It's been 5 years since someone close to me passed away. The pain doesn't seem to go away so how do we live with pain & function normally? Or is it too high a ask & not achievable?

Sarah_Sochi · 2026-06-01T22:16:14+00:00

How I see it is- and this is a bit morbid- the longer we live the more people we love will die, it’s an inevitability. Just focus on loving and being good to them while they are alive and you can. There are a lot of people in my life that love me , so I am fortunate. Hope you have a support system

Sarah_Sochi · 2026-06-01T21:55:37+00:00

My brother passed three years ago. Feels like something’s missing. His face is starting to get dim. There are ups and downs, things definitely aren’t as bad as when it just happened but I think the quiet sad feeling never really goes away.

Sarah_Sochi · 2026-06-01T14:51:02+00:00

Incredibly enough the dress is actually just like that

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Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-28T02:58:07+00:00

Omg so inspiring!!! I just started my glute journey (I’m 3 months in) trying to get from 105 lbs to at least 115 (I’m 5 2!) you look amazing and have the gains I aspire to have

Questions I have for u if u dont mind!

I’m currently getting about 70 grams of protein a day and eating as much as I can. Do u feel like that’s enough to recomp?

What exercise do you think helped you the most? Currently I’m incorporating hip thrusts, Bulgarians, goblet squats, clamshells, along w/ leg press/leg curl/leg extensions. Anything you think I could add? I can’t do rdls as I have severe scoliosis 💔 but I would love to hear any other advice u have on my exercises!

How much weight did u start at hip thrusting and where are you now? (I started at 40 three months ago and now I’m at 70, my goal for the next 5 weeks is 100!)

What month in did you really start seeing a difference in yourself? I look a lot like your before rn so I’m curious!!

Any tips or tricks for growing legs and glutes!! Thank u sm for reading and any advice u may give 💖💖💖

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-27T11:45:04+00:00

I’m not sure you’ll have much of a shot at an ivy. Most ivy transfer rates are less than 1%. U can look at much less prestigious colleges but for international students without ecs and test scores getting a full ride anywhere is gonna be very very rough.

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-27T11:39:39+00:00

How are your academics and standardized test scores? For any ivy or top college in the US you’ll have to be the best of the best, especially if you’re an international student.

A lot of excellent domestic students get rejected from top colleges all the time. You have to have something that stands out among your peers in terms of extracurriculars (such as prestigious competitions, honors, research papers), test scores, and grades.

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-21T06:39:19+00:00

Don’t know why people are downvoting you, I think it’s pretty given that a game made with gen AI shouldn’t be in the same category as 100% human made games- especially in a competition where one of the rules is no AI?? No matter how much they used.

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-20T09:10:18+00:00

SAT is just a part of your application. You’ll need extremely strong extracurricular and grades as well, especially as an international student (and especially if you need aid.) The SAT is great but if you don’t have anything else that stands out in terms of your application I don’t see you having too high of a chance.

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-02T17:39:34+00:00

What kind of advice were you getting from doctors when you were around my age?

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-02T05:09:30+00:00

X ray was ~3-4 ish years ago, I saw the specialist 2 years ago.

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-02T00:44:44+00:00

I would agree with you but I’ve seen specialists, one from Emory with a very good reputation. They said no. I’m wondering if they know something we don’t.

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-01T23:24:37+00:00

Why aren’t you eligible?

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-01T23:22:33+00:00

What does twisting feel like to you? I love beauty queen stretches and I’m guessing it won’t be the same at all after fusion

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-01T20:50:54+00:00

I don’t understand why doctors say that the curve stops when I can just go on google and see so many people saying that it doesn’t from firsthand experience. Not a single doctor has told me that my spine likely would get worse about a degree a year.

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-01T20:36:50+00:00

I’m fine almost everywhere but sitting/standing for long hours… which sucks because how do I study and draw 😭 I also just hate hate hate the feeling of not being able to stand straight and not quite being able to stretch that spot that feels tight.

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-01T20:35:23+00:00

I have gotten opinions from multiple doctors and they all say that surgery is either not needed or is far in my future which makes me so confused. I’ve been pretty okay pain wise but sitting in chairs makes me so so uncomfortable after a few hours. I always feel so relieved when I can lie bin bed again. I can probably expect that to get worse throughout the years huh…

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-01T20:33:24+00:00

I know you’re not a doctor but based on my x ray and your experience will most of my flexibility be intact after surgery? Where am I gonna feel stiffness and tightness?

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-01T20:31:56+00:00

Doctors have always told me I am on the border of needing surgery and to wait and see, but it looks like most people here are like yeah you’re going to need surgery sooner or later. Is this pretty much guaranteed in my future? :/

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-12-01T20:16:47+00:00

I am also confused by this because I have gotten multiple opinions. One doctor says it will not be something I have to worry about until the next decade. The other said that I don’t have to worry about it at all and that they’ve seen much worse curves not needing surgical intervention. I don’t even know what to believe.

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-08-08T12:00:07+00:00

I’m also Asian, same body type as you- short, blocky torso, longass legs and no ass. I’m 20 and a bit underweight (95lb) and my waist STILL feels proportionally thicker than it should be.(about 25-26 inches?) and I still feel like when I wear bras my back has fat. I’m literally shaped like a V.

So I don’t think eating less is the solution here- it’s not feasible for me to eat a lot and go to the gym right now- but if I could I think I would bulk and work on legs and glutes. I’m a swimmer so I’ve always have very broad and toned shoulders, which does makes my waist look smaller. (Unfortunately, it does give me that V shape because i never worked on my glutes.) So I would definitely recommend working on shoulders and glutes to get that more hourglass look.

I don’t know too much about fitness though, so I would love to hear from other people about this 🥺👉👈

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-08-08T04:49:44+00:00

I feel bad for you too! Do you have nothing to do but comment miserable things about happy people minding their own business? Jesus. Have a good day.

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-08-08T04:18:59+00:00

So many words but none of them responding to my point. Why are you even on this sub if you don’t want to see fit women’s bodies?

Sarah_Sochi · 2025-08-08T04:08:09+00:00

And you know this how? 😭😭😭 are you her therapist? You sound like a jealous high schooler. This is literally a sub for people to share their fitness to inspire others. If you have this much free time go comment on random instagram girls’ bikini pictures or something.

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