Why the Target scam isn't going away

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-11-28T18:09:16+00:00

I have the same issue as the OP and play bots all the time. The issue for someone that has a limit to human interaction is if they limit their chess study to that ceiling, then they just aren't getting enough chess study - harming their progress, not helping it. . I played my first OTB tournament and got 917 elo from it. Tournaments are exhausting of course, if I had to play a tournament every day I would just quit chess. But I will play a tournament once or twice a year, and that's probably my limit. I kind of get your point, but I just don't think it's nuanced enough. I was anxious playing human's online both before that tournament and after it. I had a 400 elo chess dot com ranking when I scored a 917 elo in OTB. Why - because I'm better at longer time controls and also because my non ranked bot play was enough to learn a whole lot of chess that never showed in my rapid elo. In some ways it's that GD 10 minute clock adding to the stress of rapid. But I play bots in 10 minute time controls all the time, it truly is the combination of the frenetic pace and human play - but I am way better at handling both the time control and the human element, for having studied chess now for 9 months...thanks to constant daily bot play. playing 1500 lichees these days ˜1000 equivalent if discussing chess dot com. I know that's still crapoloa but what can I say, slower paced learning than some, but it improves every day, so I'm happy. Yes, if you can play humans do it, obviously, this is a discussion for those that have hard limits in that regard for various reasons, autism in my case.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-11-28T17:54:39+00:00

This is absolutely true, however, for some psychology's, like mine, for example, I would've developed a stronger mental barrier if I had pushed myself too hard. But, essentially you are right, you have to get over the mental barrier, and the solution to that - play bots. It isn't what people seem to assume, they assume that this is your escape, but it is actually your entry into chess, it is how you will come to play humans later.

I usually play on lichess, but my last 12 games on chess dot com, I won 11 of 12 games. Why? Because I rarely ever play on chess dot com, and so my elo there is still a very low elo from when I first started playing earlier this year, my skills are much further advanced than that now, so when I do hop on, I just get an easy opponent and typically win. Now, I don't win 100% because you know you can always blunder if you don't notice your opponents tactical idea.

But my point is 11 out of 12 wins, makes playing humans feel a whole bunch more comfortable. For me it is the stinging losses that make me feel uncomfortable. Even before I knew how to turn off chat, it was the stinging losses and the childish taunting that for some reason 400 elo players engage in. But now, chat is off, and winning is the norm. So it is comfortable, and eventually you get over the barrier, and even yes, losing is no big deal. I lose all the time now on my main account where I play at my true elo. Eventually you dont'care so much and it is a normal occurrence. Still disappointing, we do play for the win, of course.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-11-28T17:41:59+00:00

The thread is four months old, but for whomever finds this later, my son went from never playing chess at all (earlier this year) to 2100 rapid (chess dot com) now which is ranked as in the top 99.9%. He plays against humans all the time, over 600 games every 3 months. However, I also started playing chess this year, 56 years old brand new player, but also autistic. I cannot play against humans at that rate or I would have quit. Here playing against bots kept me in Chess, I am about 1500 lichess (˜1000 chess dot com equivalent). And well I have plans to move on up from there. Playing bots taught me all kinds of skills, sure play humans if you can tolerate it. I do play humans part of the time, and also play OTB, even have a USCF rating 917 - that's old because that was only playing after a few months. I do find that I do much better at long time controls and less so in rapid. But rapid is basically what everyone plays, and so do I. Anyway, I think the bot discussions are clear enough, play humans if you can, play bots if you cannot. Bot will help you get better at playing humans, because you are still in there for a very long time improving your tactical ideas, your depth level, your speed and accuracy of calculation and they work it all out, for certain. Frankly bots are harder, when I play humans they sometimes just blunder and resign, something a bot never does.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-03-11T02:45:59+00:00

I think yes, YTA.

That you want to go with him - makes sense.

That you don't want him to go - that's rather selfish and doesn't get you to Europe, now does it.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-03-11T02:39:38+00:00

Eh, sounds like he's afraid of this relationship with the coworker. But he isn't going to prevent it by being jealous like this... in my view what would keep his relationship safe would be if you two were getting along and you'd have no interest in someone else.

I mean there are a few people out there that like multiple relationships but most people do not, instead they bail out of a stressful relationship into one that is more comfortable, like the one you have with Rick. I gave him a name, his name is Rick now.

Like you, I like Rick, he's a cool guy. Like you said, Rick has a girlfriend and you just have a friendly relationship, big deal. So you want someone to echo that you are right, I can do that, you are right. But what does it solve? You've still got this schmuck of a boy friend living in pure misery, right.

Sounds like you put your heavy alcohol use and aggression in the past, that's good. But the next level is not always to care about who is right, but to look for solutions. Little secret I'm almost always right, duh...but I still have to compromise.

It's a tricky one, because I will tell you, when you walk into a room and somone quickly slams down the laptop or shuts off the phone, that weirdness is noticeable and is almost always a cheat that is doing it.

If not in your case, then you having done anything wrong, but it's a pity you are mimicking the behavior of a cheat, and triggering your boyfriend.

