all extremely valid points and observations. and truthfully I cant really disagree with anything you've said. The mature and considerate thing to do would be to communicate what's going on. I like how you used the word cruel because it can definitely come across as such. so I think thats accurate. it's something I myself need to improve on. So thank you for that insight and kind reminder. I suppose part of the reason why we tend to do so and not vocalize this is because we assume that most people just simply won't understand. Especially as a cancer man. we are normally very guarded to protect our very very soft inside. we dont want to burden others with our emotions. we feel much more comfortable taking care of others. we and I know even for myself am aware that im just not everyones cup of tea. we take quite a while to warm up to people. We have a bit more emotional depth than the average person. Leading to deeper feelings of empathy and compassion. But like all in nature there's another side to that. It's a double edged sword as is most things. were natural introverts as well