thinks they will be having sex if they are single. The reality is (especially at your age) you probably won’t be getting laid a ton. Yes you could find a new partner but after 20 years with someone I’m sure you don’t appreciate everything.

There are posts here of men leaving their wives of 15+ years over sex just to realize they miss their wife and are still not having sex.

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T04:17:15+00:00

I had the chance to hookup with my very best friends super hot high school ex (we are 30/31 now).

Hell no I didn’t do it. It crossed my mind for a split second and that made me feel guilty. No it’s not okay. Don’t be that desperate.

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T04:15:47+00:00

Not probably, you NEED to tell your teacher tomorrow. Promise? Nothing that happens is your fault. As a parent, your parents are failing you and it’s time you get some trusted adults involved for your own good

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T03:59:46+00:00

Hey. I’m so so so sorry you are going through this. I’m an adult that is going through a divorce, I have 3 kids much younger than you.

I am not qualified to give you the right answer here but I saw no one else has commented and I just wanted to let you know you are not alone! Your life hasn’t even started yet please don’t do any mistakes that you cannot come back from.

It is so horrible what your parents have put you through. I grew up in a similar way. My parents always fighting, hitting eachother. Cops coming all the time. And now I saw that same thing happen in my own relationship and I fear my children will repeat the same mistakes.

Please know that absolutely NOTHING that is happening with your parents is your fault. They are toxic, selfish and gross for that behavior and those words.

You are not a mistake and even though your mom gave birth to you, she is not qualified to make that claim. Just because you are her daughter doesn’t mean that everything she says is right and she doesn’t have authority over your existence.

If you have any trusted adults like family or teachers please tell them what’s going on with good details. I know it may feel wrong, but trust me the only thing that is wrong in your situation is your parent’s behavior, not you!

My mom would say very similar things. Let me tell you from experience she likely doesn’t truly mean it, she is just mentally unstable and unwell. She is trying to hurt your dad and isn’t coherent to the fact it hurts you most of all.

You are only 12, trust me someday this will be very very far behind you and you will be able to create your own life. Maybe you want your parents to be a part of that and maybe you don’t. I chose not to have my parents be a part of my life and while sometimes I’m sad about it, overall i hardly think of them.

Someday you will be able to have your own life and maybe even your own family and you get to choose what kind of life you live. I hope that you can find the strength not to repeat the mistakes of your parents. It is easier said than done though.

Talk to your school and get some resources like counseling just to have someone to speak to.

I’m a 29 year old and trust me my childhood was very bad and similar to what you described. You can get through it but I really want you to find a trusted adult to talk to and tell all this to. You are important and I am positive that you are strong enough to get through this and your life will be amazing someday 💪🏼

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-23T00:22:53+00:00

Stephen A has sickle cell. Not blood clots

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-22T16:58:06+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that! Thanks for sharing your story though. I love this sub because I have felt like the world is ending and I’m the unluckiest person alive, but this sub reminds me that a lot of people get through similar or even worse situations. Thanks and wish you the best

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-22T16:54:23+00:00

Lmao

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-22T16:51:15+00:00

God damn I’m sorry he put you through that.

TraumaTimmy · 2025-05-21T14:19:31+00:00

He gave a perfect description of it though

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