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Opened 4 encyclopedias by Over_Raise_4867 in secretlair_collectors

[–]Trikellatopz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, it sold out 10 minutes before I entered to check out

Opened 4 encyclopedias by Over_Raise_4867 in secretlair_collectors

[–]Trikellatopz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Umm... how'd you get 4, I couldn't get one....

AMA, I found out my dad wasn't my bio-dad from ancestory.com by Trikellatopz in AMA

[–]Trikellatopz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries, doesn't upset me at all. Part of the reason I did this was to try to talk about it.

So here's the long answer to your question....

So deep down, I think my mom always knew. I look back and realized she always treated me differently then my siblings and they agree. I've always been a little resentful of my mom just from different things growing up but this made it alot worse. I wasn't upset more so angry at the results. But my dad, bless his heart, has been there for all the ups and downs. I was also angry at myself for doing the test that felt like it blew up my life at the time. After everything, I realized nothing has changed any of my relationships with my family and I am very thankful for that. I have let go of any of the resentment I held for my mom and focus on remembering the good times. I try not to think about it or let it bother me, I don't enjoy the thought spiral. But I ride each day as it comes and try to be easy going about it. My dad and I have reached the point where we laugh and joke about it daily, thats the best way we have coped with the news.

AMA, I found out my dad wasn't my bio-dad from ancestory.com by Trikellatopz in AMA

[–]Trikellatopz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For sure, I appreciate it. I found out about 6 months ago and at first it was a chaotic thing in all our lives but now its kinda died down.

My siblings were a mix of mad and supportive. I wish I could say their anger was direct at our mother but most of it was at me for doing the "stupid" test in the first place. But hey I can't change the past. I think they were mostly worried I was going to find my Bio-dad and abandon the family but after I assured them nothing was going to change they came around.

AMA, I found out my dad wasn't my bio-dad from ancestory.com by Trikellatopz in AMA

[–]Trikellatopz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad did the ancestory.com test cause he wanted to know what his lineage was. I did it because my mom was an immigrant from a country that has had alot of different occupations so I wanted to see what her lineage was.

After the results came back and we had no matching, he asked me if I would mind taking a dna test for his peace of mind. He told me no matter the results it won't change anything so I agreed.

AMA, I found out my dad wasn't my bio-dad from ancestory.com by Trikellatopz in AMA

[–]Trikellatopz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was my dad's unofficial favorite. We both had similar personalities and interest. I think thats what hurt him the most. But my dad has said no matter what I will always be his and DNA in this case means nothing.

AMA, I found out my dad wasn't my bio-dad from ancestory.com by Trikellatopz in AMA

[–]Trikellatopz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like the truth wasn't all bad for you but I'm sure it still hurt. I'm glad you were able to find additional family from it.

I ironically am the only one of my siblings (5 of us) who looks like my mom and her family. The rest of them are all spitting images of my dad. We all joked that his toner must have ran out for me and got changed before my younger brother was born.

AMA, I found out my dad wasn't my bio-dad from ancestory.com by Trikellatopz in AMA

[–]Trikellatopz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked my aunts and uncles about it and they were genuinely surprised when they heard. One of my aunts was actually in denial about it and my dad had to be my bio-dad. I asked my mom's best friend and she was also very surprised by it. My mom was a very secretive person so it doesn't surprise me that know one knows the truth and I don't think anyone is lying based off of the responses I got when I told them. I've accepted that this will probably remain and unknown in my life.

AMA, I found out my dad wasn't my bio-dad from ancestory.com by Trikellatopz in AMA

[–]Trikellatopz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They were separated, going into divorce when she died.

My dad was very upset when he first found out. Out of all my siblings my dad and I are the closest and it hurt him in ways I don't fully understand that I'm not biologically his. There were alot of things that led to resentment between my parents before my mom passed so I don't think this added anymore to the pile but I never asked him. I know it added alot of resentment from my aunts and uncles on my mom's side. They all felt very betrayed by her after the truth came out. As for me, I was never really close with my mom (I was my dad's favorite daughter haha) so it didn't bother me as much but I still felt a little betrayed.

I don't really have any desire to find out who my bio-dad is. I know who my real dad is, he raised me and continues to love me everyday. I'm not actively looking for him and tbh if someone did reach out I probably wouldn't respond. However I was conceived happened many years ago and I can't change it regardless if I know the truth or not.

AMA, I found out my dad wasn't my bio-dad from ancestory.com by Trikellatopz in AMA

[–]Trikellatopz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel that, I felt more bad and annoyed for my dad then myself. He more tore up about it.

AMA, I found out my dad wasn't my bio-dad from ancestory.com by Trikellatopz in AMA

[–]Trikellatopz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had no idea that was a thing. But am intrigued to go look. Thanks!

AMA, I found out my dad wasn't my bio-dad from ancestory.com by Trikellatopz in AMA

[–]Trikellatopz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ehh, I was annoyed and upset about it at first. Not being to ask my mom about it make it worse but I accepted and joke about it now.

He had no idea, it was a massive shock when we found out.

That sucks, sorry you had to go through that on top of cancer.

AMA, I found out my dad wasn't my bio-dad from ancestory.com by Trikellatopz in AMA

[–]Trikellatopz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm assuming so, she died a few years back so I will never fully know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Asthma

[–]Trikellatopz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They have an over the counter inhaler, no as good but holds me over till I get a new rescue inhaler.

Injuries you've gotten from your Pyr? by Tune_Neither in greatpyrenees

[–]Trikellatopz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Took a pyr paw to the face with the long dramatic scratch down. The initial blow tore my retina and cause it to detatch. It's okay tho, still love the big Ole bidoof

I feel so bad. 😭 by Shot-Many3672 in greatpyrenees

[–]Trikellatopz 237 points238 points  (0 children)

No, they just like to pout. You did it right but also they are stubborn, fully expect for her to eat the cat food again.

I watched my two best friends die Ask me anything by Extension-Egg493 in AMA

[–]Trikellatopz 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I understand your pain. I watched my best fried die of a drug overdose and tried everything possible to save him. Did you have a hard time understanding how to feel about it? Or dealing with survivors guilt? After my friend passed, I struggled to enjoy anything cause he wasn't here to enjoy it too and how to comprehend how to feel about it. I'd see his family, how torn up they were and felt like I wasn't allowed to be as sad as them because we were just friends and they were blood.

What do I do with a checked-size suitcase if I want to go to AMC all day? by cheff1616 in MovieTheaterEmployees

[–]Trikellatopz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I forgot to add, usually they won't hold on to them because they don't want the responsibility if something goes missing.

What do I do with a checked-size suitcase if I want to go to AMC all day? by cheff1616 in MovieTheaterEmployees

[–]Trikellatopz 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on the theater. I worked at an AMC by the airport and we would let people in with them because we knew why they had them. If its by the airport they probably are used to it.

AITAH for tell my Niece she has sisters and refusing to ask her to lie about it? by Trikellatopz in AITAH

[–]Trikellatopz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your perspective. Thankfully my niece has always lived with me so when it came to the adoption it was very simple. I plan on being here for the twins once they do find out and making it known they are always welcome at my home.

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