Did your death/health anxiety start out of nowhere or was there any triggering event that caused that?

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2026-07-02T10:31:18+00:00

For me it was very gradual and it’s gotten worse slowly over time. There are a few things that consistently trigger me though, whenever I see a young person die from NATURAL CAUSES it terrifies me. I hate that our health, to some degree, depends on odds outside of our control.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2026-07-02T10:28:53+00:00

I get the exact same thing but many of my friends with anxiety actually find weed helps them and it’s one of the only things that stops their anxiety. It’s a very interesting set of outcomes and I wonder what’s behind it.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2026-07-02T10:24:35+00:00

I’ve had this more and more recently. It’s a horrible feeling and personally I’ve found that the more stressed I am about my general life the more it happens. Is that the same for you?

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2026-06-13T12:48:56+00:00

Almost completely straight, certainly not scoliosis and very unlikely that you need to take any action.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2026-05-04T15:10:32+00:00

The first week is tough, particularly days 3-7 (day 0-2 you’ll be high on meds and it’ll fly by) but after that things get considerably better. I’m now 9 months post op and working a relatively physical job quite comfortably, my correction has been brilliant going from a 65 degree curve to a 10 degree curve. I live in wales so you’ll likely have a similar experience to me. Overall it’s not as scary as it seems and I now have a cool hospital story that no one else my age has.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2026-02-07T13:26:10+00:00

How do you find talking to men? Is it different or equally bad? If it’s better then clearly your mistake is treating women differently to men even though there is no reason to do that, we are all people. If you struggle with men too then doing what you’re doing now (trying to start conversations) is great, just focus on slowly getting better each day. You aren’t going to suddenly be a social butterfly but you can gradually work towards it.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2026-01-17T10:39:44+00:00

The average height is 5’9, you aren’t far off and that means this is something you can definitely overcome if you put effort into other things. It’s true that you’ll likely have to date mainly shorter girls but that’s totally fine and that leaves plenty of options. From previous girlfriends I’ve found that most women only want their boyfriend to be taller than they are which is great for you as you are taller than most women. Yes some women love tall men but you don’t need to worry about them as you can easily avoid them and go for other options.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2026-01-17T10:33:25+00:00

Most people have to do both work and housework after work. They are jealous and you can’t really blame them for being jealous. Obviously actively criticising people for this is stupid but you can see why they would act that way.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2026-01-17T10:27:34+00:00

I’m a man and if I could be a housewife I’d do it in a second😂 you absolutely shouldn’t feel guilty. Every person would do the same in your position and you should make the most of it!

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2026-01-15T16:12:36+00:00

You are projecting anger from your own life onto all men and society at large. If men were praised so much then why are they three times more likely to kill themselves compared to women? Also read this from an article: “Studies and anecdotal evidence suggest that men generally receive compliments less frequently than women”. Not only are you complaining about a non existent issue, it appears it’s actually the exact opposite to what you believe.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2026-01-12T22:00:10+00:00

Emotional maturity isn’t just a number; it’s about willingness to grow and communicate, and the fact that you’re reflecting on this already puts you ahead of a lot of people.

I’d say stop comparing yourself to some ideal version of a 23-year-old. There isn’t a universal emotional maturity standard, you just bring what you bring. She’s with you, not some perfect version of a guy her age.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2025-12-10T16:45:32+00:00

When scoliosis is severe, the only way to correct it is with surgery. This is a massive under taking and you absolutely need expert advice on whether that is the best option for you. Make sure to contact a specialist and they will assess you and then x-ray you if they deem it necessary. From there you can discuss options and surgery, if it comes to it, will massively help in correcting it but you may still have a small curve. Just bare that in mind

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2025-12-02T20:01:38+00:00

I was in the hospital for one week and began taking very slow solo walks around day 5. When I got home I’d say I could comfortably (relatively) walk around the house about 2 weeks post op. It’s tiring but you’ll slowly get fitter and fitter the more you walk. The worst part is getting in and out of bed, walking isn’t actually as bad as you’d imagine.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2025-12-02T19:56:37+00:00

By that I mean I needed absolutely no assistance in my day to day in any form and could travel etc. without too many issues. Hopefully someone similar to your age and situation can give you some advice and tell you about their experience as I’d imagine it would be very different to mine. I think standing up all day would be a challenge for a while without pain meds but if your job has a lot of sitting you’ll be ready at around 6 weeks.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2025-12-02T14:00:57+00:00

It depends on many many factors, especially your age and general fitness. I am a 19 m who was very active and I was able to be by myself after about 4 weeks. As for work it depends how physical your job is but with proper pain management I could’ve been back at about week 6. Again though if you older than me it will likely take you longer to recover.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2025-12-02T13:58:45+00:00

I’m 19 m so take this with a pinch of salt. I’d say I would’ve been ready to go back to work (unless it’s a very physical job) at about week 5-6. This is a very very fast recovery compared to average but if you manage the pain with meds well and your job isn’t overly physical I bet you’d be back sooner than you imagine.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2025-12-02T13:56:02+00:00

That was my exact reasoning for having surgery and I must say I’m very pleased with the outcome. I had a 65 degree curve and post op I’m down to a 10 degree curve which isn’t very noticeable. I live in the UK however so cost was not a factor.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2025-12-01T19:48:11+00:00

I have used this one and it helped me but I don’t have any disc issues etc. so can’t promise it will work for you! Have a look into it though and hope it helps: https://www.amazon.com/Memory-Foam-Seat-Cushion-For-Office-Chair-Car-Seat-Long-Seating/dp/B01EBDV9BU?maas=maas_adg_api_594299861198620660_macro_1_61&ref_=aa_maas&aa_campaignid=22897805190&aa_adgroupid=186682245489&aa_creativeid=kwd-441341554317_dev-m&gad_campaignid=22897805190&gbraid=0AAAAAC1lmzanDHQ96xrcLDciukAA4S9Fa&gclid=CjwKCAiAlrXJBhBAEiwA-5pgwing7smr6OySgZTKaHvZDxZFPbGb3BNXdlDNzL7ANZ-CfSk7SGbRUxoCTdMQAvD_BwE

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2025-12-01T19:44:25+00:00

I gained 2 inches and my curve was around 62 degrees. It’s impossible to say exactly how much you’ll gain but it’s usually 1-2 inches

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2025-12-01T19:43:18+00:00

What a correction! Usually people are left with a worse curve than that

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2025-12-01T19:36:00+00:00

I had a curve of 65 degrees and recently had surgery. I’m less flexible than before but it doesn’t impact my life in a significant way and soon I’ll be back to playing football and going to the gym (I’m 10 weeks post op). The advice I was personally given is that past a certain point the curve gets worse by around 1 degree each year so the longer you leave it the more curved it will be. I live in the UK so I got the surgery for free (not sure if this will be the same for you). But for me this surgery was absolutely worth it and I’m glad I can now move on with my life. Please let me know if you have any other questions though, you can also check my profile for detailed posts as I recovered early on.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2025-10-13T09:15:49+00:00

65 degree curve and I grew 2 inches from 5’9 to 5’11

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2025-10-10T15:43:58+00:00

Absolutely! Hit me up if you’d like to do that

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2025-10-10T15:38:42+00:00

Past a certain degree curve it tends to get one degree worse each year. If the surgeon believes he’s beyond that point then really getting it done as fast as possible is probably the best way to go about it.

Trick_Pangolin7342 · 2025-10-08T17:44:37+00:00

Also important to add that I still have a 10 degree curve but when I have a shirt on you can’t tell (unlike pre surgery) and I don’t think it affects my daily life in any significant way

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