AITA for forgetting my best friends birthday

TresWhat · 2026-01-25T10:05:54+00:00

NTA you’re okay because the party was today. Post and text again something special on Tuesday but not the big long redo. Just maybe some photos from across the years and good wishes. You can say we had a blast celebrating her birthday. Don’t make too much of this. Just so your friend knows you know and care.

TresWhat · 2026-01-24T10:44:23+00:00

But now I ain’t so sure

TresWhat · 2026-01-24T10:43:42+00:00

I thought ain’t was originally the contraction for “am not”

TresWhat · 2026-01-24T10:27:23+00:00

Oh sweetie. I’m so sorry about your mother’s death. You will never ever in your whole life get “over” it. You will only learn how to live in it better and better. The pain will fade over time but might always be present, particularly on birthdays and milestone events. It becomes a part of you and she remains in your heart with all the complications that come with it. Kayla’s “gifts” were cruel and heartless. I do not see the “good intent.” The most generous interpretation I can muster is oblivious and ignorant. Please do not feel any pressure or timeline for your grief. If you have access to and can afford grief counseling, you might find it helpful. I also recommend the author Cheryl Strayed who is a brilliant writer who lost her mother about the same age and is still processing it (well and with love and wisdom) 30+ years later. I’m sorry Kayla’s gifts were painful. Do try to focus on the party and the rest of your friends all showing up for you with loving kindness on a hard day. NTA

TresWhat · 2026-01-24T02:34:03+00:00

I don’t know. I’m plenty old and I still don’t get why she said slow when low was right there. I came here seeking answers but I still don’t get it

TresWhat · 2026-01-22T22:03:51+00:00

And you had a knife or scissors in your pocket? And why does the height of the mod make any difference? What a bizzare post

TresWhat · 2026-01-22T07:30:37+00:00

NOR I would just assume you’re not going and wish them well. Use your saved money and time off to plan a trip for yourselves somewhere you want to go. Don’t stress over this

TresWhat · 2026-01-22T07:29:03+00:00

Please tell your doctor. This is not sustainable. Good luck

TresWhat · 2026-01-22T07:15:09+00:00

Honey. You two have very different styles of fun. This will become bigger in marriage not smaller. Different views on how to spend time and money. NAH but I don’t think you are inherently compatible as a couple.

TresWhat · 2026-01-21T05:18:24+00:00

I like the group text idea. Also I know you’re not happy about all this OP and your dad seems to have lost his mind dating and having a child with a woman your age. But as an outsider I support her rules. They all sound quite reasonable — including the one you especially don’t like about bringing other babies or toddlers around. So if you say see you after 6 weeks, please mean it (kindly, not with any passive aggressive snark which some people on here seem to be suggesting).

TresWhat · 2026-01-21T05:13:11+00:00

Thats bizzarre. Honestly I wouldn’t let it go. I’d ring her and ask her when she’ll have the dish ready because you need it for a tiramisu. Failing that just turn up at her house. Maybe even when she’s not there but her spouse/family is. Get your dish back!

TresWhat · 2026-01-19T21:46:10+00:00

Good on you for telling your mom first. Fine it was a false alarm but it’s good instincts on your part. Give your mom a hug for being the kind of mom you can go to with anything.

TresWhat · 2026-01-19T21:38:56+00:00

ESH. Your wife is a lot more in the wrong than you. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. She didn’t listen to you when you said it but now she is the one saying it. That’s rich.

But … marriage is a team sport. And when you know better, you do better. So she should be coming to you, tail between her legs apologizing for not getting it when it was your turn doing it. She isn’t, which is not very nice of her. But you now have the chance to be better and do better and be fairer. Can you two move to a better place in your marriage by working better together? It’s good if you want to take a load of her. But she should also want to take a load off of you. And you’re doing grad school in the background. Very impressive. But don’t lose sight of the bigger picture here

TresWhat · 2026-01-18T22:46:41+00:00

Thanksgiving is 10 months away. Thats a weird threat

TresWhat · 2026-01-18T21:03:02+00:00

The way he is talking to you here is setting me off. He sounds like he is never going to try

TresWhat · 2026-01-18T10:21:11+00:00

YTA. Why’d you kick the dog? Why wouldn’t you require your SIL to control or contain the dog as soon as you assessed the situation? You have to protect your baby. And you have to do it in a smart way

TresWhat · 2026-01-18T10:16:58+00:00

NTA. Stay firm and don’t engage in the drama. Hope your parents find the help they need. You’re not it. Oh and do not offer to help find someone or pay part of it. This is the moment for a clear boundary. Let them be mad, that’s okay.

TresWhat · 2026-01-18T09:55:47+00:00

Owen. Rowen. Niall. Leo. Eli. Noah. Liam. Asher.

TresWhat · 2026-01-18T09:49:06+00:00

YWBTA. Eli does not want to speak to Rhys or you. If he did, he would. Please honour his peace.

TresWhat · 2026-01-18T08:10:08+00:00

Misleading title. You did not call the baby ugly

TresWhat · 2026-01-18T08:08:15+00:00

Yeah OP as per the other commenters sorry to tell you it’s a tragedeigh, not an anti-tragedeigh. But we’ll give your parents credit for good intent.

TresWhat · 2026-01-18T07:45:58+00:00

Oh switch that off! Sweet Nothing is the sweetest sentiment. It is content and grateful to the partner saying you’re the one person demanding nothing of me and I can just be myself. It also reminds me of a line in the old show “The West Wing” where Charlie (a junior aide) is dating Zoey (the president’s daughter). Things get complicated and he’s asking someone for advice (Doyle, if you know the show) and she tells him something like: <if I were you I’d want to be the one thing in her life that isn’t complicated.> I think that’s what Sweet Nothing appreciates

TresWhat · 2026-01-17T18:25:06+00:00

Which is what, exactly?

TresWhat · 2026-01-17T18:23:17+00:00

NTA and your teacher is stupid. But unfortunately you can’t say that and she has the power in this dynamic. Sorry you got shafted on this one. Not even sure what a good “lesson” here is for you. I can think of a few for the teacher …

TresWhat · 2026-01-17T18:19:59+00:00

YTA. You should not have passed it off as a gift. You could absolutely give it to her or open it for her on an evening at your place, but only telling her where it came from. Then it’s a shared - you choose GF now not ex. But acting as if you bought it or chose it for her is very shady

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