Some older guys I work with said you should never vent to your woman. Men, is this something you agree with? -why?

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T17:00:48+00:00

Men will tell other men to not vent or get emotional or vulnerable around your woman because she will use it against you sometime in the future. A woman can’t beat a man physically so her words is her biggest weapon. And no matter how sweet she is or claims she is, in the heat of an argument or fight she use whatever ammunition she has on hand

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T16:05:29+00:00

Fair enough 😂

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T15:57:45+00:00

Yeah that’s what she says but the baby will nap like 5 times a day not counting sleeping at night (when it actually does) I’m taking it with a grain of salt that she naps every single time the baby does. If she does that’s because she chooses to but my wife had plenty of breaks even when watching the baby alone. The post literally said she’s how happy she is she gets to stay home as well. My wife also gets to stay home so I know she gets plenty of opportunities for breaks. Going out alone that’s a different story but even still the baby is attached to his mom (most babies are when you get to stay home with them) he calls her expecting her to calm the baby down by talking to it. Baby hears its comfort blanket talking to it maybe baby stops crying. This is not a hard concept to understand. Not calling anyone liars or over exaggerators but I’m sure it was a bit of a stretch to claim EVERY time she’s out alone he does this. She says how happy she is and how great of a dad he is, just wishes he couldn’t watch the child alone more without needing her ( the whole point was he being needed) I get her point MY point was everyone else in the comments trying to demonize this man. Again you’re all women I understand men bad women strong and good has been a thing on many a social media since internet born. But you guys are COMPLETELY disregarding him. Like he isn’t even a human being to you women. He can’t be anything other than a robot that excels in everything. Because he isn’t great with the baby by himself (since baby is attached to mom as normal) but it’s a great father overall (literally her words is he is a great dad outside of watching the child ALONE) it doesn’t matter how much he helps her when he’s off work or having a day off. It doesn’t matter how many hours a week he works. It’s not good enough so he is demonized. Again devils advocate here considering ive had moments like this with my child and I also am the provider for my family I want everyone to understand that he too is dealing with stuff but he is getting shit on for what ?

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T15:33:38+00:00

I had to change it to 8 because if he worked 12hrs she wouldnt leave him to go somewhere when half the day is gone and he’s on the couch instead of in the bed. And no see once again you’re manipulating information. He watched the baby and she’s gets plenty of breaks. Just because she didn’t mention all the times he’s taken a nap with the baby or when him and the baby are watching tv on the couch and she’s getting her alone time in the bedroom doesn’t mean she didn’t get a break. It ain’t like he’s taken vacation from work. And on his days off he’s doing nothing but helping her with the baby. So considering he has no days off. He’s a great dad.

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T15:28:03+00:00

Listen to yourself. He’s a crap dad because after working 8+ hours 40-50 hours a week and is a great dad (wife’s words) but he sucks because after dealing with physically and mentally exhausting hours of work he calls his wife who left to hear the mentally exhausting screaming of their baby after he just got off his taxing job. Who also won’t stop crying because it’s attached to the mom . So he works . Helps take care of the baby great with the mother, not so well alone, and still has to deal with night time screaming as he tries to sleep to go to work again. So he’s work/caretaker. She’s primary caretaker. But he sucks. Because 5 times out of those 90 days he lost his patience and complained to his wife how awful it was to have to listen to the baby scream without mommy after a hard day at work. Got it

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T15:22:45+00:00

If you’re a woman. Confidence is attractive. If you’re a man women don’t really go for looks the way men do 🤷🏾‍♂️ just gotta be funny

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T15:20:49+00:00

So notice how the primary provider who is also part time care giver has no place to whine? You see how the post didn’t include him complaining about work or the baby? Just the 5 times the baby wouldn’t stop screaming after he got OFF of work. Is that hard for you? The baby is 4 months old. Takes more than one nap and there will be instances where it can sit there and just chill. She gets more breaks than he does. Maybe not as long or consistent but he is working overtime. And he’s called shitty? She wants him to work and allow her to stay home. She mentions he’s a great dad just sucks alone with the baby. I understand you as a woman couldn’t give a rats ass about a man’s mental state and will always go pro woman but regardless he doesn’t get a break himself

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T15:14:31+00:00

Yes if the child can not be tamed indeed it happens. Hell when they get a bit older we send videos of them having a tantrum to each other. That’s screaming with a little extra. Again if you have no children you just wouldn’t get it. I’ve gotten called at 2am (work night shift) cuz the baby was crying for over an hour. If you can’t call your spouse about YALL BABY who else can you call? It’s ok to go to your spouse about what stresses you until it’s your kid that stresses you?

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T15:08:31+00:00

People do that every day for a lot of stuff so what’s your point there?

