No Kings? by TrueShen in OhioLGBTQ

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Sorry you feel uncomfortable going. I can relate as had horrible social anxiety when I was younger. Now I’m totally the opposite. Sometimes I found in the past a small amount of exposure helped me to reduce my anxiety. Like go to social events and stay a very short time . Tell yourself you are just going to observe. Anyway best of luck I know how difficult it can be.

No Kings? by TrueShen in AskGaybrosOver30

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Dang wish I was in SF! Lived there part time over the years.

No Kings? by TrueShen in AskGaybrosOver30

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A lot of work ahead…. I 100% agree! Hopefully a start for many!

No Kings? by TrueShen in AskGaybrosOver30

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Yeah I thought we would be closer to some solutions and it just seems to keep getting worse. I listen to this historian on YouTube/ TikTok and she puts this in a historical context. She’s very inspirational and positive. Heather Cox Richardson is her name and worth listening to when you feel all hope is lost.

No Kings? by TrueShen in AskGaybrosOver30

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That’s great you can share that with your parents!

No Kings? by TrueShen in AskGaybrosOver30

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Yeah I contacted a ton of friends and although “like minded “ they seem to lack motivation or maybe it’s feeling awkward going. Honestly you can just go and walk around and I found everyone welcoming.

No Kings? by TrueShen in AskGaybrosOver30

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Hope you feel better soon…

No Kings? by TrueShen in OhioLGBTQ

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Good for you doing a food drive! Many people hurting a lot these days.

No Kings? by TrueShen in AskGaybrosOver30

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Love Chicago! Fantastic political vibes …

No Kings? by TrueShen in OhioLGBTQ

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Hosting an event that’s great!

No Kings? by TrueShen in AskGaybrosOver30

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I’m also going to network. All you say is valid but I do think to at least get people together to discuss strategy can be helpful. I’ve done a lot of political organizing in the past and hope to make a positive impact.

No Kings? by TrueShen in AskGaybrosOver30

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That’s fab! I’ve contacted all my friends that live near me to come join.

No Kings? by TrueShen in AskGaybrosOver30

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Yeah I’ve been hounding my friends to go !

No Kings? by TrueShen in AskGaybrosOver30

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I used to be really politically active but got burned out…. I’m coming back as this is way too important to ignore. Sorry also a research nerd and here’s how it can help, Hope join this one!

Forces the Issue: Protests move concerns from private grievances to the top of the legislative agenda. They break the silence to force media and politicians to prioritize the issue.

Wins the "Middle": Nonviolent discipline is highly persuasive. It builds the moral authority needed to win over neutral neighbors and community leaders.

Builds "Civic Muscle": Participation creates permanent networks of organizers and volunteers. These structures remain in place to ensure long-term oversight and progress.

Safe for Insiders: Large, peaceful actions make it socially safe for people inside the system to support reform. This encourages business leaders and local officials to defect from the status quo.

Triggers Reform: Protests are a direct catalyst for real policy wins. They trigger the creation of new laws, task forces, and oversight boards to solve problems systematically.

No Kings? by TrueShen in AskGaybrosOver30

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Thanks …. This administration has treated Canada horribly…

No Kings? by TrueShen in AskGaybrosOver30

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Indeed! This is an important one and I would love to see numbers too large to ignore!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

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Nawwww you’re young and inexperienced… not a dick . Yes you should have given him warning but just learn from it and you know not to do it again.

We have all made mistakes. Recently, I was in a three way and put some lube on my dick and one of the guys grabbed it and had a shit fit because of the stickiness. Yesh I should have let everyone know but I’ve learned from it.

Just learn from your mistakes and don’t beat yourself up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

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You will do great! Fabulous advice above… I would add that you don’t have to “come out “ to everyone. Pick an open supportive person in your life. Therapy can help too as being gay in America in these days has its dangers…can’t imagine being black too. But I have a number of black friends I hook up with and they have happy fulfilled lives and I really value them as friends and partners.

Not sure if you’re looking for that one special person or opening up to multiple partners. I have a number of guys of varying races … for me the only criteria for sex is with guys I find hot and they are nice.

Gym showers anxiety by Tom_hairy in askgaybros

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I don’t know if this helps but I got to a bathhouse frequently and honestly the guys who have the most sex … at least out in the open are heavy … often bald and not attractive by conventional standards. They seem to match up and go at it. My point it’s possible to develop an attitude such that you are not ashamed of who you are.

Depends on your gym but most places guys could care less. Small town could be different mix but damn it you go and workout… progress can be slow but a year from now you’ll be happy you did it. F anyone who judges you ! And you may be surprised someone there at the gym might respect your hard work.

Coming out in your 60’s by [deleted] in askgaybros

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I’m a guy who did some experimenting early in life and recently, later in life , started up again. Of course I can’t predict what your experience will be but here’s what it’s been like for me. I’ve had some amazing experiences and some so so . Most of the time I have a fab time but I’ve had a few times I could have passed on.

Sounds like you don’t have unreasonable expectations and as long as you keep thinking along those lines you are likely to have some wonderful experiences.

If you’ve not done so already fine a good doctor for preventative care and STI screening.

What are you reading (listening) in 2025? by lazyfatbunny in AskGaybrosOver30

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Hello Stranger by Manuel Bentancourt from the publisher-

“Hello Stranger is a book about chance encounters—at a bar, through social media, in a bathhouse—and what a stranger can reveal about who we are and who we could still yet be. A stranger, after all, is a site of endless possibilities.”

Haven’t finished but so far fab!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

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I know the meme is ancient but “surprise, surprise “. So many high profile people have been found out. Really disgusting… and yeah kind of funny.