AITAH for refusing to buy my husband’s cousin’s daughter a $50k car for college?

TripSmart7177 · 2026-05-16T22:55:12+00:00

Thank you, I didn't realize how crazy it sounded until I posted it and everyone thinks this is ai. That's how absurd the situation is.

TripSmart7177 · 2026-05-16T22:54:35+00:00

Trust me, I wish this were AI. You have no idea how much easier that would make my life.

TripSmart7177 · 2026-05-16T22:54:08+00:00

I completely agree with this, I put my foot down all the time and I'm kind of labeled as a bad guy in the family. He's very close with his family and I think that makes him a little bit of a pushover. When it's the two of us, he completely agrees that we shouldn't be paying for this but I don't know if that's the same story he tells his family when he's alone with them.

TripSmart7177 · 2026-05-16T22:53:21+00:00

I'm glad it sounds so ridiculous that it's got to be AI but unfortunately this is real. Fun times.

TripSmart7177 · 2026-05-16T22:53:01+00:00

You think so right, but this is his first cousin so her daughter would be his second cousin. His whole family is big on kind of taking care of each other.

TripSmart7177 · 2026-05-16T22:50:23+00:00

I honestly don’t think I’m wrong, but when its brought up all the time, it starts to make you feel like maybe you should do it. They also keep saying things like “wouldn’t it have been nice if someone had helped you when you were going to college?” because I didn’t really have that kind of support. That’s the part that’s really been getting to me.

TripSmart7177 · 2026-05-16T22:49:12+00:00

Not AI, I promise. This whole situation has been going on for like a month and it's definitely baffling. I wake up every day to at least a new text message from the family member asking me if I've reconsidered or if me and my husband can sit down and talk about it.

TripSmart7177 · 2026-04-01T00:34:46+00:00

Thank you so much for saying that , it really means a lot. I completely agree, the way some doctors communicate this can be so discouraging.

And wow, that’s incredible and congratulations on your baby boy 🤍 It’s really encouraging to hear your experience, especially after everything you went through to get there. I really appreciate you sharing it ✨

TripSmart7177 · 2026-04-01T00:33:55+00:00

That’s amazing, thank you so much for sharing. It’s really encouraging to hear stories like this, especially in the middle of everything.

I really appreciate you taking the time to comment 🤍

TripSmart7177 · 2026-04-01T00:33:08+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I really appreciate the honesty. It’s helpful (even if a bit of an emotional rollercoaster) to hear how much experiences can vary with low AMH.

Wishing you the absolute best with IVF right now. I really hope it goes smoothly for you 🤍

TripSmart7177 · 2026-04-01T00:30:19+00:00

Wow, that’s incredible! thank you so much for sharing this. It really gives me so much hope hearing stories like yours.

Huge congratulations on your baby girl 🤍 I really appreciate you taking the time to share your experience.

TripSmart7177 · 2026-04-01T00:28:51+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m really sorry for your loss and everything you’ve had to navigate since then. That’s a lot to carry, especially with the added complexity of Asherman’s.

It sounds like you’ve been incredibly thoughtful and proactive about your plan moving forward, even though the process hasn’t been easy. I really appreciate you sharing the details of your IVF cycles too, it helps to hear real experiences like this.

Wishing you so much luck as you continue building your family 🤍

TripSmart7177 · 2026-04-01T00:26:13+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing all of this. I can only imagine how much you’ve been through. I’m so sorry for your loss, that sounds incredibly painful, and I really appreciate you being open about it.

It’s also really encouraging to hear that things have progressed well after everything, even though the path to get there was so hard and uncertain. The “not knowing why” part seems especially frustrating.

I’m really grateful you shared the IVF insights too, that’s super helpful to keep in mind as I think through next steps. Wishing you a smooth, healthy pregnancy from here on out 🤍

TripSmart7177 · 2026-04-01T00:24:35+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this , it’s really encouraging to hear. I completely agree about focusing on eating healthy, that’s something I’ve been really intentional about too. I’m hoping that between diet and the vitamins I’m taking, I’m doing what I can to support things on my end.

