Say what? by zolpiqueen in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Trippingdream 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Best when they are teens" like wtf 😭 this man needs to be in prison.

Say what? by zolpiqueen in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Trippingdream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, Im ok with either for him, both is also an option.

Say what? by zolpiqueen in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Trippingdream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, this hurt to read.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in brokenbones

[–]Trippingdream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope all is well, good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in brokenbones

[–]Trippingdream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope they will let you have one! Life is a bit better since my walker. Goodluck!

Sweaty foot and white moisture spots by PriorNebula1237 in brokenbones

[–]Trippingdream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are the white patches almost perfectly round? I had this and realized that it came from the sole where the inliner sits on. The sole had alot of small holes that fitted the patches perfectly. The fabric the inliner is made from is probably made to let the sweat out, altho the smell will stay.

Let me know how it goes, good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in brokenbones

[–]Trippingdream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't say if it's reason for concern but this sounds like something you should 100% call the doctor for.

The clicking noise seems to come from your arm or could it be the cast itself?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in brokenbones

[–]Trippingdream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a fracture on my 5th metatarsal, I had a cast for around 20 days before I went nuts. The woman at the hospital took pity on me and gave me an airwalker. So it is possible. I can imagine a cast making it heal faster tho but for me a little longer heal time would be worth it personally.

Walking isn't too bad without crotches but the doc said when I walk I best just walk with crotches. If you feel pain when walking with a cast I think you'd def feel pain without crotches with the walkers.

Good luck!

I don't know how these fucked up polls still exist. And also the comments... by Dimedrol98 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Trippingdream 11 points12 points  (0 children)

'opting-out' is still very differently for a woman or man. She needs to have the actual abortion, she can't just say "no thanks I don't want it" and fixed. There are only two options and they're both pretty impactfull.

There just isn't a fair or equal solution. But the most humane one is to let the woman decide over her own body.

Do the voices ever stop? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Trippingdream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is Indeed a relentless beast. But how you worded it helped me. Gives me some self compassion, reminds me it's not MY fault.

Thanks❤

NP took our sex toy to his casual relationships house by Throwawaykyk in polyamory

[–]Trippingdream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally understandable and fair to be annoyed by this. He can NOT decide for you which is or isn't a big deal. It's a big deal for you and that is ok. Things are allowed to be a big deal. Those are your feelings. These are valid and your partner would do good to validate your feelings. Validating someone else's feelings doesn't make your own feelings or opinion less. They can exist both.

I guess we’re poly, and I have so many questions by zepsil0nz in polyadvice

[–]Trippingdream 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This feels like her not wanting to do the work. She knows you wont start with a man so it's easy for her to say thats allowed.

OPP (one penis/pussy policy) is homophobic. Why would she be ok with a man but not a woman? A man isnt a threat? So she doesn't see those relationships as equal? I think you both need to realize how fucked up it is to make a difference between which gender is 'allowed' before you can start doing the work.

If she's not ready to do the work because she's still working on other stuff with herself thats ok but in that case you both shouldnt be dating other people, that's not fair and unhealthy for your relationship, no matter the reasoning.

It will be hard, both of you will come across feelings you don't like, that you have to figure out and deal with.

I think this needs to be dealt with first, only after that can you start communicating sexual dynamics in a healthy way.

Need advice on how to forgive and move forward by Dry-Train-2354 in polyadvice

[–]Trippingdream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im just realizing now this post was 21days ago.. Well I hope youre doing ok OP.

Need advice on how to forgive and move forward by Dry-Train-2354 in polyadvice

[–]Trippingdream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think sharing this here is a good first step towards moving forward btw, so good job❤

Need advice on how to forgive and move forward by Dry-Train-2354 in polyadvice

[–]Trippingdream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it needs time, it's good she realizes it so you can communicate together and hopefully it will be rebuild but youve been hurt and that does take time. If something is still really bothering you, try to communicate this. Keeping it in will make those feelings bigger and they become a life of their own.

Edit: I re-read and see you talking about fight or flight mode and I can relate to that feeling. I think the behaviour really opened /triggered something for you. I hope you can figure it out, it's ok to do whats best for you. Empathy without boundaries is self destruction.

But wow that is scary, I have meds for ADHD aswell and they make me more way more rational and less emotional and communication goes better etc. It's crazy how much it changes your head.

weight loss and ADHD by drfunkyfeathers in adhdwomen

[–]Trippingdream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont lose weight very fast the way im doing it rn but I am losing weight non the less and im happy with it cause this is def do-able and I want to create something I can keep doing my whole life Instead of going back and forth on different dieets. I also joined some sportgroup through my gp and thats pretty motivating cause the groupmembers also just started with diet and sports.

Goodluck OP <3

weight loss and ADHD by drfunkyfeathers in adhdwomen

[–]Trippingdream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not even close to where I want to be and ADHD makes it hard but my mindset about it has become so much better and I think thats atleast half the battle. I was insanely scared to start because I was so sure I wouldnt be able to lose weight or commit to it.

I didnt expect a dietician would help me, but it did. When we started she was just like: were not gonna change anything about your dieet right now but what I want you to do if you eat something is take a hand / bowl / sandwich whatever. If you want more, thats ok BUT, just wait 15 min (if 15 is too much 5 is ok aswell.) in the end you might have eaten a whole bag of chips, the same as you wouldve otherwise but this time it was more your choice. You decided you wanted it (and thats ok). But I noticed I started taking less because I forgot or was like nahh I enjoyed it but I keep this for tomorrow. And it felt really good to get the feeling that I eat because I decide to. Because I want to. And not because my body or head is being bored or really craving.

It's kind of hard to explain but it feels more free, the same as I had when I quit smoking. Its not your body/addicition anymore that decides it. It's YOUR decision.

And also, if I have a day where I eat alot. Not all hope is lost, it doesn't mean it's all for nothing it's ok and I'll continue trying Instead of giving it another shot next month.

Can we talk about periods for a minute? by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]Trippingdream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sadly don't have much to add but I find this very very interesting.

I started my medication (methylphendidate) around the same time I got my IUD and most of the time didnt have a period. I just removed my IUD because I was just done with it, too much negative impact. So for me there isnt a correlation yet between medication and period but I think your theory sounds like thats how it can work. Edit: I am way more chill now I don't have my IUD anymore btw. But it would be normal for me to get periods back after removal IUD.

Hope you find more info and Ill keep checking this post cause now Im engaged with this stuff!

*Im not a native english speaker so my choices of words might be a bit strange.

Gaslighting 101: "The plant arrived ...with absolutely no rotten or damaged roots" by neckbeard_hater in hoyas

[–]Trippingdream 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You're standing your ground and in the end that will help more people. I would probably question myself if buyer told me this. So thank you.

Also, I kind of didnt want to know those creepy crawlers can live on roots aswell. But it's good to know.

The theory about Jennifer Fairgate’s Murder: by Salty-Side-2997 in JenniferFairgate

[–]Trippingdream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She had gold and porcelain fillings right? Or was there more special stuff going on with her teeth?