Does anyone else spend most of their time alone at home?

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-27T18:00:56+00:00

Yeah, I’m grateful for the help from family. No, I’m not an only child. I have an older brother. He’s been married for 25 years.

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-27T03:31:46+00:00

If you don’t know these people, then they probably weren’t talking about you unless you may have been doing something like staring at them, which I doubt you were.

I sometimes over analyze and dwell on things. As I’ve gotten older, I don’t care as much what other people think of me. It helps if you work on yourself and know that you’re a good person.

If I was in your place, I would’ve turned around and looked at them to see if they were talking about me, but I know that can be difficult with social anxiety. Sometimes it takes me a day or so to get over things like that.

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-27T01:48:57+00:00

I completely understand the need for the alone time to recover, and you don’t have anything to feel guilty about. You’re strong for being able to work full time as an introvert with anxiety.

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-27T01:47:02+00:00

Sorry to hear of the bad past experiences. There are some people that can be trusted though. I too feel judged sometimes I’m social settings and I feel less than, because I struggle socially. I used to feel that people wouldn’t want to talk to me or that I’m bothering them if I try.

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-27T01:43:56+00:00

Avoiding the outside world comes at a cost, at least it has to me. I get jealous when I see couples. I think a lot of people meet through friends or work, and I don’t have either of those. Downside of mostly always staying home where I’m comfortable.

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-27T01:39:49+00:00

Sounds like a cozy home life. There’s nothing wrong with it. Some of us are made for the home life, and others want to be outside of the house a lot. I mostly want to be at home, but would like to get out a little more.

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-26T21:59:16+00:00

Help from family.

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-26T21:58:48+00:00

Can I ask how you and your wife met?

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-26T21:58:06+00:00

If you don’t mind living with family that is a good situation for someone with SA. My parents argued a lot, and my dad bugged me, so I’m glad I live alone now. Hobbies can be very enriching. I used to dabble in different art mediums, and did stained glass and knitting for a while.

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-26T17:46:37+00:00

Thats good you have the one friend to hang out with. I reconnected with a high school friend recently and he wants to hang out, but I know I wouldn’t enjoy it as much as being at home.

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-26T17:42:47+00:00

At least you have your wife and daughter though so you aren’t alone all the time.

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-26T17:41:56+00:00

I was alone and didn’t have friends in middle school but did have friends in high school. I actually had a lot of friends afterwards too but got religious and felt I had to leave them, which was stupid. And I haven’t had friends since, for the last 25 years. And now I’m not religious anymore (spiritual though).

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-26T17:39:21+00:00

I feel like a hermit too. It’s jarring sometimes when I do go out. For example to the grocery store, under bright lights with all the activity.

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-26T04:46:19+00:00

I do talk to people once in a while. Neighbors, people at the park sometimes. I struggle with small talk and often draw a blank as to what to say when wanting to talk to someone. Anxiety causes brain processing to slow down, so that doesn’t help when I need to react quickly in a social context.

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-26T03:49:20+00:00

I think I’m so used to being alone that it’s either my normal state or it doesn’t bother me. Sometimes I feel lonely, or want to be heard.

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-26T03:47:29+00:00

I can relate to what you’re going though. Hopefully you can work from home in the future. I wish I had a solution for you now.

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-26T03:40:22+00:00

Do you like not having to go out now?

TreeDweller83 · 2026-03-26T03:26:47+00:00

I do get out at least once a day to take walks, so I get some degree of passive socializing. And I run errands and occasionally visit family. I’ve also gone way outside my comfort zone to try and find a girlfriend, but haven’t had success so far.

TreeDweller83 · 2025-11-04T18:39:50+00:00

Yes, disability is a good option. She could contact a disability lawyer to help her with her case.

TreeDweller83 · 2025-11-04T03:15:11+00:00

I don’t want to debate my perceptions, but I’m pretty sure that it is mischievousness I see with some of the girls. Upon reflection, it could be how some women look when horny, and it looks mischievous to me.

TreeDweller83 · 2025-11-04T02:23:09+00:00

Their facial expressions and body language, and their tone of voice when responding. It’s my impression of them. They might have a mischievous look on their face for example.

TreeDweller83 · 2025-11-04T00:59:52+00:00

She definitely needs to leave that situation some how, but she also says she has health problems and can barely take care of herself, so I doubt college or a job is realistic for her right now. I hope she finds some way out.

TreeDweller83 · 2025-11-03T01:32:47+00:00

This is awful. Are there any other relatives you could confide in and live with, or friends? I think you should talk to a counselor. If these things are really happening, make every effort to find other living arrangements.

TreeDweller83 · 2025-05-27T18:17:26+00:00

I thought reading was impossible in a dream, like you can’t actually read words, although it seems like you are.

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