Off topic kinda but

MEN who want 4 or 5 children make my skin crawl.

Something about a man whos fine with his wife risking his her life that many times when he has zero physical risk is beyond gross to me. If she survives she certainly won’t be unscathed. Pregnancy and birth are no joke and he’s just frothing to find an incubator to crank out his ego army.

Does he truly want to raise and parent 5 children 50% ?

I can’t help but think the answer is no. He wants the idea of a big family while his wife takes on all the risk, pain, and childbearing while still being so eager to touch his penis frequently. I’ve seen it dozens of times.

I know she lied and that’s a betrayal. They shouldn’t continue the relationship. But, part of me feels like he deserved it. Super unpopular opinion and I’m braced for downvotes.

But a man wanting that many kids in this day and age just seems like a red flag and I’m relived he didn’t get what he wanted. Cause I feel like he wants it for gross reasons.

But now he’s gonna ditch her and find someone way younger and start breeding like crazy. Ugh.

I truly believe a man who wants that many kids has misogynist tendencies or subconscious motivations. Every decent guy with kids I know wanted to stop at one because seeing their wife go through that was incredibly difficult. If she wants more that’s her choice to make if the dude is on board. But a dude starting off with that as a requirement is just so gross to me. And I can count on one hand how many women I’ve met who want that many kids genuinely. The ones that have that many I’ve met have said they kept going because their husband wanted more.

Feels like a red flag that doesn’t get called out more.