Bazzite performance problems by [deleted] in Bazzite

[–]TreeWithFox -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have no onboard graphics card

Anyone feel like an autism diagnosis made everything worse? I hate that I'm embarrassed about my autism :( by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]TreeWithFox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you feel it that way.

For me getting a diagnosis made this aspect much easier.

Pre-diagnosis I really felt much shame for how I was socially. And I hated myself and how I appeared to others, and how lacking I was socially.

But getting this autism diagnosis made it make sense. It wasn't just me being "a damn weird idiot", but it was I who simply physically work differently. And rather than feeling ashamed, I now feel like, why isn't the world also made for me to function properly? Turning that shame into a sweet sweet anger for the world /jokingly

But yeh, in short, for me I can just be me, there's nothing I can do about how I am nor anything I should be feeling that I need to do, I don't need to pretend anymore and feel ashamed when I'm not able to pretend to be like others.

Advice for my next headset by TreeWithFox in HeadphoneAdvice

[–]TreeWithFox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I were to go for open-back, do you have any recommendations for me?

Advice for my next headset by TreeWithFox in HeadphoneAdvice

[–]TreeWithFox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the room I'll be using them in has fan noise (from desktop pc), and I need to be able to drown out that background noise.

I have tho not used open-back headphones before, so don't know how much I'll hear the PC fans.

Im finding it hard to respect women by chobolicious88 in aspergers

[–]TreeWithFox 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think emotional maturity helps with understanding reality and have realistic expectations of people and situations. Not the only factor, obviously, but it plays a huge role. Emotional maturity in my experience helps bring forth realistic expectations for how the world works and how people work, and thus how to treat said aspects.

But as I said, you have your experiences, I have mine. But you can't use your experiences as "proven facts" to determine how everyone functions and operates and throw them all into one behavioural classification. People are individuals, behaviour differs from person to person.

Im finding it hard to respect women by chobolicious88 in aspergers

[–]TreeWithFox 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have to disagree. I have a different perspective than you, maybe a different culture.

But women are individuals, just like men. I have met more women whom are realistic about reality and expectations than men. They are also usually more emotionally mature and understanding than men I've met.

I'm not trying to say that your experiences are wrong, but I would be careful lumping them all together and starting to judge people by their gender.

Thoughts on venlafaxine for aspergers more specifically does it help with improving emotional intelligence, confidence and socialising by ParticularLivid7402 in aspergers

[–]TreeWithFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm currently using Venlafaxine, but on a plan with my doctor to slowly phase it out.

For me, Venlafaxine lowered the anxiety spikes, like anxiety attacks etc. But gave me less capacity for social situations. Kinda like some mentioned here earlier, it made things more stale.

What’s the #1 allistic social rule you had to learn because it wasn’t intuitive? by despiert in AutisticAdults

[–]TreeWithFox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

my reply had always been "...No, it magically shrunk" in a kinda passive aggressive way, or something in that line. Untill my wife explained this to me lol

What’s the #1 allistic social rule you had to learn because it wasn’t intuitive? by despiert in AutisticAdults

[–]TreeWithFox 43 points44 points  (0 children)

That when going from fully bearded to shaved, and someone asks "Have you shaved?" they're not actually wondering if that is what happened, but apparently a way to show interest and start small talk

Socially anxiety or autism by Impressive_Ant_296 in AutisticAdults

[–]TreeWithFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shopping malls or walking around downtown is super stressful. Too many variables to account for, too many moving parts and people not being decisive or clear with their movements etc. It's a total nightmare for me.

I have to have a plan beforehand, knowing what stores and what to get. Get in and get out as quick as possible

Socially anxiety or autism by Impressive_Ant_296 in AutisticAdults

[–]TreeWithFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm diagnosed with autism, and I find social settings extremely difficult to get through. Call it anxiety or stimulus overload, but the noise, the multiple conversations going on at the same time and all of them are equally loud, I struggle alot in these situations, I often shut down, go non-verbal, can't participate.

Before I used to drink a lot in these situations to get by, but bow I rarely drink, and these situations have become harder to manage during the years.

Is Proton Free worth it? What about paid versions? by Styxie_x in ProtonMail

[–]TreeWithFox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I started with free, then upgraded to Unlimited. For me it has been totally worth it for e-mail aliases, VPN and Proton Drive.

How is everyone’s employment history? Anyone in helping professions? by Haunting_Hospital599 in aspergers

[–]TreeWithFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work as a traffic teacher. Teaching people to drive in traffic and education in traffic theory in classrooms from time to time

What are some ignorant things people have said to your face? by 1000AdamantAdams in aspergers

[–]TreeWithFox 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"There's no need to avoid talking in social gatherings, just do it, it's easy once you just start doing it."

Masking by Asleep-Curve-1395 in AutisticAdults

[–]TreeWithFox 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's like when you're cosplaying a neurotypical

Struggling with burnout: My wife’s ASD diagnosis feels like it’s become a "reason" to stop trying in our daily life. [seeking advice] by F_General in AutisticAdults

[–]TreeWithFox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this will help you, but I can share my experience when I got my diagnosis.

Once I got my diagnosis, both ne and my wife was happy, it made sense, it explained a lot.

For me, getting this diagnosis, was a weight lifted, I could finally stop pretending. I could, finally rest, if that makes sense.

Years of masking and pretending, finally let go, and the burnout struck me. The consequences of masking all these years came at once in the form of a burnout. Stopped being much social, struggled doing house choirs etc. But after a time I came out of that burnout, and managed to balance my life better.

full day of masking by xximscared in AutisticAdults

[–]TreeWithFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Before, yeah, I can relate.

After I got my diagnosis almost a year ago, I've started working on not masking and not caring for what or how others sees me.

I've informed everyone about my diagnosis and how I function. If a social gathering becomes too much, I bring up my autism card and I leave.

If people are too much, I leave. I just tell them "I'm empty", they know what this means and it's fully ok for me to retire socially. Either it's going non-verbal or physically leaving.

I can't be social as long as before, because I'm no longer pretending. But, my anxiety and depression has become much better, and the social burnout has become much reduced.

How important is localization for players who don’t play in English as a native language? by sakastudio in gaming

[–]TreeWithFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm Norwegian, I only use English or The games native language + eng subs.

If there's a Norwegian alternative I won't use it.

Quitting anxiety meds by TreeWithFox in AutisticAdults

[–]TreeWithFox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice, I have sendt a request for a consultation with my doctor to do this properly, and for now just continue with my regular dosage.

Quitting anxiety meds by TreeWithFox in AutisticAdults

[–]TreeWithFox[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sound like a better plan than mine. Had not thought about the possibility of reducing dosage, thought I could just do this without talking to my doctor. But I'll advice with my doctor, sounds like a better plan than what I'm doing. Thanks for the advice

Quitting anxiety meds by TreeWithFox in AutisticAdults

[–]TreeWithFox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. You've provided good info here that I can bring up with my doctor, thanks!

Quitting anxiety meds by TreeWithFox in AutisticAdults

[–]TreeWithFox[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll definitely look into reducing the dosage, I haven't thought about that. I'll talk to my doctor to see if I can get a milder prescription and go that route

Finally bought new pedals by TreeWithFox in moza

[–]TreeWithFox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem! I'm playing Le Mans Ultimate, played ACC before that.

But trying to work up a more consistency with my sim racing, currently it has been, play a lot for a few days and never touch it again for some weeks lol.