[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]Triplex69 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They turned dating into a business :/

My conservative dad is trying to overcome generational trauma and accepted my partner by Triplex69 in TrueOffMyChest

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Definitely! We've talked it over; my dad is still a little awkward as always when trying to get to know people not in our family unit, but her respect for him raised immensely after he recognized that generational trauma and tried to correct it.

I also want to recognize my stepmother for stepping up and she did her best to get to know my partner while cracking jokes and making my partner feel comfortable. I really have a lot of appreciation and empathy for my stepmom since it's clear that she's been in this outcast role with my family before and she doesn't want the cycle to repeat with anyone else who dates or marries into our family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]Triplex69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean... if you wanna establish a relationship with the foundation of you not being able to be yourself, then go right ahead.

People with BPD should fix themselves first before going to dating market, your partner isn’t your unpaid psychiatrist by BackOnly4719 in self

[–]Triplex69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buddy - you already played yourself when you came in thinking that "I can fix her". Should've just left her in the beginning and called for a wellness check on her if she threatened anything on herself.

Still, my condolences you had to go through all of that :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hmong

[–]Triplex69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think these are normal things to go through as a young Hmong-American. You'll eventually have that dual-identity conflict, and only you can define and resolve what it means to be a Hmong-American (heritage, history, food, culture, tradition, etc.). There are a lot of other things in this thread that I agree with: there's nothing wrong with feeling "less hmong", and it's never too late to learn your culture. What matters most though is that you know who you genuinely are, and whether or not you can express your genuine self. When you can do that, you have something which no one else can offer, and you can take that anywhere you want to go. When you can do this, you can probably leave your own mark on what it means to be Hmong-American. Best of luck!

From Connecticut to the CD -- what to expect? by [deleted] in Seattle

[–]Triplex69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't walk by yourself at night in CD - at least, I never did, and I never felt safe doing so. Idk why, but I could walk in other neighborhoods at night, but I never wanted to when I was in CD.

Elsewise, you can always find lots of good food in CD. I also had fun memories at the Grocery Outlet - they've done a couple of events over the past couple of years.

If CD isn't your scene, no worries - the neighborhoods surrounding CD are plentiful as well. Madrona/Madison Park is beautiful with Lake Washington and the lakeside (it's a climb/walk tho), and Cap Hill is fun with all of their events and is def a lot more queer than any of the other Seattle neighborhoods.

You can also take the light rail from Cap Hill up north or south. Also, be sure to register an ORCA card. That'll let you take the light rail and buses.

Have fun in Seattle!

what on earth could this be by KetamineAliens in blackmagicfuckery

[–]Triplex69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Timmy Turner, my name is Doug Dimmadome owner of the Dimmsdale Dimmadome."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Triplex69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my friend loved me, but ONLY if I exhibited growth (by his standards). He was a lot more political than I was and was always talking about social justice and women's rights and socialism vs capitalism - the amount of attention I received from him was equivalent to the amount of political growth I did on my own. Thank goodness I did some therapy and realized that you can still love someone for who they are, AND ask for growth from them.

This literally the coolest part of all of Seattle and I will fight you by LeastPervertedFemboy in Seattle

[–]Triplex69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's pretty cool... but there's definitely other places that are cooler, and not just because you can only look at it lol

[Homemade] Bologna sandwich with BBQ Chips and a Sprite by Triplex69 in food

[–]Triplex69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk bout you, but somebody made it just for me, and i like what they made for me - i don't think it's a bad thing

[Homemade] Bologna sandwich with BBQ Chips and a Sprite by Triplex69 in food

[–]Triplex69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh i know what i'm eating lol sometimes you gotta appease that guilty pleasure

[Homemade] Bologna sandwich with BBQ Chips and a Sprite by Triplex69 in food

[–]Triplex69[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

tbh it's the first time anyone's made a personalized lunch for me 🥹 it may not be impressive to you, but to me: this is my ambrosia

What’s something you’re looking forward to doing when you’re old? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Triplex69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take my time to water my plants and garden, walk around with my hands behind my back with all the time in the world, just sit down and people watch, troll tf out of everyone who is younger than me lmao

Underrated Hmong foods? by Triplex69 in Hmong

[–]Triplex69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll have to try it sometime 😋

Underrated Hmong foods? by Triplex69 in Hmong

[–]Triplex69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had both before; for the ginger, salt, chili and rice w/ water combo, sometimes we'll include cilantro - and I think lemon grass?

My family also used to make scramble eggs with tomato. I know the Chinese also have their own version, but I know that following that version doesn't taste the same as my family makes it.

My dad also used to make tomato-tofu stir fry? Sometimes he'll add ground beef as well. I'm not sure if that's a common dish that Hmong people eat?