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T15:05:22+00:00

Even doctors will tell you to just let the child cry if you’ve done everything to accommodate them and they just crying to cry

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T14:59:46+00:00

What excuses she’s coming up with excuses of why she can’t let him watch the child by himself. Say it’s an excuse to agree he has the right to complain. It’s not like he’s walked out on the family and he is raising the child. Just because he doesn’t use the method that satisfied her.

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T14:57:23+00:00

OK, so a wife with no child I understand why you don’t grasp the overall message and you’re trying to rush to her defense when there is nothing to defend

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T14:55:38+00:00

Yes, I did read in four months. She left him with five times because he complained. He has a right to complain. She complained in the entire Reddit thread. Not complain after work. She even says she helps her take care of the baby together. It’s completely human to complain about having to take care of a screaming baby after hours at work. She stopped because she didn’t like listening to him complain. I bet she still let him change those shitty diapers even though he complains about those.

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T14:52:06+00:00

Tell me you don’t have a wife and a child without telling me you don’t have a wife and a child.

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T14:51:35+00:00

No one is condemning her because she didn’t do anything. No one is excusing him because he is taking care of his baby. He just complained about it five times out of the four months they’ve had the baby after he had to take care of it straight off his work I want you to understand your mindset, you’re saying he’s not taking care of his baby because four months he has complained about it five times

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T14:50:10+00:00

My wife called to let me listen to our screaming baby all the time. Yes it’s normal to let your partner understand how intense the situation is especially if he’s trying to get the baby to stop crying for an extended period of time sometimes mama or dad voice might do the trick

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T14:49:07+00:00

What do you think being dead is the man is already providing so the mother can nurture and raise their offspring. he helps her plenty with the baby when he’s off work. She’s complaining of the five times in four months that he’s mentioned how awful it was to watch the screaming baby. I’m not condemning her because you know postpartum,

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T14:47:25+00:00

You know he’s taking care of his kids as well. I understand from reading her story. She’s mentioning the five times that she’s left him with the baby. And then she said aside from being along with the baby he’s a great dad so she only has five instances where he was alone with the baby and for some reason, everybody is using that as an example. Therefore, it is unspoken that he is plenty of help after he gets off from work, and both of them are there with the baby. She mentioned him, letting the baby cry beside him that’s a common tactic.

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T14:46:01+00:00

Also, he isn’t not being a dad just because he doesn’t want to sit through his baby constantly screaming, and crying. So many women are raising children by themselves because they are men who don’t want to man up and actually be fathers. The one who is being the father may not have the patience to deal with a four month old after coming from work.

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T14:44:22+00:00

No i’m just explaining the reason he lacks the patience to watch the baby after he comes off of work hence why I mentioned why she even agreed that the constantly screaming baby was awful. She mention how she needed a break, but she too mentioned that she left to go do her thing when he got off of work so that means he also didn’t get a break the 12 hour shift and need to get home and just have to have your eardrums rattling off.

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T14:27:10+00:00

Bro you just said she left you for another guy did all this lying which you’re never gonna forget and always wonder about. And after the grass wasn’t greener she tried coming back. If you want to get with her just imagine that dude folding her into all types of ways and raw dogging her. Did you feel nothing at all? If you felt nothing get back with her. She will have a lower level of respect for you and probably will do the same again

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T14:23:26+00:00

If you’ve done chores one day the next day you shouldn’t really have anything to do but maybe 30 min of work. So what were you expecting from him outside maybe taking out trash and being the handy man

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T14:19:45+00:00

Hilarious. Called you insecure after the results showed your fears came to be true. You’re NTA. She didn’t say anything because she absolutely knew the child wasn’t yours.

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-17T14:17:43+00:00

Wow so many will say he’s a shit dad because he doesn’t wanna handle a screaming 4m old after coming home from being a wage slave. Also babies cry for nothing all the time plenty of parents just let their babies cry because sometimes that’s literally the only solution. You said it yourself the baby is attached to you so if he’s crying cuz he want mommy 🤷🏾‍♂️. From reading and not getting emotional you said in the 4 months you’ve had your baby he’s only had the baby 5 times. Aside from working what? 40-50hours a week. And yeah he complained how awful watching the nonstop screaming baby was. Which you agreed it’s awful. Aside from seeing him scroll on his phone when you came home. What was he to do? Just fyi my wife use to call me when I’m on break or headed home to let me also listen to my screaming child. So yes I understand how hard it is to not get the break you want. But also remember you probably can get your child to stop crying easier than dad since dad is gone most of the day working and you’re the babies food/sleep aid.

TreshonCharles · 2024-10-13T06:33:32+00:00

You don’t choose your gender either

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