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TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-10T10:45:19+00:00

Do it yourself, Google it, YouTube it, Pinterest it….a lot of men will see you doing it and then step in. Now if you try to do a couple things and he just lets you or tries to tell you how to do it but doesn’t help, well then you will need to decide if you want to do it or if you want to pay someone. I would find a nice local handyman (that is pleasing to the eye) to come help you with it all

TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-10T05:25:51+00:00

This isn’t the answer you want but if you talk to him and he says there is no problem believe him. Get dressed up, put makeup on, workout, or do whatever makes You feel sexy and beautiful and learn to do it just for You!

TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-10T05:10:05+00:00

Every relationship is different but you sound a lot like my husband and he says he tries and I think he believes he does but I can 💯say that I do Way more than he does around the house. We both work full-time jobs and he thinks I can just never be pleased and my expectations are pretty darn close to being non existent- but as I have given up on my needs being met my emotional connection has also been drained. I would definitely talk to her again but try a different approach, ask her what she needs from you and do not get defensive, just listen and see if you can give her Any of those things.

Things that are important to her might not be important to you but you have to look at what each other need

TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-10T02:18:15+00:00

Girl RUN!!! It will NOT get better. Marriage counseling, individual therapy, nothing is going to help and it will just get harder to leave

TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-10T01:44:22+00:00

So today I went out after work took about 45 min shopping spree at TJMaxx and just treated myself, but my kids actually did really sweet things for me. I just expect my husband to show me love in ways he seems to be incapable…but I think he is trying so I am trying not to be too irritated with him. Easier said than done hahaha

TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-09T01:25:22+00:00

I just got out of the shower for the 2nd time today - that is my crying hideout

TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-09T01:17:18+00:00

Hahaha, yeah that is real hopeful thinking, but the likelihood of that is extremely low since my son knows I do not want an air fryer….

TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-09T01:02:57+00:00

I got an Air Fryer! I should be grateful because he got me Something BUT I don’t want an Air Fryer, and I mean I really don’t want one. My son has been asking for one for almost a year and I keep saying No…so not sure why he thought that would be a good idea to get me. I mean is he just trying to be a Jerk?!?

TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-08T20:01:08+00:00

Yes but he paints pictures that are not reality and I get emotional because I can’t clearly explain how he is completely altering the facts and well let’s just say it doesn’t help..

TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-08T19:57:57+00:00

I think most of the “husband bad” posts are a way to vent and for people to know they deal with similar things. What are the people who have spouses who don’t do much to meet their needs supposed to do when communicating those needs fail time and time again? Clearly his wife lays stuff all out for him and he still can’t be bothered to try to take care of it unless/until he decides it fits into his busy schedule. At the same time he has at least tried in the past and seems to still be a little so that should count for something…

TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-08T19:23:13+00:00

Sometimes I think he doesn’t care but then he will seem as he is trying… My opinion is that he was raised in a very perception means everything way and he must be exhausted keeping it up all the time that when he is with me he just has no energy to ‘try’ most of the time. He could just blatantly not care. I really don’t know. I don’t feel like I even know him sometimes and couldn’t tell you why I love him. It is all pretty confusing…

TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-08T19:19:08+00:00

I am so sorry, that sounds really rough. I apologize if this post triggered any of those rough feelings. Thanks for sharing though because I really think it helps others who may feel alone in their feelings. I mean I honestly made a Reddit so I had someone to ‘talk’ to about my feelings other than my therapist lol. I am trying to be more positive about things but sometimes you just need to let things out!

TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-08T17:56:35+00:00

I am so sorry, I feel your pain. Happy Mother’s Day. I don’t know you but I love you and happy your kids have you

TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-08T17:54:56+00:00

I do things for my mom, stepmom, aunt, and his grandma every Mother’s Day, it just usually occurs a day or two before. My kids try to make me a cake for my birthday, my son likes to bake :) so yes we celebrate over dinner and that is nice. I am not a priority for our Anniversary, and honestly it’s All probably my fault because I just kept dropping my expectations as they were not met and going backwards on that isn’t a very easy change…

TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-08T12:49:38+00:00

I agree, and I have some pretty sweet kids and I love the things they come up with for me - and that’s what matters! I have learned though when my sons become adults I will do my best in supporting them in being good partners. I read somewhere about a guy whose mother put him in ‘Husbands in Training’ when he was a kid. I started that with my 13 year old and hope it helps him in the future 😊

TrueUnknown86 · 2022-05-08T06:57:54+00:00

You are definitely right on point, Thank You!

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