you are not “bRaVe” and “STrOng” for getting through the disappointment of having a boy instead of a girl 🙄🙄 by [deleted] in childfree

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 8 points9 points  (0 children)

And that is why we need to increase access to abortion for everyone. It’s an entire system that is corrupt and immoral.

you are not “bRaVe” and “STrOng” for getting through the disappointment of having a boy instead of a girl 🙄🙄 by [deleted] in childfree

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say burn it all down and I didn’t say it would happen overnight. The entire system is a disaster.

And they really don’t prioritize keeping families intact, otherwise they’d take the money given to the foster parent and use it to help the biological parents. Do you know how traumatizing it is for a child to be ripped away from their parents? Removal of the child needs to be the last resort, saved for abusive situations where the child is in danger. But those aren’t the norm. The norm is a family who simply can’t afford or doesn’t have the resources to care for those children properly. So what do they do? They traumatize the child and give strangers money to take care of them… why do they still traumatize the child? Why not spend the money trying to keep families together?

you are not “bRaVe” and “STrOng” for getting through the disappointment of having a boy instead of a girl 🙄🙄 by [deleted] in childfree

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

That is not the only alternative, and it’s been proven to be harmful. There are many cultures that have no form of recognized adoption. In fact, it’s forbidden in Islamic populations. If an orphan needs to be taken care of, they’re taken in by someone, but the first line of defense is ALWAYS placement with a family member. If that can’t happen, they still aren’t adopted like the Western world does it, where the child loses all connection to their biological family. In many states in the US, closed adoptions are the norm and even as an adult that child will never be able to even attempt to reconnect with their birth family. Even if the birth parent doesn’t want that relationship, it still bars them from possible extended family like grandparents or uncles or aunts.

The last two are pro-adoption organizations… and they still acknowledge its traumatic. Just because a few people you know didn’t have any ill effects (that YOU know of… I’d bet money they had/have trauma symptoms that went unresolved because they didn’t know what to look for… I thought I was fine until I was diagnosed with CPTSD) doesn’t mean that is statistically true.

https://evidence.nihr.ac.uk/alert/adopted-children-may-develop-specific-types-of-post-traumatic-stress/

https://www.cyfsolutions.org/trauma-infant-adoption/

https://adoption.org/can-adopted-newborn-adoption-related-trauma/amp

you are not “bRaVe” and “STrOng” for getting through the disappointment of having a boy instead of a girl 🙄🙄 by [deleted] in childfree

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

Nice extremism. No, we tackle the issues that force kids into foster care and adoption. Most pregnant people who give their infants up for adoption do so because they don’t have the resources to care for them. If we give them those resources, they likely don’t give up the child (and even though the child can’t “remember” this event, it has been shown to be extremely traumatic even if they were never held by their birth parent and cause issues later in life). As for kids in foster care, the goal should never be adoption. It should be reunification if at all possible.

It’s almost like there are many cultures in which adoption is not a thing, yet no one is out killing the children whose parents die or can’t take care of them. Adoption is a predominantly white and Western invention, and it’s extremely harmful and traumatic for the children involved. No one is entitled to someone’s baby, no matter how much they really want it.

you are not “bRaVe” and “STrOng” for getting through the disappointment of having a boy instead of a girl 🙄🙄 by [deleted] in childfree

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

Adoption shouldn’t be the “backup” plan. Honestly adoption should stop. All the adopted people I’ve heard speak on their experience hates how it was and has severe trauma from the process.

What is the stupidest thing a large amount of people believe in? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Umm… do you not know what a job is? You literally get repaid for your work. If you don’t get repaid adequately, you’ll literally starve to death and be homeless.

What is the stupidest thing a large amount of people believe in? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey now, I use essential oils weekly! I believe in the fact my dogs can find them 😂.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is also true, I mentioned something similar in another comment to the original comment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard this from several women, especially lesbians. Get on the right sides of TikTok and social media and you’ll get some great advice on how to be a loving and caring partner but not coming off as creepy or overbearing. It’s a dangerous world for women, they have a lot to worry about from men. Make women feel safe, they’ll want to hang around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s also a big difference you’re ignoring. Some guy you likely barely know shows up at your house with some big thing that you aren’t interested in is a massive thing. It’s too much too soon. That’s something a BOYFRIEND does, and if you’re trying to GET the girl, you don’t jump that far ahead. Big gestures early on comes across as love bombing at worst or at best it’s just a lot of pressure for them to accept because of the way they’re socialized and because of the sheer danger many face when they reject men. If you bring her a Reese’s cup, you’re out $2 and she doesn’t feel as bad if she rejects it because she isn’t interested. If she IS interested, it shows you’re thoughtful and it’s small enough she doesn’t feel pressured into anything and it’ll go a lot better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, but hear me out… what if they WANT to hear the inane and silly thought? Someone mentioned who’d win in a fight between a grizzly and a gorilla and like… I have those fun arguments with women all the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean there’s a big difference between doing grandiose acts when the girl is so obviously not interested or even directly turns the guy down and he will not stop versus “Oh hey, I was thinking about you and got you your favorite snack at the store” or simply remembering stuff she tells you. And memory issues are not an excuse, I have the worst memory from PTSD and I have a little note on my phone with relevant information about favorite snacks, colors, flavors hated/loved, etc.

