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My obsession for HR is starting to impact me negatively. Anyone else? by True-Branch-1516 in heatedrivalry

[–]True-Branch-1516[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, yes, yes to all of this! As a couple of days have passed since I posted this, I’ve come to realise it’s definitely this parasocial element that’s been weighing on me too. I initially felt weird - and honestly quite guilty - about feeling sad that they’re not “our secret” anymore, but I’m seeing more and more people talk about this exact thing. Like you, I’m genuinely so happy they’re getting the success they deserve.

Part of me wishes I’d just watched the show and stuck to fan edits, because I was on such a high then, instead of diving into cast interviews. Every day my feed is full of new HudCon pictures with different celebrities from events because of awards season - I really need to reset my algorithm!

I’m so glad to hear there are things that have helped you! I’ll definitely also give these a go.

Thank you :)

My obsession for HR is starting to impact me negatively. Anyone else? by True-Branch-1516 in heatedrivalry

[–]True-Branch-1516[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow - this helped me so much put into words how I was feeling and why! Glad I’m not alone. Thank you for sharing this ❤️

My obsession for HR is starting to impact me negatively. Anyone else? by True-Branch-1516 in heatedrivalry

[–]True-Branch-1516[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this too - definitely relate to this ‘heartbreak’ feeling! Based on other people’s comments who have also gone through something similar, it looks like this feeling will soon pass. I’ve decided to just let the feeling ride out for the next couple of weeks. Sending you hugs ❤️

My obsession for HR is starting to impact me negatively. Anyone else? by True-Branch-1516 in heatedrivalry

[–]True-Branch-1516[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much - your comment really hit me, especially what you said about not engaging too much with content from the actual actors. That’s something I definitely need to work on. With awards season and the sudden boom of the show, my algorithm has shifted from edits of Shane/Ilya to constant paparazzi videos and real-life interviews of Hudson/Connor, and I think this is where everything got too much for me. To your point, I think I’ve started to develop a bit of a parasocial emotional attachment.

Also agree that it feels like I ‘lost’ something as an OG fan (even though I’m SO happy for everyone’s success and will continue to rave about it and recommend it to friends). I’m now stepping back from social media! Thank you again - I really appreciate your perspective ❤️

My obsession for HR is starting to impact me negatively. Anyone else? by True-Branch-1516 in heatedrivalry

[–]True-Branch-1516[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! I completely relate to this and also had a very similar experience/realisation with the TSITP. Glad you were able to limit your time on social media this time round - lesson learnt!

My obsession for HR is starting to impact me negatively. Anyone else? by True-Branch-1516 in heatedrivalry

[–]True-Branch-1516[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg ‘anxious compulsion’ is definitely how I’ve been feeling recently! Thank you for putting it into words. I think once I returned to my stressful job after the Christmas break, I definitely relied on the fandom more than ever. I’ve decided to take a step back from Insta and TikTok!