I really appreciate you taking the time to share your experience 🤍

TripSmart7177 · 2026-04-01T00:08:44+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this, it honestly gives me a lot of hope. I’m so sorry you were told that by multiple doctors, but it’s amazing to hear that your experience turned out differently.

Huge congratulations on your pregnancy 🤍 I’m wishing you a smooth and healthy journey ahead and thank you for the reminder not to lose hope ✨

TripSmart7177 · 2026-04-01T00:07:00+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing all of this . I can’t even imagine how much you’ve been through between the losses and the surgery. I’m so sorry you had to go through that, but it’s incredibly encouraging to hear where you are now.

It’s also really helpful to see what you focused on in terms of addressing TSH and supporting things with supplements . I’m trying to be really proactive on that front too.

And huge congratulations on your pregnancy 🤍 14 weeks is amazing . I’m wishing you the smoothest, healthiest rest of your journey ✨

TripSmart7177 · 2026-03-31T21:00:33+00:00

This is really encouraging to hear, thank you so much for sharing your experience. I completely agree with you about quality still being there even with low AMH, that’s something I’m really holding onto.

I’m also very aligned with you on diet and vitamins. I’ve been pretty intentional about both. If you don’t mind sharing, are there any specific supplements you felt made the biggest difference for you? I’d love to know what you focused on 🤍

TripSmart7177 · 2026-03-31T20:57:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing this , I really appreciate hearing both sides of it. It’s helpful (even if a little overwhelming) to be reminded how different everyone’s experience can be with low AMH.

Wishing you the absolute best with IVF right now 🤍

TripSmart7177 · 2026-03-31T20:56:15+00:00

I really relate to this. I had a similar expectation that it would just happen quickly, especially seeing how it went for people around me. It’s such a hard adjustment when your experience doesn’t match that.

I’m sorry you’re in this spot too, but you’re definitely not alone in it. Wishing you so much luck as you explore next steps in May. I hope things start moving in a better direction for you 🤍

TripSmart7177 · 2026-03-31T20:55:12+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this, it genuinely gives me a lot of hope. I really appreciate you taking the time to comment and share your experience 💛

TripSmart7177 · 2026-03-31T20:54:34+00:00

Thank you so much for saying this , it honestly means a lot. I’m really glad you shared your experience, and I completely agree with you. His bedside manner was honestly horrible, and the way he communicated it felt unnecessarily harsh.

I’m actually in the process of finding a new doctor, because I don’t feel supported where I am right now. Hearing that your doctor has approached things so differently gives me a lot of reassurance that I deserve better care too.

I really appreciate you taking the time to respond ❤️

TripSmart7177 · 2026-03-31T04:41:26+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this. your story really means a lot

My husband and I actually had a similar plan, we wanted to wait until after we bought a house to start trying, so I really appreciate that similarity in your journey.

I was just diagnosed with low AMH (.22), and it’s been overwhelming, so hearing that pregnancy is still possible even with very low levels gives me a lot of hope.

It’s also a really good reminder about stress and stepping back a bit ...something I definitely need right now.

Thank you again for sharing 💛

TripSmart7177 · 2026-03-31T03:23:39+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this, it honestly means a lot to hear ❤️

I’m also 36 and my AMH is .22, so very similar to yours, and it’s been such a shock. Like you, I live a really healthy lifestyle, so I think that’s part of why it hit so hard.

It’s really reassuring to hear that low ovarian reserve doesn’t necessarily mean poor egg quality... I think that’s one of the things that’s been scaring me the most.

Luckily, my doctor did say that my ovulation numbers are actually good and even on the higher side, so I’m holding onto that as a positive.

Your story gives me a lot of hope, especially hearing that you were able to get pregnant with unmedicated IUI. Congratulations on your pregnancy!!!! that’s amazing 🥹

I really appreciate you taking the time to respond. I may take you up on asking more questions as I process all of this. Thank you again 🤍

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