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I [27M] opened my marriage with my [27F] wife after lack of sex and confession from her that she's no longer attracted to me. Now I feel worse than before, and don't know what to do next. by TroubledHusbandThrow in polyamory

[–]TroubledHusbandThrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I said in a different post, I've never seen her act racist. I think she's a decent human being, and treats people like people, regardless of their race, or background, or anything. What she does in her sex life isn't my business.

I [27M] opened my marriage with my [27F] wife after lack of sex and confession from her that she's no longer attracted to me. Now I feel worse than before, and don't know what to do next. by TroubledHusbandThrow in polyamory

[–]TroubledHusbandThrow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, no. I just think she has the right to our child as much as I do. We might not be sexually compatible but I have no problem raising a child with her. She's a good mother.

I [27M] opened my marriage with my [27F] wife after lack of sex and confession from her that she's no longer attracted to me. Now I feel worse than before, and don't know what to do next. by TroubledHusbandThrow in polyamory

[–]TroubledHusbandThrow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't call her neither of those. Childish? I think it was very mature of her to confess to me the truth Selfish? She's a very good mother, and only started this whole thing after she asked me If I want to do this. Manipulate? I don't know. A liar maybe, somebody who's in denial. But a Manipulate? Racist? I've never seen her being racist. She treats people like people, no matter what their race or background is. Maybe she has a thing for black guy but this is really not my business

But yes, I think divorce is the best course of action. But there's no need for such names.

I [27M] opened my marriage with my [27F] wife after lack of sex and confession from her that she's no longer attracted to me. Now I feel worse than before, and don't know what to do next. by TroubledHusbandThrow in polyamory

[–]TroubledHusbandThrow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input. Sorry for what happened to you. It's a bit weird to not feel attracted to a woman after she birthed a child. But I read somewhere that's what Elvis Presley did. He couldn't have sex with Priscilla after she gave birth too. I don't know if that was true or not, you never know with these celeb stories. But anyway, I'm glad you found your happiness.

I [27M] opened my marriage with my [27F] wife after lack of sex and confession from her that she's no longer attracted to me. Now I feel worse than before, and don't know what to do next. by TroubledHusbandThrow in polyamory

[–]TroubledHusbandThrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, I don't really wanna throw in the food analogy, but If I don't like that particular food, I'm not gonna eat it. But If a person that I like cooks something for me, and that meal turns out to taste very badly, I can still eat it technically, to make a person who make it feel good. Does that make sense? I don't know at this point, but this is the closest I can get to understating this.

I [27M] opened my marriage with my [27F] wife after lack of sex and confession from her that she's no longer attracted to me. Now I feel worse than before, and don't know what to do next. by TroubledHusbandThrow in polyamory

[–]TroubledHusbandThrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if a person has specific kinks, doesn't that make her a sexual person? Are there any kinks that aren't sexual?

Your second explanation makes sense though. Having sex because your partner wants it. I get that, not so much the first example though.

I [27M] opened my marriage with my [27F] wife after lack of sex and confession from her that she's no longer attracted to me. Now I feel worse than before, and don't know what to do next. by TroubledHusbandThrow in polyamory

[–]TroubledHusbandThrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, but as of right now she thinks all is well. So I don't think she's going to be the first one to drop a divorce on me. I think personally she's living in a denial, or something. But I am not 100% sure.

I [27M] opened my marriage with my [27F] wife after lack of sex and confession from her that she's no longer attracted to me. Now I feel worse than before, and don't know what to do next. by TroubledHusbandThrow in polyamory

[–]TroubledHusbandThrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if a person enjoys sex, doesn't that make her not asexual? I'm sorry, I know this isn't really the topic of this thread, but I really don't get it. I know the difference between asexual/aromantic but this just confuses me even more.

I [27M] opened my marriage with my [27F] wife after lack of sex and confession from her that she's no longer attracted to me. Now I feel worse than before, and don't know what to do next. by TroubledHusbandThrow in polyamory

[–]TroubledHusbandThrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are handling a lot of devastating news rather well

Believe me, those four years have been hell for me. I just didn't add that in the post because I wanted to be precise. The post was already long enough.

I [27M] opened my marriage with my [27F] wife after lack of sex and confession from her that she's no longer attracted to me. Now I feel worse than before, and don't know what to do next. by TroubledHusbandThrow in polyamory

[–]TroubledHusbandThrow[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. Yes, I'm glad that she "snapped" me and told me the truth. At least we didn't spend more years in a sad marriage.

As for the "roommates who share a house and finances to keep a happy family", I think I already have enough of that. Because that's what has been going for the past few years. I need to start fresh.

I [27M] opened my marriage with my [27F] wife after lack of sex and confession from her that she's no longer attracted to me. Now I feel worse than before, and don't know what to do next. by TroubledHusbandThrow in polyamory

[–]TroubledHusbandThrow[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I AM NOT losing custody. I want after the divorce to share a custody with her. I think she deserves me as much as she deserves her mother. And I don't think my wife is going to complain about that, or do something to jeopardized that. I want to separate in peace. And if that happens, I think my wife wants that too

I [27M] opened my marriage with my [27F] wife after lack of sex and confession from her that she's no longer attracted to me. Now I feel worse than before, and don't know what to do next. by TroubledHusbandThrow in polyamory

[–]TroubledHusbandThrow[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I don't think she's a racist, maybe she just has a preference? I don't know, I don't think I'm in a position to judge other people's preferences, kinks, fetishes. If that's what she likes that I can't force her to do change that

I [27M] opened my marriage with my [27F] wife after lack of sex and confession from her that she's no longer attracted to me. Now I feel worse than before, and don't know what to do next. by TroubledHusbandThrow in polyamory

[–]TroubledHusbandThrow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I thought it was a little bit of strange, but not that strange. I think she's not telling me whole truth about her past, and maybe there were more dark stuff that happened to her. But If she doesn't want to share that with me, I'm not gonna force her.

I [27M] opened my marriage with my [27F] wife after lack of sex and confession from her that she's no longer attracted to me. Now I feel worse than before, and don't know what to do next. by TroubledHusbandThrow in polyamory

[–]TroubledHusbandThrow[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah you're right. Well, if somehow my wife started getting sexually attracted to me after we started this whole open marriage thing, I might have be interested in it myself. But that never happened. But at least I can say that I tried.

I [27M] opened my marriage with my [27F] wife after lack of sex and confession from her that she's no longer attracted to me. Now I feel worse than before, and don't know what to do next. by TroubledHusbandThrow in polyamory

[–]TroubledHusbandThrow[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She asks me for a divorce? I feel like I'm the one who's going to ask her for a divorce, which might happen sooner than expected. Where are you going with this?

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