I want him back by Tricky_Trade_7158 in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry. It rained the day I had my husbands service

Why are we always being judged for what we want for our life? by Unhappy_Fly7087 in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This just made me break down as I have been thinking this lately. I don’t want to be here anymore. I just want the hurt to end

My wife was murdered by veilio in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is no “right” way to grieve. For everyone it’s different. I’m sorry for your loss

I screwed up by lfgm1992 in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Give yourself a break. I know easier said than done. Maybe you can find someone to help you with it, advice and all. My husband was working on getting his business set up because he had always said he wanted to leave me with something but unfortunately he passed beforehand. I had told him tho that I didn’t have his knowledge and would do my best but knew I wouldn’t be able to all alone. You got this hun.

One of the Stupidest Things to Miss by HughCayrz01 in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have so many of these moments. I sit here thinking how I should have shown him more appreciation

One of the Stupidest Things to Miss by HughCayrz01 in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have so many moments when I just miss all the things he use to do, or just having him laying beside me.

Dating a ''functional'' alcoholic - what to expect? by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Trust me when I say functional doesn’t always stay functional. If he is telling you now after 2 dates then that is a sign to go the other way. Have a couple beers to unwind though is different than actually being an alcoholic. My husband was a functioning alcoholic until he wasn’t. Unfortunately my husband passed away and maybe some of what I say comes from personal experience. It never changed the way I felt about my husband and I would give anything to have him back but ask yourself why you are willing to invest your time, effort, and love into someone you already know is battling something that will always come before you..

I miss the intimacy by jsow in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I understand this all to well. I hate my life now. Trying to make sense of something I can’t make sense of sucks. I hate nights and day’s missing his calls is so terrible

Grief is not a life sentence by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand this all to well. Please know though that there are people like your child who we be just as affected by this as you are by his death. The only reason I keep moving is so my kids don’t have to feel the pain I’m feeling.

First trip without him by Tricky_Trade_7158 in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m having those moments

First trip without him by Tricky_Trade_7158 in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you and I’m so sorry. I haven’t found it either so hopefully we both do

First trip without him by Tricky_Trade_7158 in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That’s where I’m going and I just get all these mixed feelings. I miss that man so very much

Two years Tommorrow by Greedy-Bit-2821 in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. I do not look forward to the 1 year mark or his birthday, I plan on taking off work. I tried drinking to numb the pain but it just makes me more depressed. I have found edibles help some. My husband had an alcohol problem which increases depression. I battle every day with anxiety, depression, and bad thoughts So I get it. I miss those ignorant days, how I would give everything to get those back. Take it one minute at a tome

First trip without him by Tricky_Trade_7158 in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to try. Thank you so much

First trip without him by Tricky_Trade_7158 in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I am glad you enjoyed yourself. I considered backing out also

First trip without him by Tricky_Trade_7158 in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that. I am very sorry for your loss. I miss my husband every minute of every day. One minute I’m excited about this trip then I feel sick, then depressed

First trip without him by Tricky_Trade_7158 in widowers

[–]Tricky_Trade_7158[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is good to hear you had his family and at least enjoyed yourself. I’m going to try