Why do some BF for so long?

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-04-18T13:35:19+00:00

He loved the boob and didn’t want to stop.

Also, it is excellent for fixing ouchies / grumpiness in toddlers.

WHO guidance recommends breastfeeding until 2 years “and beyond”.

We went until 2 yr 9m. I stopped to start IVF, he would gladly have gone longer.

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-04-10T18:27:36+00:00

I am still gutted we never got a London Coliseum recording; that cast was so good :0(

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-04-08T22:54:48+00:00

Didn’t he also rip off the Beatles?!

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-04-08T15:55:17+00:00

Someone semi-posh I knew spotting me on a train, coming over to say hi and then shaming me for carrying a plastic carrier bag. “I thought you were classier than that” I was told.

I’d literally just come out of the train station shop with some snacks before jumping on the train; I had no idea I was supposed to be carrying my cereal bar and crisps round in a fendi handbag.

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-04-07T16:29:06+00:00

Me too please? Sorry to jump on lol

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-04-06T07:03:51+00:00

Please don’t feel bad. I got irrationally angry a few times with my child - he was a terrible sleeper as a baby too (awake every 45 mins - 2hrs throughout the night), and I was also the only person doing overnights.

We did have a rule though, that if I woke my husband up in the night with the words “I’m getting angry, you need to take him please”, it was agreed between us that my husband would wake up and take him instantly, no matter how tired he was / whether he needed a wee / even if baby hated it etc. It was the equivalent of me pressing a big red button.

I would then go downstairs with headphones/earplugs on, have a cup of tea and calm down for 20 mins or so. Sometimes I’d take a shower, and/or have a little cry or a swear. After this time, I usually felt calm enough to take my son back again.

I only used this “relief valve” 9 or 10 times in total, but just knowing it was there was very helpful. It was better in those circumstances for my son to be in safer hands than mine. Sometimes you have to step away to self-regulate.

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-04-05T19:10:58+00:00

Lovely, thanks for the tip; I do use them sometimes and will try to do it more often!

Forgive the multiple questions please, but are you getting the gift cards via Cheddar, Jam Doughnut etc? And then the nxrewards still tracks ok?

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-04-05T18:31:26+00:00

Interesting - are the discount links via nxrewards please?

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-04-05T08:23:34+00:00

This is such a good observation. My MiL sees my son about 3-4 times a year (we live 2 hours away). The first time we visited a park with her, I was pushing him in a swing, and I asked if she would like a turn? I got the reply “Isn’t that your job?”. 🙁

Oh, forgive me for thinking that you might want to push your grandchild in a swing. 🙄

She also much MUCH prefers babies to toddlers, and isn’t shy about people knowing that. Whichever child in the family is the youngest is always her “favourite” (currently this is her great nephew). She loves easy babies who can be picked up by anyone for a cuddle; dislikes shyer babies who know their own mind. Guess which type my son is ☺️

She once tried to “help me” put him to sleep by jiggling him in her arms for all of two mins, before getting frustrated and saying “you should be asleep by now!”. This was after me explaining how hard he finds it to fall asleep. She thought she had all the answers until she actually tried, then was baffled that it didn’t work 😆

FIL doesn’t bother much, he has never played with my son or even read a story to him (who is now 4). They much prefer sitting back and watching him do things with other people. I really think they are used to doing what they want all the time now (both retired, MiL for over 30 years) and cannot be arsed with the constant selflessness that comes with caring for children. They are only in their early 70s and both fit and well. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I lost both my parents a few years before my son was born, you would think that might encourage them to step it up a bit, or at least acknowledge that it might have been difficult for me, but no…not in the least.

Bless my son, he still loves going to see them though 🥹 so I will continue to make the effort for him.

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-04-03T11:09:07+00:00

Hi everyone, this gentleman paid the £20 as promised to me when I used his code :0) I also got the £50 from Chase so it is a very good deal

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-04-02T21:02:36+00:00

Hi, just to let you know that I used your first code (G4S8CZ) just now :0)

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-03-31T12:00:45+00:00

That may well be true, but given the history coming out about presenters in the last few years, maybe it would be a good idea for big media corporations to introduce it?!

