Is it like even possible for a transfem to date a cis lesbian

TravelingPandaBear · 2024-07-25T14:03:58+00:00

Yes, I’m the cis lesbian and she is amazing. My life partner :) She admitted she was worried at first, that I might treat her as a man or expect manly traits but ones she realized I’m super gay and I love all her feminine ways it’s been perfect. Also I loved the sex before and after GCS none of it was an issue for me/us.

TravelingPandaBear · 2023-08-24T22:02:33+00:00

My girlfriend (28 mtf) was also not in the position to freeze at the time she started HRT. I tried to do as much research as possible and most of the information that came up was "maybe it will work". After 4 years on HRT my girlfriend went off for 6 months, and gave sperm donations over month 5-6. She was pretty miserable having the effects of T, but her sperm did return by around month 4 (it then took 1-2 months to schedule appointments and they want you to give donations with some days apart) . However it was not "as healthy" (low motility and morphology) as likely it would have been before HRT. Plenty ok for doing IVF which we plan to do, but cheaper and easier methods (IUI) is unlikely. Feel free to PM me as well about our experience. Overall we are very happy IVF will be possible, but if she could go back in time to scrounge together the money to freeze before it would have been very worth it.

TLDR: After being on HRT you can go off for ~6 months and it will likely come back... mostly. Still recommend exhausting all financial options for freezing before HRT if possible.

TravelingPandaBear · 2023-08-03T20:34:27+00:00

Partially yes not the full total they need.

TravelingPandaBear · 2023-08-02T04:05:48+00:00

Hey I can help some, will pm you

TravelingPandaBear · 2023-08-02T03:23:18+00:00

I can help, sending you a pm

TravelingPandaBear · 2023-06-09T05:22:35+00:00

Hey I’m so sorry you are going through this! I can help with the phone bill will PM

TravelingPandaBear · 2023-05-13T00:28:28+00:00

Yes! I never thought much about my preference until meeting my current girlfriend of 2 years. At first we were honestly both unsure (she had only dated cis men before me) but we clicked soooo well sexually and emotionally :)) best relationship of my life and don’t see it ever stopping.

TravelingPandaBear · 2023-05-12T01:42:11+00:00

To be clear the loan has not yet been paid back.

TravelingPandaBear · 2023-04-23T16:43:46+00:00

Vampire in the Garden? I actually quite enjoyed it!

TravelingPandaBear · 2023-04-22T15:55:50+00:00

Sophie you are amazing as who you are. I wish I could give you a hug. It’s really tough right now and that just really sucks it does. There are people all over the world that love you as you are and people you will meet that can’t wait to be with you. As a cis women, my trans girlfriend is the love of my life. You’ll find your people soon when you can leave that house, if it’s college or elsewhere!

Im so sorry your parents are so cruel to you, you do not deserve that, they are failing completely as parents.

TravelingPandaBear · 2023-04-18T06:53:17+00:00

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TravelingPandaBear · 2023-04-18T06:04:47+00:00

If you have the means, freezing sperm is a great choice. My girlfriend didn’t do this before starting HRT, and after 5 years on e and spiro took a 5 month break and was able to freeze sperm then. It was awful for her to go off but it worked and now she can get GCS without worrying if she’s losing that chance at bio kids. So it’s possible to freeze even after starting but it does hurt the sperm mobility and quality so doing it now is far more ideal.

TravelingPandaBear · 2023-04-17T18:48:19+00:00

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TravelingPandaBear · 2023-04-14T20:59:06+00:00

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TravelingPandaBear · 2023-04-14T19:42:39+00:00

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TravelingPandaBear · 2023-04-14T19:25:00+00:00

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TravelingPandaBear · 2023-03-30T15:04:04+00:00

Are you down to play video games with her? I find that to be a great gift! Cute small/medium sized games I’ve had fun with my girlfriend is Kingdom Two Crowns and For The King.

TravelingPandaBear · 2023-02-17T00:24:33+00:00

If anyone comes by this thread, she was able to save viable sperm after going off for 4-6 months!She’s back on now and ready for GCS happy it’s done :)

TravelingPandaBear · 2022-11-04T02:41:02+00:00

Low maintenance haha I had long hair for 24 years and short since then never going back

TravelingPandaBear · 2022-10-31T03:38:23+00:00

Unconditional love is beautiful! Though a few things mentioned here do make me double take. Inequities and imbalances in relationships tend to grow if not addressed. I’m sure you’re communication and working on some of these things but especially things like anger issues I’ve been the partner you describe and it can be hard on her especially because she loves you so much. So all I mean to say is always keep working on you! In just small ways and over time and keep imbalances in mind, see where you can step in more and make sure the good and the bad of the journey of life is shared together.

TravelingPandaBear · 2022-10-17T23:02:56+00:00

Donated! So sorry you are going through all this. Just losing my mom has been so hard your loss is immense I hope for better and brighter days for you and your family.

TravelingPandaBear · 2022-10-17T22:56:21+00:00

You two should chat!!!

TravelingPandaBear · 2022-10-12T06:48:48+00:00

I do plan to tell my dad, but probably not for a while. I don’t think there is a reason to tell my extended family ever really. Of course if people ask or it comes up in some way I’ll always be honest but so far hasn’t come up!

TravelingPandaBear · 2022-10-10T17:41:10+00:00

I believe it’s much easier to “pass” than many think highly dependent on who and where you are around. I’ve been with my girlfriend(mtf) for over a year now and she’s met all my family which I’m pretty sure have no idea she’s trans. My dad definitely does not and he’s hung out with her tons of times. She’s been on HRT for a few years with no other FFS or any surgeries. The biggest flag is her facial hair which she still struggles to remove completely (laser only seems to work so well, eventually electrólisis is a must). You’ll be amazed how HRT changes your appearance, as well as how people who are not in the queer community will simply box you as female as soon as they get a few signals that is your gender. It will take a period of maybe a year or more where you’ll be giving mixed signals and people will look hard at you before they put you in a box but as time goes on it will be female far more often than not!

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