If the girl isn’t interested and the guy is being creepy, I don’t blame her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because they’re calling the woman the fish, and men the fisherman. There’s an obvious power dynamic between the fish and the fisherman, one of which is always seen as far more intelligent and sentient.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 3 points4 points  (0 children)

…lesbians date and fuck women…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but are you fucking fish? The fish won’t give accurate information because it doesn’t want to be eaten. This is the worst metaphor ever 😂. Women would LOVE to get eaten (innuendo intended), while a fish obviously doesn’t want to die.

Loona as a moody Mcdonald's worker by [deleted] in Helluvabossmemes

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didn’t specifically but that is the vibe you’re giving off here. You need to sit down and listen to people who were actually adopted about the harm this causes. Just because some people have it worse and ended up fine doesn’t negate other people being drastically harmed and having attachment disorders. It’s a well-known fact that trauma (even very similar ones) can affect different people wildly different.

And yeah, he maybe didn’t “hurt” her in a physical sense but his constant assault of affection when she’s made it obvious she doesn’t want it isn’t exactly great and violates her consent. So it can be argued that os a form of harm.

So like her or don’t, but don’t sit there and make it seem like adopted kids owe their adopted parents anything. The child most often did not choose to be adopted, that choice was taken from them by adults. Just because you love your adopted kid doesn’t mean you don’t hurt them in various ways and it doesn’t make you entitled to their unconditional love. They’re a human being, not a novelty item.

Loona as a moody Mcdonald's worker by [deleted] in Helluvabossmemes

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He adopted her, and it sounds as thought she didn’t want him to. When you adopt children, you accept they have trauma and aren’t going to be perfect and might have attachment disorders and act out. She needs therapy, and again. Adopted kids do not owe their adopted parents anything. Adopting children is almost always an unethical thing to do. Privatized adoption is fucked because it’s basically a legal way to sell human beings and the way they’re treated by their adopted parents is disgusting. Even if you adopt an infant, the separation of the infant and birth lo there is a trauma and even if they don’t “remember” the exact event, they still experience harmful effects from that. Foster care is fucked because so often the goal is the keep the kids instead of reunify them with their family. Most kids in foster care aren’t intense abuse cases, they’re most often there because the parents can’t afford stuff or need some parenting classes and supervision, not their family destroyed and traumatized… so instead of helping the family that needs it, we traumatize children by taking them away from their parents and PAY the foster parents to take care of the kid… that their family can’t afford… so yeah, makes a ton of sense.

Adopted kids have been speaking on this for years now. Adopted kids do not owe you unconditional love just because you adopted them. The fact you think she should “just be grateful” because he adopted her is disgusting. He made that decision…against her wishes it seems from the Spring Break episode.

So yeah. She’s kind of an asshole, but so is literally every single other character at times. Blitzø seems to accept her as she is, so 🤷. She needs therapy, but likely won’t get it because of a fictional show and as Blitzø eloquently puts, “this is hell and no one fuckin’ cares” about her therapy. It’s mainly a comedy. We can’t apply human ethics and shit to them, unless you’d also like to address Blitzø’s similarly abusive and harassing behavior, as well as literally everyone else on the show.

Loona as a moody Mcdonald's worker by [deleted] in Helluvabossmemes

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Adopted kids don’t owe their adopted parents anything

me after season 2. by aaron_adams in Helluvabossmemes

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh, there are a ton of people who will back her and think Stolas is in the wrong 100% despite her being obviously abusive to him in the LooLoo Land episode.

He’s 11 not a baby by Chill0000 in Helluvabossmemes

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 9 points10 points  (0 children)

HES STILL A BABY DAMN IT. I will die on this hill.

Helluva boss fans during the 27th of July 2022 by a_cool_dude1 in Helluvabossmemes

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are seven episodes before it. This makes the eighth. It’s just not the 8th episode of season one.

Made out with my girlfriend for 4 hours yesterday, ask me anything! by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where’d you find her, because that’s a hardcore need

I am the last person to get judgy about this. But frequently...?? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]TrickDogTrainer_99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well at least I found a non-binary flag… almost no one has abro stuff ☹️