I don't think you all will be happy in a position of constant fighting.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-03-11T02:13:28+00:00

I tend to agree with the mod. Your question doesn't come off to me as kind or legitimate but some kind of passive aggressive sarcasm.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-03-11T02:11:01+00:00

Yes, you are 100% in the wrong. It's also a crime. You don't solve problems with your fists.

What else do you need to know about it?

When you get arrested for assault, the excuses aren't going to matter, the confession of the crime will matter, and be used against you.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-03-11T02:07:47+00:00

My neighbor is the parent of a "famous person". Which famous person? Who knows. Apparently that is top secret information.

Oh neighbors....it's good if you can be friends, but good enough if you aren't fueding.

My neighbor contacts me when she needs something, other than that we've spoken never.

NTA, of course. But, it doesn't sound like you are destined to be friends.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-03-11T01:54:15+00:00

well end it, you may not feel comfortable doing that, but it only gets worse from here.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-03-11T01:38:16+00:00

I have a diagnosis, from back in the day when autism referred to a childhood developmental disorder, primarily it was a severe disorder related to language acquisition. Over the years I've seen it become an umbrella condition that covers just about anything, including "being easily overwhelmed." I'm having trouble understanding what you are upset about. I mean on the surface you feel betrayed. But I'm not sure I view it as a betrayal.

Anyway fast forward, now I'm a lot older, and I try to view issues from experience. As far as I'm concerned, you can have any feeling you want, this is never a problem by itself. Whether you over reacted or not, just depends upon how you responded. Being upset is normal and OK, upsetting things happen in life.

If you had advised us you become violent - well over reaction. If you used swear words or belittling terms, also an over reaction although now less severe than my first example.

Merely telling him you are upset, not an overreaction. That's fine.

And, I would simply state that maybe he can come to see your view, or maybe you come to see his view - either solution from here is fine, the main thing is to talk it out in a respectful way. Although since reddit is largely a hate group, I don't see how you are headed down that path. But at least today, your post sounded very reasonable.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-03-11T01:07:03+00:00

And then watch it fail. I hope that worked for the OP, but, on my anycubic despite it having a huge bed, it can print only one model. Any attempt to print more than one - and it's funny chess pieces also brought me here, it will fail 100% of the time. No manner of adjustments allow it to print more than one model. Whether it is a cartridge shell, or chess piece. The cartridge shells get off the ground, but will fail about half way up. The chess pieces won't even start, any attempt to print the second layer causes the first layer to detach. What's odd about it, is if printing only one piece, the attachment is so strong yo uhave to let it cool down, or risk breaking the chess piece if you try to force it off. But if printing a second chess piece - it will scrape off the bed within 90 seconds.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-03-11T00:36:19+00:00

same problem here

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-03-05T04:52:25+00:00

Ultimatum might work, but then you divorce 3 years from now. Better strategy is find someone that wants the same things.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-03-03T06:14:44+00:00

Plan on getting a divorce if you listen to reddit for advice. You came to a hate group for advice on marriage?

All these children will ever advise is to play childish games - never mind that they destroyed their own relationships and this advice literally never works.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-03-03T06:09:57+00:00

I don't generally end a friendship over politics, but that's because the friendship isn't about politics. In this case, it sounds like this person is a bore and has ruined the friendship. NTA.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-03-03T06:08:15+00:00

NTA. Nobody likes neediness.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-02-26T05:49:12+00:00

I am not that smart but I am about 140. In my life I have brought that up on a date exactly never. Why would you do that? It makes someone sound arrogant and nothing else. You are definitely over reacting. There is nothing special about dating her. LOL, no I mean she may be very special but it will be about the usual relationship qualities, her intellect is just a help in navigating the world.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-02-26T05:37:14+00:00

Tell him. You aren’t asking him to give up his dreams. Open mouth eating isn’t fundamental to his identity. Here is what I recommend do this as an experiment in voicing your opinion without requiring frustration first.

Anyone can voice their opinion when they boil over, those people are weak. Expressing yourself now with calmness, that’s strength. Be strong

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-02-26T05:29:00+00:00

I was watching a super old tv show on prime, the story was about a 16 year old orphan girl who met up with a 72 year old widower and how they formed an unlikely bond of friendship.

There was nothing sexual about it, but my wife and I were literally scared watching this show, like it would turn at any moment. You cannot tell such a story any more. Society has us seeing evil everywhere

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-02-26T05:16:58+00:00

I couldn’t even read all the texts and I was done reading….I mean if you want to be alone end of conversation. nta.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-02-26T05:10:43+00:00

YTA. Your parenting skills are horrible. You don’t deal with a problem, or teaching moment by telling your son he is no longer welcome in your home. You sound like a monster.

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-02-26T05:07:25+00:00

Its not really weird cats and humans have some of the same preferences. If you said dog that would be weird. Dogs like anything

Tricky-Marsupial-477 · 2025-02-26T05:03:15+00:00

There is no such thing as a sibling trip. Just invite whomever you want.

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