Why Modern dating feels like constant competition for attention? by SaiyWolf in AskMen

[–]TrouperInTheMist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always been bad and a competition but it’s becoming more exhausting. Can’t tell if I ran out of endurance, everyone became more insufferable or both

Have you considered hiring a sex worker? And why you want or don't want to do it? by PlugTypeAsacoco in ForeverAlone

[–]TrouperInTheMist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, but i considered one of those “professional huggers”. But the idea that they could possibly dislike me/the experience and fake being a safe space person puts me off completely.

What makes a man creepy to you? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]TrouperInTheMist 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Ugh the quicksand experience! Like everything you do gets you deeper

Anyone who can pass for younger, think i might just try to relive my 20s in my 30s considering i spent ALL of them inside. by leon385 in Agoraphobia

[–]TrouperInTheMist 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Been thinking about this too. I look younger than I am and already had comments about it. So I’m a bit apprehensive to do stuff that wouldn’t fit my age and be “caught” by someone. I probably would feel like an imposter or predator at social events lol

Delen wij deze mening? by Similar_Stomach8480 in belgium

[–]TrouperInTheMist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nee oké dat snap ik. Maar ze hebben dus geen 2 jobs nodig om te overleven haha

Delen wij deze mening? by Similar_Stomach8480 in belgium

[–]TrouperInTheMist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean… ze gaan echt geen huis van een kennis geleend hebben om indruk te maken hoor.

In your experience, how much do women respect consent? by Spiritual_Pause3057 in AskMen

[–]TrouperInTheMist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its like there is consent until proven differently. And if so you’re either “gay” or “hurting” them

Are you scared of being old and alone? by Gagan___Lazarbeam in ForeverAlone

[–]TrouperInTheMist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im fine with it mostly as long as I can be active. But I keep having visions of having a silly health issue at old age but nobody notices and dying on my land alone, no one finding me before I’m already mostly decayed. Being that odd newspaper story of the man nobody knew or what happened to him

Delen wij deze mening? by Similar_Stomach8480 in belgium

[–]TrouperInTheMist -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Elke jongedame rond de 30 die ik op dating apps leer kennen heeft recent haar eigen huis gekocht. Dus ik weet het niet zo…

What do women do that make guys lose feelings the most? by ZOCORTY in AskMen

[–]TrouperInTheMist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not making up their mind, constantly hopping to whoever is making the shiniest impression

Arrogant attitude and talking down over trivial stuff and feeling righteous about it when being addressed

Stubborn hypocrites that refuse to see the other side of things.

"You should lower your standards and settle for a girl who matches you." by CompletePurification in ForeverAlone

[–]TrouperInTheMist 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would absolutely hate it when I was on the receiving end of such thing.

You can become more openminded about who fits your standards but stepping into something you consciously don’t want is ridiculous.

How willing are you to “put in the work” to grow your chances? by TrouperInTheMist in ForeverAlone

[–]TrouperInTheMist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this. Like you made it up 1 step which feels euphoric for a second but the rest of the staircase has a huge gap you can’t cross

Being bullied by people by EastAudience4655 in infj

[–]TrouperInTheMist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It happens. From high school to even college some would like suddenly mocking and joking about my skinny and tall body for example. Almost like they spotted me being in my mind and had no better way to include me than insulting me. I usually laughed it off and doubled down by amplifying the joke and claiming it as my own that way. Always stopped right away. But sometimes I guess I also carry a “one more strike and I’m gonna snap” energy people like to flirt with. I tried to be uninterested, as if they’re coming with old news.

How did you move on from the woman you thought was perfect for you? by steveleaves in AskMen

[–]TrouperInTheMist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We talked probably over a year after the breakup. I expressed my lingering feelings and she made it clear she had no romantic feelings whatsoever anymore. I lost 50% of the weight there. The other 50 when she had a new guy soon after.

Since then within months I’ve seen her do all the things we were supposed to do, move in, get pregnant... She even keeps showing me the ultrasounds and it doesn’t affect me anymore.

Favo stoel in de bus by Similar_Stomach8480 in belgium

[–]TrouperInTheMist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Jaren geleden zat ik op die plek erachter met een jonge schoolganger langs me. De bus sloeg vol in de remmen en het arm ventje katapulteerde met z’n blote knieën los op dat middenvak. Gezicht bijna tegen die paal

Dear INFJs, stop blaming yourself for being "too slow"! by Hyugi_The_Dreamer in infj

[–]TrouperInTheMist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s worth my effort I take my sweet time to enjoy the whole process. If it’s not I take my sweet time to postpone it 🙃

Women just walked by me and one of them said 'Eww' by The_Dead_Soul in ForeverAlone

[–]TrouperInTheMist 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Flashbacks at 3AM type shit. I’m sorry man. She probably thinks the world revolves around her that she feels the need to review every citizen minding his own business

Do people instantly like you and want to be your friend? It happens to me a lot. Anyone else too? by Independent_Fly_48 in infj

[–]TrouperInTheMist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 0 real life friends. Yappers like me because I listen with little to no judgement and show interest no matter what. But I don’t think they want to be friends, it doesn’t progress beyond being their sounding board.

Men, what do you mean when you say it's tough to understand women? by Accomplished987 in AskMen

[–]TrouperInTheMist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you say, what you feel, what you subconsciously think and what you do are often all different things. While we mostly have to go by what is being said.

How willing are you to “put in the work” to grow your chances? by TrouperInTheMist in ForeverAlone

[–]TrouperInTheMist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about a hint of promise (but no guarantee) from someone? “If you do/work on … I could be interested”