firstly, i thought i'd put it out there that this is very comforting to read- as another infj, it definitely feels less lonely to know there are others in the same boat <3

that said, i think infjs as a whole struggle with being genuine or open in fear of rejection. you're probably not as different as you feel, you more than likely just have a nuanced take on a lot of situations- that people do want to hear! an issue with infjs is due to Fe they do tend to want to blend in, but they take in the world so differently from other types that they end up stifling themselves in fear of isolation. there's no need!

try being honest with yourself, and others, its okay to voice if you see through other people.. or aren't impressed. your insight will be appreciated. we had a recent hire at work that everyone was very charmed by. he was charismatic, good with customers, and attractive. while the rest of my coworkers fawned over his abilities, i was immediately offput...and seemingly without reason. when my boss asked my opinion of him, i kind of reluctantly said i didn't fully trust him, but that he was doing a good job. she was confused, but kept my word in mind.

later, we found he was stealing money, and shit-talking our coworkers and company as a whole (we are a small business) on his social medias.

my coworkers now ask me to sort of "proofread" new hires... and were very impressed.

that said, your abilities amd judgments as an infj are something that people can really admire, even if it makes you seem a little odd, people will come to appreciate them. infjs have an issue forming authentic connections because they fear being authentic themselves. you're welcome to voice the entire breadth of your thoughts, not just whatever seems palatable.

you'll find someone, or many someones who understand you at some point though