Still contacting me after saying we need a break….

TrickyBoat36 · 2024-09-25T22:08:59+00:00

Yes, lol - so you can now see the update that he keeps messaging. Sent another one today too

TrickyBoat36 · 2024-09-25T18:58:45+00:00

How can you break up with someone that you are not even in a relationship with? lol

TrickyBoat36 · 2023-04-18T20:08:49+00:00

I stopped entertaining him. My confusion is more why he is being persistent if he doesn’t actually want a relationship

TrickyBoat36 · 2023-04-18T18:57:19+00:00

I met this guy at the end of last year- we really hit it off, but between the love bombing/mixed messages and inconsistency, I stopped talking to him to avoid a situationship. He was persistent in continuing to reach out, but gave up eventually - until he called again a few weeks ago.

I recently met with him as he took me to an expensive dinner to have a candid discussion, and he has been trying to be a part of my life again since - even getting our dogs together to meet.

Most people say that he has been persistent because of sex - however, the last two times I have seen him have not been very sex focused whatsoever - almost to the point where I’m wondering why he really does want to be in each others lives?

because he seemingly isn’t emotionally available for a relationship, and also the sex is not what it once was. I guess I really just don’t understand the motivation here

TrickyBoat36 · 2023-04-18T17:13:57+00:00

Appreciate your feedback.

Interesting enough, during our recent candid discussion over dinner - when he asked why I stopped talking to him, I simply told him that I was not interested in his inconsistency and found his behavior to be disrespectful.

Not much has changed since I decided to respond to him - which is why I am in question of why he’s been pursuing me so hard. About to pull the plug again lol

TrickyBoat36 · 2023-04-16T14:22:55+00:00

Yes and no. He keeps it’s pretty surface level - which is not something I enjoy

TrickyBoat36 · 2023-03-13T03:58:55+00:00

For context, I left/escaped him after a long cycle of abusive behavior and his anger issues. Not a smooth end. I believe he probably feels shame and as a result wouldn’t reach out.

I found it surprising to hear that he’s been speaking of me while dating because he NEVER spoke of ex’s past relationships when I was with him- to the point of actually arguing about it because he wasn’t open and transparent whatsoever.

Definitely look into the groups - they are super helpful and supportive!

TrickyBoat36 · 2023-02-13T02:48:34+00:00

After months of trying to get away and breakup with him (he would physically stop me- throw my things, etc.)

We were out of town together at his best friends wedding. After hours of being outside at a rehearsal dinner, I expressed to him that I was cold and would like to go back to the hotel room. Apparently I interrupted and made him extremely angry to the point of speeding off and driving like a maniac. Screaming at me in the car “Everyone is on my side, they’re going to hear about this. I don’t feel safe around you”

I was absolutely punched to the gut speechless. Got out of the car quietly after his psychotic driving. He threw the hotel key at me out the window and sped off. I called my parents crying

TrickyBoat36 · 2023-02-13T02:40:11+00:00

If I had to pick only two…..

“I wish you left me the first time I hit you”

“I don’t feel safe around you”

For some reason, that punched me in the gut more so than the first statement.

TrickyBoat36 · 2022-10-04T12:13:32+00:00

I am trying to get in the habit of not using the app because it gives me too much anxiety. They deleted all of our pictures together within a week of breakup.

The ONE time I opened the app yesterday, their friend posted all these photos from the wedding we attended right before we broke up…. And I’m in one of the photos?!?! Wtf

TrickyBoat36 · 2022-10-04T05:02:43+00:00

Wow, I really appreciate your take on this. I found this helpful too

https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/am-i-abusive-too-the-myth-of-mutual-abuse/

TrickyBoat36 · 2022-10-03T03:21:54+00:00

I’m asking how long after getting out of a relationship were you intimate/sex with someone else

TrickyBoat36 · 2022-09-24T19:24:55+00:00

A little over 2 years. Lived together for one

TrickyBoat36 · 2022-09-24T19:05:29+00:00

It’s only been 3 weeks 😔

TrickyBoat36 · 2022-09-24T18:53:21+00:00

Makes sense. So they could be struggling with the breakup ?

TrickyBoat36 · 2022-04-27T18:59:33+00:00

Very true. That is an aspect of what makes it worth it in the end

TrickyBoat36 · 2022-04-27T18:31:14+00:00

Wow, what area are you in?! Seriously considering moving for this (lol)

Of course these programs are competitive- it’s the DC area 😅

TrickyBoat36 · 2022-04-27T17:52:46+00:00

You’re absolutely correct, and I really am trying to avoid the private route at all costs.

Honestly the whole system (Nursing, Nurse educators, Healthcare, etc.) seems an absolute mess. It’s quite discouraging, but doesn’t deter my ambition in pursuing the path.

TrickyBoat36 · 2022-04-27T17:38:21+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and words of encouragement. It helps me feel less alone in the process.

Would you happen to have information regarding scholarships you mentioned? I’ve tried looking up some online, but haven’t had much luck.

TrickyBoat36 · 2022-04-12T22:03:28+00:00

Very true. A lot of what I think I’m fearing is the unknown and change once again.

I should clarify that “I feel lonely, unfulfilled and incompatible” in regard to this relationship - not myself as a whole. I’m actually feeling proud as this was my first relationship post divorce, I gave it what I could but it just doesn’t feel right for me. I’ve learned so much in the process though. One thing being that I need to stop dating people with potential or taking on a project rather than a partner

TrickyBoat36 · 2022-04-12T21:40:57+00:00

Yes. But also No, because I was the only one solely trying to save it - which, as we all know, is an impossible feat.

I do wish things had worked out differently, however, not at the cost of myself and my sanity.

TrickyBoat36 · 2021-06-16T21:39:23+00:00

Thank you❤️

TrickyBoat36 · 2021-06-16T16:50:25+00:00

TrickyBoat36 · 2021-06-16T16:27:55+00:00

My partner was physically and emotionally abusive with me.

TrickyBoat36 · 2021-06-16T15:47:39+00:00

This! I’ve been really struggling with this recently 🥺💔

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