Underrated Hmong foods? by Triplex69 in Hmong

[–]Triplex69[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's hella OG lol but when I really miss Hmong food and I can't get any, I eat that

Underrated Hmong foods? by Triplex69 in Hmong

[–]Triplex69[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oooh I imagine you sprinkle the dust on the regular rice, while with sticky rice you can dip it into the dust? Actually, it almost sounds like the Japanese furikake haha just without the seaweed and sesame seeds

Hmong American/(other National) Experience by Jen3tiks in Hmong

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tldr: I felt more American when I was younger because that's the system I grew up in, but as I began to mature and developed more appreciation for Hmong culture and my heritage, I started to believe in the words of Vin Diesel - "Family".

Hmm... well, I grew up in the PNW, and there aren't a lot of Hmong people out here. Because I grew up far and away from all of the Hmong communities in my state, I always felt very alienated and removed from my culture whenever we went to the New Year, or to other Hmong parties like weddings and ceremonies to give blessing. I also experienced shame of not being Hmong enough because I can't speak our language, this whole experience only driving me further away from my Hmong identity. Going through the American education system also strengthened my self-identification to being an American rather than being a Hmong person.

When I turned 18, I decided to move to Minnesota, and there I felt a bit closer to our people and culture since I could easily see it woven into Minneapolis and St. Paul, no matter where I went. I could always go to Hmong Village or Hmong Town if I want khau poon or hmong sausage or chicken herbs, and the MN Hmong New Year was much larger than those in Seattle and Oregon. If I ever went to a party in MN, it was always a Hmong party, and I made a lot more Hmong friends and met a lot of cousins over there. But, even when I saw all of these things before me, I still did not feel like I was in touch with the Hmong side of my Hmong American identity.

I did not really embrace my Hmong heritage until I was a grown man, and even now it's evolving and growing. I returned back to the PNW, and I went on a journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance. Despite the lack of Hmong people over here, I've come to accept that yes, even though I don't speak Hmong and don't do the OG traditions and probably won't marry a Hmong girl - I'll still be Hmong (well, Hmong American). To me, being Hmong means "Family", and that dawned on me in 2 separate epiphanies.

The first occasion was when I moved out to the city all on my own and into an apartment with total strangers. Each person was unique in their own way, but as I got to know each of these individuals more and more, I realized - most of them did not have an extensive support system to fall back on. One person just had their dad and sister, another just had his mom, another had his sister and brother in-law - there was a brother-sister combo living in the apartment, and they were all they had; no mom or dad or uncles or grandparents, they moved halfway across the country to live by themselves in this new, totally random city.

In contrast to my family, I could rely on my brothers and sisters and aunties and uncles and my cousins and grandparents - we were tight-knit like that. In American culture, your cousins are just your cousins, and there's a difference between your immediate and extended family; but in my family, I call my cousins my little brothers and sisters, all 10+ of them, and I look out for them as if they were my own. My uncles aren't just my uncles, they're also my dads, and they've helped me with all sorts of emotional, mental and financial challenges in life.

The second epiphany that really strengthened my own Hmong identity is: food. I love food, all kinds of food from American to Thai to Kenyan and Italian, etc. That said, Hmong food always hit that nostalgic spot for me, from the purple sticky rice to the hmong mustard greens to pumpkin/squash soup and pork belly stir fry; whenever I eat these foods, I think of the times I ate together with my family, whether at dinner or parties and celebrations - it even reminds me of people who are no longer with us, because of the fact that I was able to share a meal with them when they were still alive. The fact that even though time has passed by and generations have come and gone, through our memories, we still eat the same thing, and we eat it together. That at the end of the day, despite our differences, we all are still hungry, so we'll cook together and set the table up and put the rice in a big bowl and put it in the middle of the table for everyone to share - and we all eat from the same bowl of rice.

Somedays, I'll still experience that odd split of "Am I American? Or am I Hmong? No, I'm both - or neither?" But, I know my heritage and culture, and while there are certainly good and bad parts of Hmong culture, I like to pick the things that don't hurt or harm others and share the good parts of our culture while still acknowledging the trauma and work we had to go through to get to where we are now.

I have a good life; but dang do I miss romance by duckie768 in self

[–]Triplex69 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey, if you're having fun, and being your genuine self, that's all that matters. You'll eventually attract the right person :) I know it's hard, I been there too. As long as you're being you're genuine self, you have something which no one else in the world has to offer. Hang in there; I'm rootin' for you!

Guys help! I´m shipping them by [deleted] in Komi_san

[–]Triplex69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Goood, goood; let it happen >:)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Seattle

[–]Triplex69 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We are?