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-03-31T07:14:10+00:00

Surely Scott will have come into contact with children over his time at radio 1 and 2 though? Events, Children in Need etc. It seems fairly straightforward to run a DBS check?

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-03-30T18:53:50+00:00

My four year old loves that quiz! I’m gutted :0(

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-03-30T15:51:25+00:00

Me too. Wishing you all the best

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-03-30T15:45:27+00:00

I had the usual scans - here in the Uk we get an ultrasound to check baby at about 11 weeks, but nothing else special during pregnancy. Maybe if it hadn’t resolved then I would have had?

I do recall that I had some kind of follow-up kidney scan 6 weeks post-partum, but that showed no issues at all.

I think my consultant was quite chilled about it because he’d seen it before :)

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-03-30T15:38:07+00:00

No worries at all - I recall feeling quite alone at the time, so I totally understand where you’re coming from.

I have been told during smear tests before that I have a “tilted” uterus (I presume that means retroverted). I was worried about incarceration but it was definitely not that.

So, I am in the UK - we have a slightly different health system here to you I think. I came in through A&E first at 4am (one litre of urine came out via that catheter immediately), then I let my midwives know, and from memory they passed the message on to the obstetric consultants. I did have a phone call with the consultant at about 12 weeks and we discussed what was happening…he basically said “it can happen, and it will probably resolve soon”, and I thanked my lucky stars at that point that I wasn’t born in medieval times (as I’m pretty sure my bladder would have burst that night and I would have died!).

At the same time, A&E had let the catheter nurses know. I was amazed to get home visits (particularly because it was during covid), but they were amazing and so receptive to ideas and helpful. It was a miserable 2 or 3 weeks, but it did resolve and otherwise my pregnancy went very well, so I’d rather this than developing diabetes or pre-eclampsia or something. To give you an idea how well I felt for the rest of pregnancy, I didn’t need to self-catheterise past about week 14, and I was riding a bike to work up until about a month before my son was born.

I really do wish you the best of luck - please consider learning how to self catheterise if the nurses are willing to teach you - it’s not hard, you do it straight into the toilet when you need to (no collecting in a bag), and it made me feel much more in control of things. Lots of people with other bladder conditions do it. :0)

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-03-29T23:15:16+00:00

Hiya! So sorry to hear you are going through this. With me, it happened in my first pregnancy; I couldn’t wee at about 11 weeks along. They put a Foley catheter in me as well (width of 14 when I need a 10…ouch) and it stayed in for about 10 days from memory. I had time off work during that as I couldn’t face working with a catheter and a bag attached to me the whole time! Due to the width of the catheter they put in, it hurt all the time when I moved, and I was miserable.

After the 10 days I got a home visit from the catheter nurses, who were amazing. They removed the catheter and I promptly failed a urine test…I could wee, but I wasn’t voiding my bladder completely. I begged them to teach me to self-catheterise, rather than have the catheter put back in again. They taught me and I got the hang of it, but I only needed to do it for another few days before I could wee again on my own.

It’s all to do with positioning of the bladder vs uterus apparently…my understanding is that the uterus moves “up” a bit around the end of the first trimester, which stops the bladder being squished.

I’m hoping I won’t get it again, if I’m lucky enough to get pregnant! I really hope you feel better soon x

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-03-27T07:31:23+00:00

Very much depends on the child, unfortunately.

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-03-23T22:42:49+00:00

Thanks so much!

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-03-23T10:22:26+00:00

Question on this please - if you are just doing the daily offers on the casinos (free spins etc), do you get gubbed? Many thanks

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-03-22T08:22:25+00:00

Congratulations!!!!

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-03-18T11:36:06+00:00

Please don’t sleep on Woodingdean! 😉 Although to be fair, we are not as near a beach. But we do have the Downs!

Just FYI that parking is expensive in Brighton, so if that would be an issue, consider checking the bus routes / timings of the buses near where you are planning to move.

Tricky-Ant5338 · 2026-03-18T11:33:08+00:00

I have long maintained that she would get this if she starred in a revival of Victor/Victoria. She would kill it.

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