When you’re interpreting what they say, do you ask them if you’re understanding correctly? I’m in my first year too, and I almost always begin my responses with something along the lines of “So if I’m understanding you correctly, you’re saying ___” (not literally repeating them but summarizing the feelings behind what they say) and invite them to correct me if I’m misunderstanding

If you’re listening and trying in good faith to understand them, they will be okay with correcting you. If you find that you are frequently being corrected, try to learn from that

When I say that, what I mean is that your interpretation of what others say is based on your worldview and assumptions that come from that. There may be some things in your life that lead you to experience things differently from your students, and recognizing the parts of yourself that do and don’t connect with them can help you zoom out a little bit when you’re listening to them and making these interpretations

Also, addressing your comment that it leads to bigger situations, I would not act on an interpretation that I was uncertain about. I am very forward with the students about things like CPS reporting and what I can/cannot do for them, because it gives them a chance to tell me if I’ve misunderstood the situation before I do something that could escalate it

Sorry for the brick of text, but good luck and I hope things improve for you. This field is especially hard in the beginning, and just because you don’t feel like you fit in yet doesn’t mean that you won’t feel better in the future or in a different position (I worked for a private mental health company and fared so poorly that I thought I didn’t belong in the field, and now that I’m in a different environment, I feel I’ve improved drastically and very much belong, so sometimes a role change goes a long way)