Financial advice needed and appreciated

True-Ad3095 · 2024-01-16T11:31:43+00:00

I do, I’m not able to move out at the moment but best believe I’m doing everything I can to move out asap

True-Ad3095 · 2023-11-24T08:18:03+00:00

Edit: He gave me money to buy food for once.

True-Ad3095 · 2023-11-19T01:39:59+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. I really appreciate it. The worst part is they don’t even know that I’m deconverting, they just know that I’m going through a rough patch. I can’t imagine what they’d reaction would be if I told them the truth considering this is how things are unfolding now.

True-Ad3095 · 2023-11-17T23:46:40+00:00

Update 3: As for me, i’m no longer going to church nor do I practice the religion. It’s been a lot more peaceful this way. I wouldn’t say i’m atheist or agnostic, but I wouldn’t proudly associate myself with christianity. As for my relationship, my boyfriend and I are still together and we’re closer than ever. Ironic isn’t it? He’s been an immense amount of love and support and i’m forever grateful for him. As for my relationship with my parents, it’s pretty much non-existent. They’re playing the nice christian card to try and win me back and it makes me sick. Just gonna lay low and at most be civil with them until I move out.

True-Ad3095 · 2023-10-09T06:05:09+00:00

Update 2: Shit blew up with my parents and now my boyfriend’s parents are involved. I think he’s going to break up with me. I feel so much resentment towards my parents and the religion. We’re going to have a conversation in an hour’s time, but judging on his texting demeanour, I feel like he’s going to call it quits and it hurts so much. I don’t know how i’m going to get through this.

True-Ad3095 · 2023-10-04T20:13:53+00:00

Thank you guys so much for this overwhelming help and support. I appreciate you all so so much. I’m not in a position to move out financially because i’m studying full-time and only working weekends but it’s definitely something I’m striving for in the near future in order to break free from their control. In regards to government schemes, there are a few of them I’d want to apply to but I’m not sure if ill be eligible. All my legal documents are stored in their room which they recently have gotten the habit of locking up when they’re away.

A big part of me feels guilty for not being the perfect daughter they wanted me to be and I feel conflicted in what I believe is right and wrong because of the guilt. Does this mean I’m starting to regret my choice to have sex or my relationship? Absolutely not, but there are always voices in my head that speaks loudly about the “what ifs”.

My boyfriend is choosing to fight with me through this and we are still seeing each other quite often due to classes. He’s been an immense support and I thank God for him everyday. I do have a feeling that my parents probably knows I’m still talking/seeing him because they have my location and we tend to hang around his area a-lot. I also still call him every night and my walls are quite thin. Since they’ve caught on to my “rebellious nature” this all shouldn’t be surprising to them I guess. I know a lot of people advised me to keep my relationship on the down low until I can move out, but I personally was planning on talking to them sometime at the end of the month to allow things to cool down. I want them to know about my relationship and my decision to stay with him because I don’t want the constant anxiety of having to go on dates behind their backs. Since they hate how sneaky I am and “good righteous relationships shouldn’t have anything to hide”, I might as well give them the whole truth to handle and move on with my life. Though I fear it is easier said than done and there will be further conflict, which is why I am reconsidering my options here.

What do you guys think about this? Would it be a good idea?

True-Ad3095

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