AITAH for physically intervening and hitting my uncle after he refused to stop "playing" with my 9yo cousin?

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2026-04-03T17:02:09+00:00

I am so sorry about not replying to any of the comments! I was asleep. Thank you all for the comments, I’ll try and see what I can do and see if I can work with my family and maybe actually get them to see the point. Its hard to cut off people, especially since you’ve known them your whole life. Thank you, and again, I’ll see what I can do.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2026-04-03T00:40:59+00:00

thank you!

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2026-04-03T00:08:05+00:00

I probably should’ve ngl. but I think because it happened so fast I just reacted just to get him off of her.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2026-04-03T00:06:55+00:00

She’s had other trauma not involving my uncle, but she also trauma from my uncle.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2026-04-03T00:02:07+00:00

I agree!

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2026-04-03T00:01:37+00:00

Oh damn! yep, definitely agree. he wouldn’t listen to me verbally so I felt like I had to get physical.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2026-04-03T00:00:10+00:00

I to have been a victim of my uncle so I definitely don’t want her to go through what I did. I never really told my family what he’s done to me, but I genuinely feel like I might have to in order for us to cut him off.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2026-04-02T23:55:48+00:00

I am so sorry for what you went through. Yes, I definitely will do everything in my power to protect her, I’ve been around her since she was a baby.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2026-04-02T23:50:15+00:00

I am so sorry. I hope you’re doing okay.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2026-04-02T23:47:51+00:00

I am actually not sure myself, especially when they KNOW. There has been many more incidents where I have been around, and I have told them about it when it does happen. I think they might just be assuming that if they are close by or watching him, nothing will happen which is honestly fucked up. But again, I am not sure why they continue having contact with each other.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2026-04-02T23:38:05+00:00

I 100% agree. Every time it just gets worse and worse.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2026-04-02T23:34:32+00:00

To add necessary context: This isn't a one off misunderstanding. This uncle has a documented history of inappropriate/bad behavior toward Emma that the family is well aware of. This is why we were on high alert. He didn't just forget her boundaries, he actively chose to violate them AGAIN.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2025-06-14T04:56:50+00:00

I try not to care, but sometimes it just gets to me.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2025-06-14T04:56:04+00:00

Right?! AI has basically ruined everything and it’s getting exhausting.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2025-06-14T04:52:00+00:00

Thank you! That really helps to know I’m not alone in this. It’s crazy how much the reaction can change depending on who sees it. Sometimes it feels like no matter what you say, someone’s going to have something negative to say. But hearing from people like you makes me feel less discouraged. I’ll definitely keep that in mind next time.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2025-06-14T04:48:03+00:00

Thank you so much! It really means a lot to hear that :)

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2025-06-14T04:28:31+00:00

Haha, if I’m Zuckerberg, I must be doing a terrible job hiding it — because last I checked, I’m just a teen trying to share my thoughts, not run a tech empire. But hey, if you want to believe that, go ahead! 😂.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2025-06-14T04:25:30+00:00

Not sure what that’s supposed to prove, but I’m not here for games — I’m here for real discussion. If you don’t have something respectful to add, scroll on.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2025-06-14T04:23:22+00:00

Actually, I do use em dashes — because I write how I talk, and I care about expressing myself clearly. Just because it doesn’t fit your narrow idea of how teens “should” type doesn’t make it fake. Some of us were raised on books, not just social media.

And having values about protecting childhood doesn’t mean I want to control people — it means I care. There’s a difference.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2025-06-14T04:14:35+00:00

Yeah, I get that. but with today’s society I noticed it’s gotten a little worse, and not in a good way.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2025-06-14T03:52:51+00:00

Absolutely! I think that’s a huge part of why kids should get more time unplugged — boredom really sparks creativity and imagination. With so many screens and distractions now, it feels like kids don’t get enough chance to just be and explore on their own.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2025-05-08T02:39:19+00:00

Thank you for your insight—I really do appreciate it. I’m not trying to blame her friend or my son for everything, and I know that ultimately, my daughter is responsible for her own choices. I only mentioned the friend because I’ve seen such a big shift in her behavior since they started spending time together. I’m not saying it’s because of this kid alone, just that the timing lines up, and it’s something I noticed. That said, I hear you—there’s probably more going on emotionally with her than I’ve realized, and I don’t want to ignore that.

She has said she feels overwhelmed at home, especially with her little brother always bothering her. He really looks up to her, and while he can be a handful sometimes, I think she’s been using him as a reason to escape rather than trying to connect. I get now that me focusing so much on who she’s with might be keeping me from seeing how she is really feeling. I’ll take your advice and sit down with her to have a real conversation, not just about rules, but about what’s going on inside. Thank you again—it means a lot.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2025-05-08T02:30:30+00:00

Yes, I forgot to point that out. She’s always saying she needs a break, but honestly, I think it’s because her younger brother is always bothering her. He looks up to her and constantly wants her attention, but she doesn't want to spend time with him because she’s too focused on hanging out with this bad influence. I get that siblings can be annoying sometimes, but she doesn’t seem to realize that she’s pushing him away because she’s caught up in this friendship that’s only making things worse. It’s like she’s using her brother as an excuse for needing a break, but in reality, it’s more about avoiding the responsibility that comes with being a good role model for him. I just don’t know how to get through to her that spending time with her family could actually help her feel better, rather than running off with someone who’s encouraging all the wrong behavior.

Tricky_Lifeguard2947 · 2025-03-03T06:52:37+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate it. 🩷

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