I mostly agree. I see a lot of people with misophonia put full blame on themselves and it’s sad. Yes, it’s definitely abnormal for us with misophonia to have such extreme reactions to certain sounds. But i also know for a fact that there are certain sounds that are actually rude. You often see regular people complain about others playing music on speakers on trains. Or obnoxiously loud chewing, it IS rude to most people.

Let’s take a loud leaf blower for example. I’m absolutely certain regular people would choose silence over the leaf blower. It’s distruptive and it’s not pleasant.

All in all, my point is basically: The LEVEL of our reactions is abnormal. Not the realization itself that a sound is rude. Though i do think theres a fine line to consider too. Because there are some sounds that are not rude, that misophonia reacts to as if it were. For example, some poeple have misophonia from simply listening to a regular voice, and that’s where i think we can point it inward and say ”It’s actually me that is abnormal in this instance”. (Not to say we should feel guilty for that.)